it goes for Man and Women......i think we fall for someone because: he smells good he smiles wonderfull he gives you Butterfly in your belly without realising it he has sparkling Eyes
and even so I m not Miss universe, i say when it does make *klick* it never has anything to do with how we look, more than how we acted that very moment we meet that person
jimmyl: nee probs riz, just cant be arsed! as for taking two! how bout prince charles? how bout pete andre? how bout oj simpsons wife? how bout any of henry the 8th wives?
aye, it always takes two long as your not the loser!
Well I can't really comment as I don't know both sides of these couples, but we were talking about wives being faithful,not murders, my point was that someone is unfaithful because something is not right within their own marriage. In both my marriages my wives cheated on me, now, after giving much thought, I can see that we had a problem, sadly, I didn't or couldn't see it at the time, or else maybe I would still be married to my first wife But, I have at least learnt to try in the future to spot when things are going wrong and hopefully bring back on track
Thanks for your interesting answer Jeraxle, some good points, but what I really want to know is there a 'trigger' something she does or says that makes you men think, OMG I'm in LOVE with this woman, rather than lust, like, etc.
Pixels1London, Greater London, England UK755 posts
sassysuzy: When I speak to my males friends about women, sometimes they say 'oh I was in love with her...', so what made this woman different? Why her and not the others? What is the 'trigger' that makes a man fall in 'love' with a certain woman and be able to just casually date others?
I truly believe the first thing that draws a man towards any given woman is physical attraction. Many other factors such as personality, sense of humor and intelligence are much more important in the long run than looks in determining whether or not a relationship grows between 'her' and I. But that initial phase, the first step that I takes towards falling in love, is based on a feeling of lustful attraction towards the woman. To me it is the initial chemistry and whether I feel the 'spark' when I see her.
So I fall in lust first; fall in like second; and, finally I fall in love some time later.
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
sassysuzy: When I speak to my males friends about women, sometimes they say 'oh I was in love with her...', so what made this woman different? Why her and not the others? What is the 'trigger' that makes a man fall in 'love' with a certain woman and be able to just casually date others?
It's that warm glow of a feeling you get when you are in her company. It's wanting to be with her all the time. Wanting be be close, to pull her into your chest and hold her tight, never to let go.
When you are not in her company you just can't stop thinking of her....... You see her smile, hear her voice, smell her perfume and feel her touch and that warm glow comes back again.
or not - perhaps take her for granted.....no one around here really knows me at all but because I am not from around here I find it difficult to meet people, but I am naturally very shy. And, I am also a little guilty of not giving the guys from around here half a chance.......that is something I need to work on.
Englishman55: It's that warm glow of a feeling you get when you are in her company. It's wanting to be with her all the time. Wanting be be close, to pull her into your chest and hold her tight, never to let go.
When you are not in her company you just can't stop thinking of her....... You see her smile, hear her voice, smell her perfume and feel her touch and that warm glow comes back again.
jimmyl: sorry riz but now your playing to the crowd! costa may not be everyones cup of tea, but trying to be mr itellectual isnt helping your cause! the guy may have been hurt and who are you to tell him which way to handle it?
jeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)10,968 posts
Englishman55: It's that warm glow of a feeling you get when you are in her company. It's wanting to be with her all the time. Wanting be be close, to pull her into your chest and hold her tight, never to let go.
When you are not in her company you just can't stop thinking of her....... You see her smile, hear her voice, smell her perfume and feel her touch and that warm glow comes back again.
And don't forget that everyone looks at you funny because you have this silly looking ear to ear grin on your face all the time ! And sometimes just busting out laughing when now one is around...
sassysuzy: When I speak to my males friends about women, sometimes they say 'oh I was in love with her...', so what made this woman different? Why her and not the others? What is the 'trigger' that makes a man fall in 'love' with a certain woman and be able to just casually date others?
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
jeepers: And don't forget that everyone looks at you funny because you have this silly looking ear to ear grin on your face all the time ! And sometimes just busting out laughing when now one is around...
sweetlyscented1Gosford, New South Wales Australia3,060 posts
Englishman55: It's that warm glow of a feeling you get when you are in her company. It's wanting to be with her all the time. Wanting be be close, to pull her into your chest and hold her tight, never to let go.
When you are not in her company you just can't stop thinking of her....... You see her smile, hear her voice, smell her perfume and feel her touch and that warm glow comes back again.
It's hard to describe the feeling in so few words, but I just know when I am in love when I get that feeling.
yes, I believe it is not so different for a woman,
And it is hard to describe exactly why you fall for one woman and not another. I've seen men fall for a woman who the less attractive of the two he's interested in. I've also been cast aside for local hoodies So I think there is something to be said for having a bit of background or history together - I think the men I was seeing at those times..............well one was worried that I wouldn't stay put (here in the area), the other got a local girl pregnant.
Neither had much of a backbone - so I'm probably better off the loser^there
What I want to know is when is my turn going to be!!!!!????
jeepers: And don't forget that everyone looks at you funny because you have this silly looking ear to ear grin on your face all the time ! And sometimes just busting out laughing when now one is around...
uh oh I'm in trouble then - I'm like that all the time anyway.....
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we fall for someone because:
he smells good
he smiles wonderfull
he gives you Butterfly in your belly without realising it
he has sparkling Eyes
and even so I m not Miss universe, i say when it does make *klick* it never has anything to do with how we look, more than how we acted that very moment we meet that person