Men, how many children are "too many" in respects to dating? (57)
Since my youngest is 16, I'd prefer to date someone whose kids are in the same age group. I would consider a younger child, but just one. Anymore than one young child, would be too much for me. Grandkids would be ideal.
I also have found that men with more than one young child complain too much about the child support payments, visitation, etc. I sympathize with the visitation but I don't want the problems that come with negative issues of them dealing with their ex's.
There are exceptions to everything though.
I also have found that men with more than one young child complain too much about the child support payments, visitation, etc. I sympathize with the visitation but I don't want the problems that come with negative issues of them dealing with their ex's.
There are exceptions to everything though.
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I would prefer to date a guy with kids, just because I have kids. It would be nice to be #1, but with kids that is not always possible.
If I loved the guy, the amount of children or ages would not matter.
I am wondering does any one else here have triplets?
If I loved the guy, the amount of children or ages would not matter.
I am wondering does any one else here have triplets?
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I don't care if he has children, but I prefer he not live with them. If they're not grown yet, I might be able to stand an occasional weekend.
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The differences between many of us is what's interesting.
For me, I don't care if a guy has kids- I have 2 myself. I don't really care how old they are because mine are young (8 & 3).
Now, I have to say that my mom who's just started dating again (she'll be 50 in Oct) has a different view- they can have kids, but they have to be grown & gone. And it makes me laugh, but she says ideally the guy's mom should live in another country- preferably the one called heaven...ahem...she doesn't wanna deal with an overbearing mother in law I guess!
I think you can still be eachother's number one- in all the right ways- even if you both have kids. It's not really all that hard, just takes a bit of patience.
For me, I don't care if a guy has kids- I have 2 myself. I don't really care how old they are because mine are young (8 & 3).
Now, I have to say that my mom who's just started dating again (she'll be 50 in Oct) has a different view- they can have kids, but they have to be grown & gone. And it makes me laugh, but she says ideally the guy's mom should live in another country- preferably the one called heaven...ahem...she doesn't wanna deal with an overbearing mother in law I guess!
I think you can still be eachother's number one- in all the right ways- even if you both have kids. It's not really all that hard, just takes a bit of patience.
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Girrrrl you make it sound so simple and pretty, that i maight have to change my way of thinking.
El Diablo
El Diablo
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um what's one more kid??!!!
especially if he's as cute as Izzyva!!!
especially if he's as cute as Izzyva!!!
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see Izzy, I knew you'd come around...
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I am still trying to raise myself. To be able to be mature enough to help raise others is not feasible for me.
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let's turn it around does a woman put a limit on how many children a man can havei am a single father of 5 children,throught the years i have met woman,that has said that is too many children.i always told them it was not enough.
to me it never has been a problem of a woman with children,the thing that always matter if their love is true.for some odd reason i always dated woman with children,i never dated a woman who didn't have children
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never dated a man that wasn't a child!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Must be your maternal instincts that betrayed you.
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Not yet.
EL Diablo
EL Diablo
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no no no no no ooooooooo
it is the perpetual nature of the beast my dear!
it is the perpetual nature of the beast my dear!
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Well, you are the beauty and I am sure you have dealt with the beast before. 
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I can understand and respect everyones point. I just got done dating a 36 year old that has two divorces and 3 children ages 2,15, and 18. The 15 & 18 year old live with him. It was ok but hard at times. We didn't get alone time very often or when we would be having a serious conversation the kids would always butt in so it was hard in that aspect. But I would date a guy that had kids. I understand the kids come first and they should. I just felt like the mother, girlfriend and live in maid and couldn't deal with it. Those kids had no responsibility or respect.
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Just to clarify, I would never put a kid with special needs in the brat category simply due to the symptoms of their particular "specialness" (just no clue what word to use there). As my daughter had a few "issues" when she was born, there was a lot of screaming. Pain can do that to a kid. And as far as special care, parents are SUPPOSED to care for their kids, whatever the child's needs may be.
There is a big difference between a spoiled kid who can get away with anything, and knows it, and a kid with special needs. Kinda surprised you would even think I implied otherwise.
There is a big difference between a spoiled kid who can get away with anything, and knows it, and a kid with special needs. Kinda surprised you would even think I implied otherwise.
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That's funny and I agree with your mom.
I met one man in his late 40's who has two young ones, 7 & 10.
That is NOT the reason I stopped seeing him, the reason is his attitude toward his ex and trying to get me to side with his "dilemma" which I would not do.
Heavenly mothers-in-law...
I met one man in his late 40's who has two young ones, 7 & 10.
That is NOT the reason I stopped seeing him, the reason is his attitude toward his ex and trying to get me to side with his "dilemma" which I would not do.
Heavenly mothers-in-law...
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hopefully the dates would be without the kids...
having a long term commitment.... the issues can be to numerous and can vary greatly, from the simpilest to the most complex.
having a long term commitment.... the issues can be to numerous and can vary greatly, from the simpilest to the most complex.
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I don't put a limit on it... because if I did I could be missing out on the lady of my dreams.. of which I have found in Kate.. she has kids and that is not a problem.. I knew she was a package deal when we started talking and I am so happy we are together now kids and all...
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