Can it be real love if a couple break up bitterly? (12)
To love is to be able to forgive..as for the first one i dont think she really loved him,if she did she wont hurt him or wish him bad,i think the second one is rare but its existed. For me i could hate some one i loved deeply but i wouldnt hurt him even if he hurt me.
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why does it have to be "the real Love"
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Seems like the thread title answers its own question.
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It does depend on shared values... If you grow apart and dont share core values anymore.. then love will dissipate...
It doesn't mean it wasn't there in the first place... It just means that as time goes by... one of the partners within the relationship has grown ... mentally, spiritually and has an urge to follow their instincts for themselves... its akin to self preservation to ward off dis- ease for themselves... therefore.. if one partner has elevated and the other hasn't, the values shift will occur...
At some point, this will be intolerable and rather than to co-exist in a unhealthy relationship... one will move on...
Tis the way of things.. sorry if this has happened to you..
Little things like not forgiving, empathy and understanding dont come into play when a person decides to change .. for what they feel is best for themselves...
It doesn't mean it wasn't there in the first place... It just means that as time goes by... one of the partners within the relationship has grown ... mentally, spiritually and has an urge to follow their instincts for themselves... its akin to self preservation to ward off dis- ease for themselves... therefore.. if one partner has elevated and the other hasn't, the values shift will occur...
At some point, this will be intolerable and rather than to co-exist in a unhealthy relationship... one will move on...
Tis the way of things.. sorry if this has happened to you..
Little things like not forgiving, empathy and understanding dont come into play when a person decides to change .. for what they feel is best for themselves...
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too true,if it was [true love]there would not be any breaking up
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"Can it be real love if a couple break up bitterly?"
Does it truly matters if it's truly over?
- unless someone clings to it.
(Forgetting is easier said than done, though I understand)
Does it truly matters if it's truly over?
- unless someone clings to it.
(Forgetting is easier said than done, though I understand)
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Akisol777: Following on from my previous topic is this. Part of the components of love are compassion, forgiveness, empathy, understanding and wishing the best for your partner. This is the real basis of unselfish, unconditional love.
Thus where one person claims to really love another but cannot forgive that person, cannot empathise with that person, cannot understand that person even if the person has changed during the course of the relationship and is not able to genuinely wish the other person well at the break up of the relationship, was that really love in the first place or just a selfish, obsessive desire to acquire that person exclusively for your own self esteem, your own dignity, your own pleasure, your own satisfaction and your own ego. I knew a woman who went to report her partner to the immigration department to be deported when they broke up? Did she really love him in the first place then even if he had misled her and only used her? I have also known another woman who continued to cook for her ex partner weekly when he decided to split, and wished him well telling him that he actually desrved a college educated girl to complement him as she knew she was not college educated. To me true love seems to be pure and above all these petty negativeness. What are your views?
Thus where one person claims to really love another but cannot forgive that person, cannot empathise with that person, cannot understand that person even if the person has changed during the course of the relationship and is not able to genuinely wish the other person well at the break up of the relationship, was that really love in the first place or just a selfish, obsessive desire to acquire that person exclusively for your own self esteem, your own dignity, your own pleasure, your own satisfaction and your own ego. I knew a woman who went to report her partner to the immigration department to be deported when they broke up? Did she really love him in the first place then even if he had misled her and only used her? I have also known another woman who continued to cook for her ex partner weekly when he decided to split, and wished him well telling him that he actually desrved a college educated girl to complement him as she knew she was not college educated. To me true love seems to be pure and above all these petty negativeness. What are your views?
Real True love is all about compassion and forgiveness.......however......only a fool becomes a doormat...
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Somebody must have hurt you with you making all these forums about love.....sry..
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demonfairy: Somebody must have hurt you with you making all these forums about love.....sry..
Haven't most of us been hurt at some time of the other?
My main curiosity is not about myself because I am fine, but rather it is about watching human behaviour and other couples and singles from a detached point of view and seeing how they behave. Very few of them seem to know the meaning of love even though they use the word a lot. It is all about their own individual selfish desires!
Sorry, if I am not being your funny, joking clown. I suppose you can afford the entrace fees to a comedy club if you are feeling that way inclined:)
I laugh in my own time, where I want and with who I want!
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Akisol777: Following on from my previous topic is this. Part of the components of love are compassion, forgiveness, empathy, understanding and wishing the best for your partner. This is the real basis of unselfish, unconditional love.
Thus where one person claims to really love another but cannot forgive that person, cannot empathise with that person, cannot understand that person even if the person has changed during the course of the relationship and is not able to genuinely wish the other person well at the break up of the relationship, was that really love in the first place or just a selfish, obsessive desire to acquire that person exclusively for your own self esteem, your own dignity, your own pleasure, your own satisfaction and your own ego. I knew a woman who went to report her partner to the immigration department to be deported when they broke up? Did she really love him in the first place then even if he had misled her and only used her? I have also known another woman who continued to cook for her ex partner weekly when he decided to split, and wished him well telling him that he actually desrved a college educated girl to complement him as she knew she was not college educated. To me true love seems to be pure and above all these petty negativeness. What are your views?
Thus where one person claims to really love another but cannot forgive that person, cannot empathise with that person, cannot understand that person even if the person has changed during the course of the relationship and is not able to genuinely wish the other person well at the break up of the relationship, was that really love in the first place or just a selfish, obsessive desire to acquire that person exclusively for your own self esteem, your own dignity, your own pleasure, your own satisfaction and your own ego. I knew a woman who went to report her partner to the immigration department to be deported when they broke up? Did she really love him in the first place then even if he had misled her and only used her? I have also known another woman who continued to cook for her ex partner weekly when he decided to split, and wished him well telling him that he actually desrved a college educated girl to complement him as she knew she was not college educated. To me true love seems to be pure and above all these petty negativeness. What are your views?
There is a fine line between love and hate as they are both powerful emotions and often if you feel bitter it is your bruised ego that is taking over .....if you can deal with your ego then the bitterness cannot eat away at you .... and you can learn to forgive and feel comfortable that you are no less of a good human being because of the split......
Time Does heal I promise from experience
JMHO 
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todger: There is a fine line between love and hate as they are both powerful emotions and often if you feel bitter it is your bruised ego that is taking over .....if you can deal with your ego then the bitterness cannot eat away at you .... and you can learn to forgive and feel comfortable that you are no less of a good human being because of the split......
Time Does heal I promise from experience
JMHO
Time Does heal I promise from experience
JMHO
I think you speak truly. I am with you on this one!
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Thus where one person claims to really love another but cannot forgive that person, cannot empathise with that person, cannot understand that person even if the person has changed during the course of the relationship and is not able to genuinely wish the other person well at the break up of the relationship, was that really love in the first place or just a selfish, obsessive desire to acquire that person exclusively for your own self esteem, your own dignity, your own pleasure, your own satisfaction and your own ego. I knew a woman who went to report her partner to the immigration department to be deported when they broke up? Did she really love him in the first place then even if he had misled her and only used her? I have also known another woman who continued to cook for her ex partner weekly when he decided to split, and wished him well telling him that he actually desrved a college educated girl to complement him as she knew she was not college educated. To me true love seems to be pure and above all these petty negativeness. What are your views?