Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable? (137)

the trouble is half of cs is lying about somthing and its dam annoying when all you want to do is trust someone, you shouldnt have to be on guard all the time.

An out and out lie that will cause hurt and devastation is never acceptable, hello you.

I would not be devastated about a person who lied on a profile about their age, if I ask that person to explain to me why they did that and I found their reason acceptable then I would be happy.

PPV announced in his profile that he had five camels up for a father whose daughter he could date?

To date, those camels have never arrived at my father's doorstep.

I am using perhaps bad examples and taking the mickey a bit, but I fail to look too deep into a situation that means that this woman is not happy within herself that she had to lie, and all sorts of assumptions are made.

I saw - A woamn told me she was 38 and she is really 45.

FM is not 72, it does not make him a person with problems and a liar.

That is where I am coming from and misleading information can soon be cleared up.

Lying in a relationship is wrong, yet if we look at lies and really go deeper with this, we lie to our children that Santa Claus exists and the tooth fairy. We make up fairy stories, we write jokes that have never happened.

Those boundaries are acceptable for me, lies and dishonestly with malicious intent are not acceptable. In any form.

That is my view on the topic in hand.

No I really didn't mean it seriously since mine really is hidden, it was a kind of half-joke. But it's sad and strange that people feel a need to do these things, really makes me want to hide away from the world... on the other hand there are decent people too

I think that in order to have gotten your point about people "lying" about their age one would have had to read what your wrote quite carefully. Perhaps it wasn't so obviuos to everyone that you talked about people who joke about their age. I think that sort of joke is quite obvious though. But if someone takes off ten years of their real age it really doesn't sound like a joke. It simply sounds stupid. I can't personally think of a single thing I would ever have lied about that was NOT a joke... I don't see the point. But of course that doesn't guarantee that I'm a saint in all other ways too LOL.

it don't ..

so far I found out today .. santa ain't real .. you ain't a saint .. and .. I'm not perfect ... bad bad day ..

Hi symbol.

This is often the problem and I have been guilty of it too, that people do not read carefully.

Maybe it was not so obvious, but I did use an example that could have been checked very easily.

But what gets to me, is the 'I never lie about anything' and condeming a person who has lied about their age.

It could have been a simple mistake, my point is now very clear in that we all have lied about something in our existence, there is a difference to me, in a harmless situation where a person lies about something and it can be cleared up than a lie that is with malicious intent.

Lying about ones age is pretty pointless to me, especially on entry to a new relationship, again, if you are hoping to find the one person and it lasts forever, then having to fess up about that lie is pretty much evident and the longer it went on the harder it is going to be.

That is wrong, because then that is misleading a person and that is never right, then the subject of whether it is acceptable from my point of view would change, because then it is not the fact that they have lied about their age, it would be deeper and the attempt to deceive me would be very much raised and questioned.

If perfect dream has been in this relationship for months and has found out by accident then only he can decide if is acceptable, it would not be to me. But if it is a person who I was meeting for the first time, then it would be something that I would clear up fairly quickly and be done with it.

I do not see the point in falsehoods, but I am not going to condemn a person and label them with titles because of a couple of sentences.

My point of view only and up for question should anybody wish to discuss. Not up for changing and altering to suit themselves.

Well, at least you only have one profile to post all that information on.

What I have found out about myself from other people here, I would need at least 22 profiles to fit it all in.

You're not perfect? I have never seen a person tell you that guiri. That you are not perfect, tell me who said that and I'll have a word.

I get your point and I made a similar one some 10-20 pages further down the line, however this to me sounds condemning:
"But what gets to me, is the 'I never lie about anything' and condeming a person who has lied about their age." I don't understand what grounds you have to make this sort of assumption. Surely people who don't like to lie would not particularly like the idea of other people lying either?

Well nothing I said was meant to refer to you in any way... just so you know Imperfection is what makes the world go round, keeps us on our toes and gives us something to bicker about.