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Hmmmmm.... the general car things like checking all the fluid levels and knowing where to top things up if they are low. Tyres and such.
I've changed the cistern and regrouted the bathroom
G/friend and I built a little pergola out the back.
that sort of stuff ... I would never of done it if I hadnt been on my own and broke...
I've changed the cistern and regrouted the bathroom
G/friend and I built a little pergola out the back.
that sort of stuff ... I would never of done it if I hadnt been on my own and broke...
Now lets see? What do I do differently now, then when I was married or living in sin?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
Shell225: Hmmmmm.... the general car things like checking all the fluid levels and knowing where to top things up if they are low. Tyres and such.
I've changed the cistern and regrouted the bathroom
G/friend and I built a little pergola out the back.
that sort of stuff ... I would never of done it if I hadnt been on my own and broke...
I've changed the cistern and regrouted the bathroom
G/friend and I built a little pergola out the back.
that sort of stuff ... I would never of done it if I hadnt been on my own and broke...
Wow shell that's great
I'm so impressed with the bathroom and pergola thing 
I've never had a shot at building anything 
but I've found I do enjoy pottering around under the bonnet 
Blizzard14u: Now lets see? What do I do differently now, then when I was married or living in sin?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
You know, I hadn't thought about that but I'm soooo much better at handling the financial side of things on my own. The ex was a gambler and boozer so we never got anywhere
But now, I'm so organised and disciplined with bills and saving that life is much easier, even on one income
And congrats on the house purchase
Blizzard14u: Now lets see? What do I do differently now, then when I was married or living in sin?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
With a mechanical aptitude of 98% an ex baker pastry cook, so I actually taught two of my exes how to cook! The only thing I now do differently is handle the finance for me, now lets see? Yep debt free! But that will change soon as I just put a deposit on a house and land package, I had to save that little bit extra so I would have somewhere to park the boat,
I think I am better off single, who needs a $4000 trip to Bali when they can put a deposit on a boat and holiday every weekend?
WHOO HOO thats awesome ... congrats on the house and land
Shell225: WHOO HOO thats awesome ... congrats on the house and land
Yes, welcome to the hard reality of owning a house and having to maintain and repair and pay lots of rates etc, the list goes on......
but congrats,, least ya can say it is yours or part ownership with the bank
I do quite a bit of DIY but then I always have on my house, can use paintbrush, sander, hammer etc.
Did have to learn how to use the lawnmower & weedeater but under control now
Don't know who to maintain my car, just the basics but then again, i work with mechanics so they take care of it for me, any problems with it - I just drive into the workshop and make sure they look at it - they don't have a choice 
Know nothing about electrical so do have to do an electrican when required or just put it on the to be done one day list
I will give most things a go
Did have to learn how to use the lawnmower & weedeater but under control now
Don't know who to maintain my car, just the basics but then again, i work with mechanics so they take care of it for me, any problems with it - I just drive into the workshop and make sure they look at it
- they don't have a choice Know nothing about electrical so do have to do an electrican when required or just put it on the to be done one day list
I will give most things a go
Hi Serene, how have you been ? I have done everything from pull down and rebuild motors, dig fence post holes,lay plumbing, fine needlework and the list goes on.. I am most thankful to the men I have known including my father as they taught me that just about anything they can do I can do too.
Have a great weekend everyone
Have a great weekend everyone
A wise man once said! None of my attempts have been failures, as they have all led to the final successes of this project? I think there is a little truth in that for all of us? If we don’t try! We will never learn? no one ever has been born to be an expert? We learn by our mistakes!
Hey girls
What about us blokes...
Nobody expects a woman to know everything but we are expected to be capable of everything!
I seemed pretty silly as I did not have a clue how to:
1 Set up a bank account
2 Iron a quilt
3 Wash the curtains
4 OK for the ladies... Clean a toilet...LMFAO
The point is it's the simple niceties of life that catch me...
What about us blokes...
