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Those who say that its 'tough at the top' are those who never had to climb there. As it is the heart-breakers not the heart achers that will say "Oh just move on."
But those who are afraid of heights will never know life at the top & those who hold on to their pain will never know joy.

So my poor wounded friends out there take it from a survivor, a 'been there' brother. JUST TURN UP THE MUSIC & DANCE, DANCE, DANCE "ROCK ON & MAKE IT GROOVY BANANAS!"

I've never been one to use dating sites; never thought that I even would use one. But the fact of the matter is it has been a long time since I've been on date and whatever I've been doing hasn't been working. I've had a few online relationships, both good and bad, but I've grown to not rely on computers too much. A bit hypocritical now I guess, but I'm just out of ideas.

My first relationship with a girl was in high school, with the usual awkward teen habits and heartbreaks. During which school was becoming serious with the workload, the studies, and my job; so when things inevitably went south I just buried myself in my work. Then when I went to collage things were different; no cliches, no popular kids, no reputations. But everyone was paired up, high school sweethearts and the like and again I just focused elsewhere.

Before I knew it, 10 years had passed and I still carry that awkward teenage self around with me, growing more depressed and thinking maybe I just wasn't good enough for anyone. But I could never get my friends and family to stop being nice to me and keep telling me how great I was and you usual 'hang in there' comments. So, as cynical as I became, I thought it best to get out there before I really screwed myself up.

I know my reasons for dating, though; not for physical connection alone but to grow as a person, the opportunity to get to know someone who challenges me and brings out the best in me that I never saw. Someone I can become fascinated with and makes the world seem more surprising and wonderful. That may sound corny but it's really how I feel. I'm a hopeless romantic: I believe in surprise flowers, chocolates, opening the door, and maybe a grand declaration of love (if I can get pass being so awkward). A woman should be treated like a queen because, let's face it, guys don't have much going for themselves.

So I've been on website just over 6 months and unfortunately haven't had any luck with any of women from my country, the fact they seem to never respond to my messages doesn't help!

I'd like to think of myself as confident, outgoing, funny, energetic and above average looking guy(I hope) and I go out as much as possible in the hope of finding someone from the opposite sex to connect with and in the next couple of months I'll be reaching the lovely age of 30, yikes! and I still haven't found a meaningful relationship to show for it.

I keep on trying but I always seem to being a brick wall, they say more you try the easier it gets, but to be honest I am tired of all the disappointments, rejections and excuses. I really hate the idea that I have no control over my life, but sometimes I feel that my destiny written for me already and if there's a God he's just taking the piss out of my love life.

Anybody else feels the same way?