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You know you are getting old when almost everyone you knew while you were in high school is dead.

I dated my HS sweetheart from age 14 tilll I was almost 21. We got along real good. Her name was Frances. We talked about marriage after she got her own place, and although we didn't do that, neither one of us was terrified of the idea and if things had gone a little different who knows. Anyway after I joined the Army she got jealous of that and joined the US Air Force and became an electronics technician for the fighters and bombers. I visited her at Nellis back in 75 and we had a stupid argument over her dating someone else and sadly we broke up. We went on with our lives and in 77 her brother told me she had married the same guy. Oh well. Later on I got married to someone too.
When my future wife and I got engaged she put all my old papers from the 80s and 70s in boxes and when we moved from her house to mine she stuffed the boxes in the attic here. She died over a decade ago (blood cancer) and I didn't bother the boxes that held both her old stuff and mine. Until yesterday. I decided to take a look at them and while going through one, along with a bunch of stuff I hadn't seen in decades I found about 20 pictures of Frances and me.
I decided she might like to have some pictures of herself as a teenager and youngster so I dusted off my PC to track her down online. Should be easy I thought. I knew her birthday and even had her Social Security Number because with the photos was the paper she had written it down on in case she lost the card they gave her the day we went to the Social Security Office and they gave her her card. Well I was right. I found her.
My HS sweetheart died in the first Covid wave on April 21, 2020 in the hospital in Joliet, IL. She was one of about 30 who died there that month.She was still married to the same man. I tried reaching out to her brother or sister but I find no trace of them online after 1980. So I will mail my condolences to her husband (I found their address and phone of course) along with some photos of his wife he may wish to have. If they had children (which I couldn't really tell online) maybe they might like to see their mom when she is young.
I will always miss you Frances. I wish I had looked in the box a few years ago and had time to get the photos to you while you were still alive. I was an a** and you were the best.
Around Spring 1974 in her place


Winter 73 Getting ready to do a little painting


Home from airman Basic training at Rantoul AFB early 1975 soon to go off to Las Vegas and Nellis AFB for specialty training. I was so proud for her.


Miss you Franny. Hope there is an afterlife and we will meet again.

Let's say for example, somebody falls in love with a person who smokes cigarettes.

However, the person who fell in love with the smoker does not like the fact that they smoke.

On the other hand, the smoker likes to smoke and does not want to quit.

But, the person who fell in love with them will not give up on the encouragement that they quit smoking.

Therefore my question....where does the line become blurred between love and controlling?


Of course...smoking is only one example...

It could be,

eating habits
friends one hangs out with
seeing family members
money spending habits
driving behavior
...the list goes on



"encouraging" was a moderate and somewhat innocent word to use...of course everyone's interpretation of that encouragement might be different...that includes receiving that "encouragement" and administering it. One could interpret encouragement as just that...encouragement. Whereas, another may interpret that same "encouragement" as nagging, complaining, or even threatening. It boils down to how one interprets it.

why are we still single.i need to have someone local and you.white lady who live in usa or donot bother.
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What is that thing without which, love is incomplete?

love is incomplete without respect.
And respect is incomplete without trust.
And trust is incomplete without Virtues.

If partners have respect for each other, then there will be complete love. Without respect, it is just a physical attraction and it is temporary.
Respect is for virtues that are lasting.
When the respect between the partner ends, then understand that the love has also ended.

If you want to save love, earn respect.
If you want to save respect, earn trust.
If you want to save trust, increase and maintain your qualities.

My idea of a perfect Christmas
Is to spend it with you
In a party
Or dinner for two
Anywhere would do
Celebrating the yuletide season
Always lights up our lives
Simple pleasures are made special too
When they're shared with you

Can we use Art of War for love and relationship? Recently I have studied it as Art of War is common sense in our culture. I have never really looking into it. It is fun reading. I don't understand why in the past people like to have wars. Men and Women are also like Art of War. When a man and woman met, what are the chance they could fall in love? In the past, I have never hidden who I am or how I feel. I thought the world would be like before I was single. Now I not only burn my brain for my work but also need to more energy in the world today. Men are like hunter in the past if I have my photo shown on profile, I will have lots of hunters going after me. Hidden what I am is part of Art of War. Only someone like "The sound of desert" could touch my heart. I have not met anyone can touch my heart yet. I wonder if I have no longer feel or just I am tired of the world full of lairs and players that on and off in my life. Coming back the unknown world and I am not sure if I ever meet that person again. I am really tired so maybe study Art of War would be the best time for me. Let the war begin.