Nobody expects a woman to know everything but we are expected to be capable of everything!
I seemed pretty silly as I did not have a clue how to:
1 Set up a bank account
2 Iron a quilt
3 Wash the curtains
4 OK for the ladies... Clean a toilet...LMFAO
The point is it's the simple niceties of life that catch me...
annie_nsw: Hi Serene, how have you been ? I have done everything from pull down and rebuild motors, dig fence post holes,lay plumbing, fine needlework and the list goes on.. I am most thankful to the men I have known including my father as they taught me that just about anything they can do I can do too.
Have a great weekend everyone
Have a great weekend everyone
Off topic and not related to your post, but - what a lovely serene smile.
Wanderer69: Hey girls
What about us blokes...
Nobody expects a woman to know everything but we are expected to be capable of everything!
I seemed pretty silly as I did not have a clue how to:
1 Set up a bank account
2 Iron a quilt
3 Wash the curtains
4 OK for the ladies... Clean a toilet...LMFAO
The point is it's the simple niceties of life that catch me...
What about us blokes...
Nobody expects a woman to know everything but we are expected to be capable of everything!
I seemed pretty silly as I did not have a clue how to:
1 Set up a bank account
2 Iron a quilt
3 Wash the curtains
4 OK for the ladies... Clean a toilet...LMFAO
The point is it's the simple niceties of life that catch me...
Hi Wandererer
Yes, I agree, alot of guys have alot of learning to do after a split as sometimes, the woman in their life took care of all those normal daily chores.
As recall when I split a few years ago, my ex didn't have a clue about anything apart from going to work (did do that) and wasnt interested in doing any or helping apart from lawns, few dishes.
But all of a sudden when moving out, it was like, how do I get a house and how do I shop etc etc - had no ideal.
We were still talking so I actually helped him set up house again and sort and teach him a few new things.
That was ok, could handle that, but the final straw was when he said, can you show me how to cook
The many years I had cooked and never showed an interest or helped me out in the kitchen and then all of a sudden wants to learn - nah - figure that one out for yourself or find a another woman that can, that was my last act of kindess.
So was me , I knew who to do most things so DIY is quite normal but for others, no so ....
Blizzard14u: A wise man once said! None of my attempts have been failures, as they have all led to the final successes of this project? I think there is a little truth in that for all of us? If we don’t try! We will never learn? no one ever has been born to be an expert? We learn by our mistakes!
That is very true and a thought provoking statement.I think that maybe when people refer to being an expert they are holding themselves back from learning more and as a human race we are learning more not just from our own personal mistakes but from others also which is why the human race is slowly evolving and then on the other hand some would say one mans failure can be another mans success just as a mistake for one man may not be for another.
Another wise saying " The mind is like a parachute, it only functions all the time it is open."
I've always checked car... always organised the finances...
Probably the only thing I do that I never used to do is mow the lawn....I hate that job
Probably the only thing I do that I never used to do is mow the lawn....I hate that job
This is a really good topic for reflection and to see if as a human race we are learning.Once upon a time it was a mothers duty to raise her sons not to feel or show emotion for the chance that they would go to war was forever,now though in this life time we are teaching our sons that it is ok to feel and I personally have never taken for granted that just because a male is a male means that he can do all the so called manly tasks let alone tasks done by a woman.
As a mother of a son in changed times I felt it a duty to raise my son not to be afraid of his feelings or emotions or to feel ashamed for showing them and if he took interest in the kitchen or when I was ironing etc I would teach him.
I personally dont think woman give men the credit they deserve and maybe that can be said both ways and I dont like it when women complain that their partners never did any of these things, maybe they need to ask themselves how they contributed to that as in did they mother them ? did they give them the opportunity ? did they teach them in a respectful way ? did they communicate ? I have always been one for taking an interest when my partners have been doing anything that was new to me and would ask if they would teach me if it was something I wanted to learn or sometimes it was simply that they needed another pair of hands and that gave me the opportunity to learn also and then there were times when I was quite happy to just sit and take in the view.I learnt so much from my father and am so thankful for the nurturing though at times harsh relationship we had.
