I am just curious for the "been around the block" folks on here...are you really interested in being "married" or do you just want to find a compatible partner to spend the rest of your days with
And I am not knocking marriage...I just want to know how important a part that plays at this stage of the game...
JonquillePeace is its own reward, Ontario Canada897 posts
I knew an older gentleman who developed heart disease and was placed on the transplant waiting list. His partner of over 30 years, who is also the mother of his 2 kids, suddenly expressed a wish to get married... her way of saying she would always be there for him, in sickness and in health. He was very emotional about it and it was a wonderful re-affirmation of their love. They kept the wedding small, just family and close friends, backyard BBQ and cold beer.
For myself, a good partnership would be enough, though I would consider marriage if it was important to my partner.
Okay to be honest with you, I took care of my parents most of my life. At the time, I could not put the burdens of my life on someone else and walked out of engagements without ever getting married. Now the parents are gone and I know I did the best I could for them. So yes, I am looking for that companion for the rest of my life. Yes, I want to get married. That is a so called piece of paper to some, but for me it is a binding contract to tell my future companion that I am making a solemn pledge to them and to god, that they are the one that I chose to hold those keys to my heart and soul in this lifetime and the next.
I love being in a committed relationship also like Soulmate. I also agree with Dreamer but I do believe you can have it all without the piece of paper that legally requires you to be "one".
Marriage as an institution is a form of government recognition. It is also an expression of deep love and a way to tell those in your world that you truly are committed. I would not need a marriage certificate to validate my love for someone, but I would marry if it pleased my loved one. Paws
Not your typical ceremony,and vows all of are own,you bet.Have never said "I do",and yes a piece of paper does not bind ones love,but for me I think it goes back to being a little girl,and well,is just one of those things on my list,saying I do too me means the ultimate committment,toghter forever,not just in this life,but a life there after as well,fairytale like maybe,but all little girls dream.
I had many a chances to marry the father of my children,and although I loved him,I was never really in love with him,and well he was not in my vision of holding hands in a rockr on the front poarch holding hands,I knew that the words I would have spoken would have been in false pretence,and thats not how I see it fit to be.
I agree with that as well...I dont believe I would follow the traditional marriage vows...but want to write our own. The life journey I have traveled does not fit into mere "I do"...so much learned now that I feel I would want included.
White dress? Fairytale? hmmmm maybe if he wanted those things...for me simple and fun would be nice...i already have most of my guest list made out LOL
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And I am not knocking marriage...I just want to know how important a part that plays at this stage of the game...