Communication ( Archived) (82)

SoldierByte: Unlike some...
I am not a teacher, helper, educator, or
the overseer to "babysit" ANY one..
Trouble..??
Nope..!! It is neither my place or job to
try and decipher the meanings of what
"others" try to convey..
I'm just a member here..
playing, chatting, and voicing MY opinions..
SOME understand..
SOME do not...
I neither care or am concerned..
I assist when asked..
and am only able to give what I have/know..
Were I perfect....
The FIRST place I would not be...
is HERE..............!!!!!
---SoldierByte---

Liebe2: Oh, I am sorry, I guess I should leave this thread alone until people grow some sense of humour. I don't know what happened to you, but I hope you get well soon

rizlared: I am an English Professor, and so I have a natural love for the English language, but as a foreign teacher I fully understand the difficulties that non English speakers can have when posting. That said,because I take pride in my language and because I tend to write exactly what I would speak face to face, I often get accused of being pompous or snobbish, water off a ducks back to me, but I have noticed that these comments usually come from those who , lets say, appear, to be less well educated.
I don't believe I am confrontational, however, I will have my say when I see something that to my mind is wrong, I realise that my opinion is just that, MY opinion and that others will disagree, but enjoy a debate, debates though, should end up either by changing someone's original belief or agreeing to disagree, on CS, however, they seem to end up getting deleted and posters sent to Jail

davpk10: This is a tricky thing I think here.How often are we misunderstood in our posts? Seems to happen a lot and an arguement ensues. I do not beleive we intend for an arguement to start ,but we have all found ourselves in this I think.

I find it hard to think that we as a group want to argue (well maybe one or two)Now I am not talking about a good old heated debate..but a real arguement.

I think that some mid-eastern and eastern posters are misunderstood the most and I can understand this happening....But with the western cultures you would think it would be less.

Is it that cultures are just differant so we take posts differantly?....Do we not read the post the same way? ...Does the poster not express themselves well? (I feel this is my case alot) and does the reader of a post only take out of it as they wish to and not really try to think what it is the poster is saying and then post before really understanding the other poster?

Now the big questions.

As a group what can we do to lessen this from happening?

Do we as a group want to?

I am genuinely interested it all that wish to express how they feel.

Englishman55: Hi Dave,
Had such an instance only recently.....

Made one of my normal stupid/silly comments to a poster who was obviously upset, in an attempt to lighten the mood...... also sent a flower to try and cheer them up.

Got a rather sharp/curt e-mail back.

It did make me think that maybe I should have just kept my trap shut.............
Maybe I am just too full of myself, as was suggested, but I prefer to think of it as confidence !

All I was trying to do was help !

What will I do in the future ? ........... stay away from the forums.

DodgeBabe: Forum Lack of Communication comes down to several things, in my opinion:

1. Language Difficulty: When English is not someone's first language;

2. Differences in Culture and therefore Senses of Humor: There is no doubt that different cultures have varying senses of humor, and what is funny to one does not translate well to another;

3. Intent to Understand: Some posters I believe DELIBERATELY misunderstand a post, in order to start a conflict. Have seen it happen here, many times.

Of the above, I think that No.3 is the hardest to get around. Language, grammer and even a difference in sense of humour can be got around, either by Googling a word or phrase, or asking the person to explain more fully what they mean. However, if someone is of the DELIBERATE INTENT to pick at someone, there is nothing much anyone else can do.

In these cases, I will just ignore.