Would you marry for....................... (81)
Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Postslets face it folks ... we all would do WHAT EVER it takes to survive.. and have a better life...
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Sojourner: I,personally, would not marry to move to another country, but for me, because of my profession, I can move just about anywhere I want. I believe in making your dreams come true on your own, not through someone else. So, I would never use someone else to make my dreams come true.
As well, I cannot imagine marrying anyone for anything other than love. Some people do, for money, for convenience, for other reasons maybe...sometimes just to not be alone. Do I censure someone for doing that? Well, every case is different, and frankly, unless they are obviously hurting someone, someone who is not able to take care of themselves (i.e., not able to tell they are being used), then I think it is not my business.
As well, I cannot imagine marrying anyone for anything other than love. Some people do, for money, for convenience, for other reasons maybe...sometimes just to not be alone. Do I censure someone for doing that? Well, every case is different, and frankly, unless they are obviously hurting someone, someone who is not able to take care of themselves (i.e., not able to tell they are being used), then I think it is not my business.
I wish more women thought like you!!
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Boban1: lets face it folks ... we all would do WHAT EVER it takes to survive.. and have a better life...
Yes thats an honest answer
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Boban1: lets face it folks ... we all would do WHAT EVER it takes to survive.. and have a better life...
I have no problem with that, just don't do it via someone else expense!! Especially in a deceitful and dishonest way!!
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rubendario: I have no problem with that, just don't do it via someone else expense!! Especially in a deceitful and dishonest way!!
the instinct for surviver is very strong in people (some say that we don`t have it)
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rubendario: I have no problem with that, just don't do it via someone else expense!! Especially in a deceitful and dishonest way!!
Sorry, I was not suggesting deception
My point was that some people look for a better life, though possible marriage, I don't find that a wrong thought, as long as love is still a part of the relationship,of course if someone marries just to get a green card and then leaves the moment they have it, thats very wrong, but, in arranged marriages for example, those couples nearly always grow to have deep and true love, plus the families get what they also were seeking.
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They say that love conquers all rizlared so unless i was in that position i cant say what i would do..but...I have said that I would only marry for love..
rizlared: But if the guy that found you and fell in love with you did so only because initially he was seeking to move from say Malta to Scotland, would that tarnish his love or cause you to not love him, when if he lived two miles away and you met the love would have been mutual?
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Boban1: lets face it folks ... we all would do WHAT EVER it takes to survive.. and have a better life...
yes i agree u boban,easier to say than do tho...but we carry on the routin for now
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goodfriend: They say that love conquers all rizlared so unless i was in that position i cant say what i would do..but...I have said that I would only marry for love..
I think if we analyze why we want to be with someone,it comes down to sharing, companionship and how they make us feel, that would then trigger love, so really we are all looking for something in the hope that that will trigger the love we seek.
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Boban1: lets face it folks ... we all would do WHAT EVER it takes to survive.. and have a better life...
Good post Boban, completely agree 
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rizlared: I think if we analyze why we want to be with someone,it comes down to sharing, companionship and how they make us feel, that would then trigger love, so really we are all looking for something in the hope that that will trigger the love we seek.
I do think creating and maintaining a healthy relationship is difficult enough when two people are really into each other. For them to being together for less than a deep and abiding passion and love, I don't know how it can survive, at least happily. Some people stay together because it is better than being alone, they believe, or for other reasons, but not because being with that person is a joyful and loving experience. There are arranged marriages that fare quite well, if the partners work at it and develop love for one another, so not saying it can't work--but basically, you have to be on the same page.------ This thread is Archived ------
nah being married to someone you didnt love just to move would be worse than staying in the country u didnt like ...plus i just wouldnt do it....
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kanokwan: yes i agree u boban,easier to say than do tho...but we carry on the routin for now
routine????
does that mine that we are not gonna get married...
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No I would not.
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rizlared: I think if we analyze why we want to be with someone,it comes down to sharing, companionship and how they make us feel, that would then trigger love, so really we are all looking for something in the hope that that will trigger the love we seek.
The thing is rizlared im quite happy being on my own, i have been for over seven years, been on a few dates, met some nice folks but always glad to get home, the only way i can explain love for me is finding that someone that entices me away from being so set in my ways
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I'm in a rich country, don't need to marry to have a better life.
Now, if I was living in a poor country and there's no other solution to get a better life, i surely would. But that's just an hypothesis...
It's also a problem when you've receive mails for women from those countries, are they interested by you or by the place where you are. That's why I never answer to them. (well, those countries are blocked, I don't need to answer...)
Now I could find once of those girls in my country or in an European country and then, I really don't know what I could decide.
But if I marry someone, it will be because I love her.
Now, if I was living in a poor country and there's no other solution to get a better life, i surely would. But that's just an hypothesis...
It's also a problem when you've receive mails for women from those countries, are they interested by you or by the place where you are. That's why I never answer to them. (well, those countries are blocked, I don't need to answer...)
Now I could find once of those girls in my country or in an European country and then, I really don't know what I could decide.
But if I marry someone, it will be because I love her.
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Boban1: routine????
does that mine that we are not gonna get married...
Everything up in air in my life...but anything possible..I wait my lottery ticket,then we talk biz does that mine that we are not gonna get married...
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saseez: nah being married to someone you didnt love just to move would be worse than staying in the country u didnt like ...plus i just wouldnt do it....
Oh I totally agree with that.
What I am getting at is what motivates you to find love, and whether betterment is just as valid a motivation as companionship and/or sharing your life with a soul mate
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Well i think it depends... what u marry a reali good friend or someone that u had alot in common with. If they know that the love isn't quite there than its not deception. But the thing is alot of the time having a partner in life who is ur best friend can be a good thing.
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