Another Chance (44)
Big_John: No. Whatever may have cause me to get away from her is probably something that I felt initially is a major issue. Most people can't change basic issues in their lives. In my opinion the issue would come back and cause you the same pain again.
I agree with you on this, John. I don't leave over minor issues.
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In response to: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
"It depends on the circumstances."
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Change comes from with in. I have changed by using control. I drank for many years. It caused me many problems. I have not taken a drink in 16 years. This is conrtol, the result is change in my behavior. If you really want to change then don't tell anyone you have changed keep it your secret. A person that tells you they have changed usally has not. The person that has changed, their behavior ( doesn't happen over night) will like the change in themselves. They will be in control of their actions. I like my change and won't regress but I know I have to stay in control or I could easily slip back into my old self.
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gooddogman: Change comes from with in. I have changed by using control. I drank for many years. It caused me many problems. I have not taken a drink in 16 years. This is conrtol, the result is change in my behavior. If you really want to change then don't tell anyone you have changed keep it your secret. A person that tells you they have changed usally has not. The person that has changed, their behavior ( doesn't happen over night) will like the change in themselves. They will be in control of their actions. I like my change and won't regress but I know I have to stay in control or I could easily slip back into my old self.
Kudos!
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
It would All depend on what they did in the first place.
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Congratulations. If you've read my posts you'll know that I lived with someone who drank too much. I know how difficult it must have been for you.
If you've read my posts you'll know that I lived with someone who drank too much. I know how difficult it must have been for you.hopefloats: Kudos!
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druidess6308: I agree with you on this, John. I don't leave over minor issues.
Minor issues just cause emotions, conflicts, minor discussions that can be worked out. If I left over something I couldn't believe I would ever come back. No second chances. Sorry. Life is too short to deal with it.
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Sommerauer71: Depends what they had done for us to split up.
Words are great. Actions that back up the words are important to me.
Words are great. Actions that back up the words are important to me.
Yes me too...words don't mean much without the actions behind them...
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
I do believe in second chances...and sometimes a third chance, depends really on a lot of things. I also believe in not giving that second chance depending on what was done.
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petalbabe: I agree. Depends a bit what the initial "crime" was, but we none of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes, bla bla..
I try not to be too quick to judge someone, and would certainly be happy to give someone a second chance. Actions speak louder than words, though..
I try not to be too quick to judge someone, and would certainly be happy to give someone a second chance. Actions speak louder than words, though..
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Big_John: Minor issues just cause emotions, conflicts, minor discussions that can be worked out. If I left over something I couldn't believe I would ever come back. No second chances. Sorry. Life is too short to deal with it.
Exactly.
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
Even if he came beggin....the answer would aaaabsolutely be
NO
carried on now....no time for nonsense
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no thanks!! the first time shame on you but the second shame on me for letting it happen.
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maverick36: no thanks!! the first time shame on you but the second shame on me for letting it happen.
WORD!!!! I second that emotion. I wouldn't take them back because they lied to me in the first place! Once a liar always a liar.
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
Nope.
But I would wish her better luck with her next relation.
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StressFree: I do believe in second chances...and sometimes a third chance, depends really on a lot of things. I also believe in not giving that second chance depending on what was done.
Ditto! Some deserve a second chance and some don't. It all depends on a lot of things.
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
I did one time.
I would say No to any of my current ex'es.
Heaven forbid I have a future ex, I have no idea if I would or not, but chances are no I wouldn't.
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depends on what is "changed" and how many times they have said it in the past.
If a woman cheated on me, then said she has changed and would never do it again, NO. If she was happy with me to begin with, she wouldn't have cheated. So it's only a matter of time before she starts looking for someone else to make her happy!
If a woman cheated on me, then said she has changed and would never do it again, NO. If she was happy with me to begin with, she wouldn't have cheated. So it's only a matter of time before she starts looking for someone else to make her happy!
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snugglysenior: If he or she said "I've changed" would you take them them back?
Oh, that is a good thread!.. I have taken my ex(s) back numerous times, after they said they had changed.. They can only change if they want to.. Usually, when they say they changed, to get back with you, it's because they think that is what u want to hear and that's how they get back in your life... But, "no" - I don't believe they do change, maybe just for the moment, but that's it.
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Well, I've tried that one before. Needless to say after giving the benefit of the doubt, I regretted giving them another chance.