I learnt how to do stuff by research...google, read, ask and source before tackling a task.
I have landscaped a garden, built form work, poured concrete, rendered, plastered, painted, taken apart furniture and put it back together, tiled & grouted, put together a whole flat pack kitchen, which I designed & took measurements for, used power tools, ....heaps of things.
You will be amazed at what you can do if you put your mind to it...and how much better the end result will be if you read the instructions.
Oh...and I have become an expert at reading the yellow pages.
I have landscaped a garden, built form work, poured concrete, rendered, plastered, painted, taken apart furniture and put it back together, tiled & grouted, put together a whole flat pack kitchen, which I designed & took measurements for, used power tools, ....heaps of things.
You will be amazed at what you can do if you put your mind to it...and how much better the end result will be if you read the instructions.
Oh...and I have become an expert at reading the yellow pages.
my biggest problem was trying to find a recipe for milk and ice cubes.
You think that was a big problem, you haven t seen anything until you seen me trying to attempt ironing for the first time.
Then there was trauma of cooking, until I found out most things come already premade and then there are other things you can just heat up in the microwave. Now I have really grown and wait for my meals to be served while having a drink at the bar.
here is the really funny part! I’m actually not kidding
You think that was a big problem, you haven t seen anything until you seen me trying to attempt ironing for the first time.
Then there was trauma of cooking, until I found out most things come already premade and then there are other things you can just heat up in the microwave. Now I have really grown and wait for my meals to be served while having a drink at the bar. here is the really funny part! I’m actually not kidding
Hi BBWfansdream
I don't want to undersell your effort but please allow me to use your tasks as an example and give me time as I am sure you will get my point.
I work in construction usually (mines and process plant)and as a team have built some impressive structures, many tonnes of concrete, some hi tech control systems and the odd ancillary kitchen (lunch rooms) at the moment I am responsible for the construction of a multimillion dollar Coal Preparation plant...Your tasks are not impressive in their own right. But for you they represent an achievement to be proud of.
The things I have been pleased with myself have been doing the little things like sort the bank accounts and bills. At work I have people to pay the bills once I have reviewed and approved them I never go near a bank. These were probably things you did with a yawn...
How about setting up a bed and bedroom how you want it...I never had this opportunity while married as I just left it to the wife...
My point is it is about challenging to do things outside your own experience and learning new things not about showing we can do without the other gender.
Guys Hang on for the Ride.... ;-D
I don't want to undersell your effort but please allow me to use your tasks as an example and give me time as I am sure you will get my point.
I work in construction usually (mines and process plant)and as a team have built some impressive structures, many tonnes of concrete, some hi tech control systems and the odd ancillary kitchen (lunch rooms) at the moment I am responsible for the construction of a multimillion dollar Coal Preparation plant...Your tasks are not impressive in their own right. But for you they represent an achievement to be proud of.
The things I have been pleased with myself have been doing the little things like sort the bank accounts and bills. At work I have people to pay the bills once I have reviewed and approved them I never go near a bank. These were probably things you did with a yawn...
How about setting up a bed and bedroom how you want it...I never had this opportunity while married as I just left it to the wife...
My point is it is about challenging to do things outside your own experience and learning new things not about showing we can do without the other gender.
Guys Hang on for the Ride.... ;-D
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Was just pondering on the single life and wondering how many of us have learned to do things for ourselves that we used to have done for us
You know, like maybe someone else used to do most of the chores around the house or check the tyres on the car, mow the lawn, cook the meals and so on.
Obviously as singles, there's things we HAVE to do, or maybe always have done, but is there stuff you've taken on, like cooking and found you're pretty good at it
Personally, I've always been handy around the house and like to think I know my way around a tool and the occasional screw
How about you