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sweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 PostsWhat would you do if you found out that one of your close relatives was stealing money from another close, invalid relative?
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i wouldnt tell the invalid relative i dont think, i'd try to deal with it myself, curb the upset. however if the relative in question has been particularly worried that money has been going missing, i would tell them to put their mind at ease and sort it from there. you need to figure out why they were stealing it, perhaps they're in trouble? or just greedy and a bit callous...
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sweetowen: What would you do if you found out that one of your close relatives was stealing money from another close, invalid relative?
Set up a hidden camera and try to catch him/her in the act, then go to police with the evidence
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sweetowen: What would you do if you found out that one of your close relatives was stealing money from another close, invalid relative?
very bad work,i will try to teach him that donot this forever and i will try to save an other one------ This thread is Archived ------
tell them that you know and try to find out why, if it is a financial reason and they have a problem try to help them solve it the right way, and look at ways for them to return the money.If they will not try to put it right, i would tell the person they are taking it from as a last resort and i could prove it without the shadow of a doubt
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GalwayGirl89: i wouldnt tell the invalid relative i dont think, i'd try to deal with it myself, curb the upset. however if the relative in question has been particularly worried that money has been going missing, i would tell them to put their mind at ease and sort it from there. you need to figure out why they were stealing it, perhaps they're in trouble? or just greedy and a bit callous...
Actually, they're very broke. And now they're resorting to anything to obtain cash... everything but getting a job. Actually, it's a couple.
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
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Oh dear, that is tough. I can imagine how hard it is on you.
I would get together with the rest of the family and talk it through. Then maybe confront the one who is stealing. You can't carry the burden all by yourself and besides you don't want others to think that it was maybe you who was stealing. It tells you a lot about the character of your relative as well...who else is s/he taking advantage of and how to trust that person for the future. The other thought is that maybe s/he is doing the same thing to the other family members. You can let that happen.
Good luck to you.
I would get together with the rest of the family and talk it through. Then maybe confront the one who is stealing. You can't carry the burden all by yourself and besides you don't want others to think that it was maybe you who was stealing. It tells you a lot about the character of your relative as well...who else is s/he taking advantage of and how to trust that person for the future. The other thought is that maybe s/he is doing the same thing to the other family members. You can let that happen.
Good luck to you.
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The second last sentence was supposed to say...You can't let that happen,lol. Sorry.
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sweetowen: What would you do if you found out that one of your close relatives was stealing money from another close, invalid relative?
I would go to another close relative and ask their advice and then try and ascertain why they are stealing money (greed or is this person in trouble?) and then try and gather proof. Its not a good idea to confront someone without concrete proof. Then I would confront them and threaten to report it unless he or she owns up.
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sweetowen: Actually, they're very broke. And now they're resorting to anything to obtain cash... everything but getting a job. Actually, it's a couple.
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
If they don't stop i don't think you have much choice, knowing you will go to the authorities may make them think twice about getting nasty if you mean violence, they know that will only make it worse And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
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If you have proof, confront them with it. If you don't feel comfortable doing that then enlist the help of someone you can trust to do it. If you don't have proof, but you suspect that confrontation would make it stop, then you could probably go that route if you know that it's happening.
I don't envy you.. the fact that it's close relatives involved would make it extra difficult... Like someone else mentioned, maybe they are in trouble. Not a good excuse, but more reason to get involved perhaps?
I don't envy you.. the fact that it's close relatives involved would make it extra difficult... Like someone else mentioned, maybe they are in trouble. Not a good excuse, but more reason to get involved perhaps?
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sweetowen: Actually, they're very broke. And now they're resorting to anything to obtain cash... everything but getting a job. Actually, it's a couple.
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
If they are unreasonable people to deal with, then in my opinion, you have no choice but to bring in the authorities. But if you feel if there is any way, no matter how small the chance, of handling it in house, that would be my advice.
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DUBLINGUY1973: I would go to another close relative and ask their advice and then try and ascertain why they are stealing money (greed or is this person in trouble?) and then try and gather proof. Its not a good idea to confront someone without concrete proof. Then I would confront them and threaten to report it unless he or she owns up.
When he told me, I asked the nurses at the home who's been visiting him. They told me that one was coming in very often. And I KNOW they're not just being friendly. They NEVER visit him! Nobody does but me.
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sweetowen: Actually, they're very broke. And now they're resorting to anything to obtain cash... everything but getting a job. Actually, it's a couple.
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
And the invalid relative was the one who let me know it was happening. I don't want to bring authorities in, if I can help it. But I will if it doesn't stop.
I'm thinking of threatening with that possibility. But the thieves will go for my jugular. They get NASTY!!!
Thats why i think you need back up. I'd go to another close relative and ask for help. Safety in numbers
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get a baseball bat and break their fingers they will think twice believe me ,I HATE LIARS LET ALONE thieves
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You need to ask yourself, what is the relationship between the two relatives. Are we talking bank accounts? I have seen behavior that makes me question relationships. I have a sister and brother that have always been takers. They are so use to taking from others they don't think anything about it. Maybe your invalid relative allows this for shopping and bill paying.
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sweetowen: When he told me, I asked the nurses at the home who's been visiting him. They told me that one was coming in very often. And I KNOW they're not just being friendly. They NEVER visit him! Nobody does but me.
And are you sure its not one of the nursing staff or another patient that is stealing?
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I had this exact thing happen. I confronted the thief and told them I knew of their theft. They said they didn't have any money and needed what they took. Being a man I handled much differently than a lady would. I first told them to get a J.O.B. and earn their keep. Then I told them if it EVER happened again I would take issues into my own hands and they wouldn't like the accommodations at the local hospital. Or words to that effect.
As far as I know it never happened to them again.
As far as I know it never happened to them again.
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sweetowen: When he told me, I asked the nurses at the home who's been visiting him. They told me that one was coming in very often. And I KNOW they're not just being friendly. They NEVER visit him! Nobody does but me.
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morgan5: You could ask the home to keep his money in the office, and give it to him as he needs it
What happens is he gets cash out of his patient funds account for spending. The relative comes in & takes it out of his wallet.
What I've told him to do for now is to only leave a MINIMUM amount in his wallet & hide the rest somewhere in his room. Once the thief sees that he's not carrying much money, perhaps he'll just stop.
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