Would you marry for....................... (81)
rizlared: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
How you YOU feel if you found that that a woman married you to change country?
Would you be okay with that?
I wouldn't.
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rizlared: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
I would never marry for any other reason than genuine love. But, then, I am not from a third world country. If it meant getting out of hell, I might.But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
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rizlared: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
I would never marry for any other reason than genuine love. But, then, I am not from a third world country. If it meant getting out of hell, I might.But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
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Grandepensees: How you YOU feel if you found that that a woman married you to change country?
Would you be okay with that?
I wouldn't.
Would you be okay with that?
I wouldn't.
That would depend of whether it was discussed prior to getting married, if it was,and I was told she was also in love with me, maybe it would not be at the top of my worry list
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In response to: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
You know, one side of my family are refugees and I remember the stories of extreme poverty, so I'm not going to sit here and condemn someone for marrying to get a better life.
Would I do it? Maybe. Fortunately I'm not in that situation where I would have to make such a choice, but never say never. Things can always get worse. Of course, by the time it became an issue I'd be so old, wrinkled up and ugly that no man would want me
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Sojourner: I would never marry for any other reason than genuine love. But, then, I am not from a third world country. If it meant getting out of hell, I might.
I was referring to someone from a better country rather than third world, I just wonder if the reasons behind finding love can be for betterment as opposed to say wanting a companion, surely the reason we are all looking is to find fulfillment, so just because someone is unhappy with their way of life, should that exclude them from wishing to marry someone who can take them away from that grief?
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rizlared: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
NO.
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goodfriend: NO.
So what motivates you to wanting a partner?
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So your are actually saying that there motive is wrong???
for wanting a better life
for wanting a better life
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rizlared: I was referring to someone from a better country rather than third world, I just wonder if the reasons behind finding love can be for betterment as opposed to say wanting a companion, surely the reason we are all looking is to find fulfillment, so just because someone is unhappy with their way of life, should that exclude them from wishing to marry someone who can take them away from that grief?
Each to their own... but personally, I have a good life... so if someone wants to marry me... I hope its for love.. not betterment for themselves.. but if betterment for either party comes about...because of love.. then
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rizlared: So what motivates you to wanting a partner?
Love would be my motivation rizlared, only that..
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Boban1: So your are actually saying that there motive is wrong???
for wanting a better life
for wanting a better life
No not me, my take is that we all want to be loved, how or why someone wants to love me is not so important, if it is for betterment or solely for love what does it matter, the outcome is the same.
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rizlared: But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
I was referring to someone from a better country rather than third world, I just wonder if the reasons behind finding love can be for betterment as opposed to say wanting a companion, surely the reason we are all looking is to find fulfillment, so just because someone is unhappy with their way of life, should that exclude them from wishing to marry someone who can take them away from that grief?
I was referring to someone from a better country rather than third world, I just wonder if the reasons behind finding love can be for betterment as opposed to say wanting a companion, surely the reason we are all looking is to find fulfillment, so just because someone is unhappy with their way of life, should that exclude them from wishing to marry someone who can take them away from that grief?
I,personally, would not marry to move to another country, but for me, because of my profession, I can move just about anywhere I want. I believe in making your dreams come true on your own, not through someone else. So, I would never use someone else to make my dreams come true.
As well, I cannot imagine marrying anyone for anything other than love. Some people do, for money, for convenience, for other reasons maybe...sometimes just to not be alone. Do I censure someone for doing that? Well, every case is different, and frankly, unless they are obviously hurting someone, someone who is not able to take care of themselves (i.e., not able to tell they are being used), then I think it is not my business.
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rizlared: But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
Not at all for me. Love would have to be the reason I would move, if even down the road from me.I would prefer to visit first, get to know her better and then possibly move if there was a connection and love between us.
I also agree with your saying; "I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one..."
If it were her wanting to change countries and move here, I'd still prefer we get to know each other better, first. Love has to be there.
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goodfriend: Love would be my motivation rizlared, only that..
But if the guy that found you and fell in love with you did so only because initially he was seeking to move from say Malta to Scotland, would that tarnish his love or cause you to not love him, when if he lived two miles away and you met the love would have been mutual?
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Sojourner: I,personally, would not marry to move to another country, but for me, because of my profession, I can move just about anywhere I want. I believe in making your dreams come true on your own, not through someone else. So, I would never use someone else to make my dreams come true.
As well, I cannot imagine marrying anyone for anything other than love. Some people do, for money, for convenience, for other reasons maybe...sometimes just to not be alone. Do I censure someone for doing that? Well, every case is different, and frankly, unless they are obviously hurting someone, someone who is not able to take care of themselves (i.e., not able to tell they are being used), then I think it is not my business.
I like your position.As well, I cannot imagine marrying anyone for anything other than love. Some people do, for money, for convenience, for other reasons maybe...sometimes just to not be alone. Do I censure someone for doing that? Well, every case is different, and frankly, unless they are obviously hurting someone, someone who is not able to take care of themselves (i.e., not able to tell they are being used), then I think it is not my business.
My answer would be no. But my country is a good place to be. So unless I really cared for the other person, I would not leave here.
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rizlared: We all know that there are many cases where people, from less well off countries, Asia for example, have tried to marry westerners in order to change countries, personally I have no problem with that as long as the marriage is still a loving one and I am sure there are many cases which have turned out fine.
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?
No, it's been done to me, and I would not do that to anyone, it's dishonest!!
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Raven0: I like your position.
My answer would be no. But my country is a good place to be. So unless I really cared for the other person, I would not leave here.
Good answer!! My answer would be no. But my country is a good place to be. So unless I really cared for the other person, I would not leave here.
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I understand some will do that because they think they will have a better and richer life. I feel a big compassion for ex. asians (like philipinas) who marry an uninteresting man 
at a very young age.
Western single guys like me (but I can only speak for myself now) who will move soon or late to another country (asian, latin america or african country) mostly want to start a business or life in the first place. Unless a compassionated friendship blossems up very heavyly- beginning here on CS
Who will know. 
at a very young age. Western single guys like me (but I can only speak for myself now) who will move soon or late to another country (asian, latin america or african country) mostly want to start a business or life in the first place. Unless a compassionated friendship blossems up very heavyly- beginning here on CS
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But would YOU marry in order to move to another country, rather than marry for genuine love, and just hope that love will then occur?