Sometimes we thought we knew what we want. I heard other widows that maybe the first year they wanted to try new relationship. As time goes by, they no longer feel needed. I am not sure as for me mixed with western and eastern culture. Somehow I feel like I want to have someone to protect me like my husband. Since he is gone, I have learned to be independent again. I asked myself what I am looking. A millionaire as financial security or a good looking guy as wealthy somehow those are all materialist. How about spiritual? Someone told me that I am a challenger, it seems like men and women need to start with that chasing games. As 2 billions people in the world if using math, everyone should be able to find someone. Somehow the new world the chasing game has changed so much. We may need to wait for one month to find out if the other side of screen is real or even longer. It is unknown investment. Is it worthy? The sound of desert and what do I really want?

Today is that Day , when years ago , a Precious Ray of Light First time Appeared on this Earth ...

Wishing a Very Happy Birthday to You my Precious Light !!!
Wishing many many many Happy Returns of this Day ...

Seems like time is going faster an faster, been almost 3 years since my last post here.
I see a lot of new faces, some of the old buggers aswell.
Anyways, I've met my girl here december 2012, married her a few years later and she moved from Vietnam to belgium shortly after.
Next month my sweet wife will graduate here as a nurse, she already has a job waiting for her in the old folks home just around the corner. She has worked so hard to learn the language and I'm so proud of her.
We are still crazy about eachother and keep going strong. After she starts working we plan on starting a family, I really look forward to that. So that will be most likely the next time i'll drop in to leave a message.
Stay safe, take care of eachother. Know that Jenny and I are forever grateful to cs and all of you for having these blogs where we met. Don't give up hope. Someone is out there.

Well before I thought there is no love people just play with every one feeling
??The meet the a person handsome cute smile ever was also came out from a broken marriage we met in this dating 4years back. I was from Fiji and he
Was in Canada we both had the same Indian background from Fiji He Send me a email here and I did reply after two days was busy scene of my family from Canada at the airport I replied his email after two days and he was surprised and happy I was the first person he talk on this dating site I still remember I called him and Heard his voice and disconnect the line because I was scared and then I called him again and tell him that Hi it’s Sharon and we talked for hours the day he planned everything with me did he want to get settle down with me and I was just giving him hopes that yeah everything will happen one day and he was happy that he got to know me I never thought that I wanna meet a person in my life who will love me so much by just talking he never want to see any tears in my eyes and he promised me that he will never cry in your life and I believe you he showed me all his love and affection and spoiling me with so many gifts chocolates. And then I thought that is just a dream I’m living in and then after seven months my dad passed away he help me out in every race bring the funeral in the prayers One day I was sitting down I was so frustrated and so lonely and he called me and I was talking to him I start crying I told him I need you I wish you were there for me and he laughed ha ha ha ha and he told me I’ll get back to you after 30 minutes I said OK he called me after 30 minutes and tell me can you just pick some stuff up from my friend he’s coming to Fiji in two days I was upset that I wish it was him and I question him so much that I don’t want anything from there and I was upset again and he couldn’t see my upset face and then he told me that he listen to me carefully I am coming to Fiji to meet you in two days and I will be with you for 2 1/2 weeks are you happy I was in cloud nine and when he came to Fiji first time I saw him I was like wow who is that handsome guy I still remember our first hug first kiss and first everything These days will never come back when he was going back to Canada I cried the airport and he laughed at me He told me don’t worry I’ll be back to see you again in three months I was happy but again I was crying when he left I never thought that I gonna be so much close to someone in my life he came after four months Henny spent 1 months with me we had lovely times he propose me to be his forever and he went back everything was going so good we bought our anniversary gifts and everything for four years seven nothing he give me all the happiness he can he never wanted to see tears in my eyes but now I’m just full with tears in pain cause it’s six months I lost him he died due to stroke I wish I was there with him to hold his hand he’s in heaven I will never find someone like him someone who love me that much and care about me in every steps ??????????our live work never die I still remember two days before passing I asked him you have to fight for me and then he told me yes he closed his eyes he told me that he love me more than anything in the world That person has love me till his last breath and I would love him till my last breath sharavi