TORN IN A MILLION WAYS... (13)
Just keep going till you can't go no more 
Seems you answered your own question there, hatpin 
Third strike and yer out
Sometimes people have issues that they have to sort out before they get involved with anyone, which is probably a good idea as it's much better to be a friend, lover, partner whatever, than a nurse or counselor .. trust me, I know
Maybe give it one more try, then call it a day and move on
Third strike and yer out
Sometimes people have issues that they have to sort out before they get involved with anyone, which is probably a good idea as it's much better to be a friend, lover, partner whatever, than a nurse or counselor .. trust me, I know
Maybe give it one more try, then call it a day and move on
hatpin: I AM again in a situation to meet up with someone I have held a flame to, for 21 years................
This person is VERY shy and hard to get close to... He claims to have been physically abused by a female... ((( GUYS C'MON HERE GIVE ME AN EXPLANATION PLEASE )))
How do you attempt to gain a mutual trust ..... Considering I have been stood up twice already
Do I go through the 3rd time to have my heart torn out if they are not there?
I know for a fact if I am stood up again, I will be ending the friendship
Stood up and FED UP!!
Wadda ya all reckon???
This person is VERY shy and hard to get close to... He claims to have been physically abused by a female... ((( GUYS C'MON HERE GIVE ME AN EXPLANATION PLEASE )))
How do you attempt to gain a mutual trust ..... Considering I have been stood up twice already
Do I go through the 3rd time to have my heart torn out if they are not there?
I know for a fact if I am stood up again, I will be ending the friendship
Stood up and FED UP!!
Wadda ya all reckon???
The victim has become the abuser.
He is making you pay for the injuries of his youth.
He needs to seek help.
It is our choice to suffer life or to live it.
I think that in our lifetimes we can fix alot of things, but more times than not people arent one of those things.
I think that there are two types of people, those who can work through and ultimately rise above great trauma, and those who are scared and broken for life by trauma.
I think that regardless, we give people the benefit of the doubt, and extend a hand, but ultimately it is up to the other person to take our hand. If they are unable or do not want to, then we can only move on and wish them well.
I think that there are two types of people, those who can work through and ultimately rise above great trauma, and those who are scared and broken for life by trauma.
I think that regardless, we give people the benefit of the doubt, and extend a hand, but ultimately it is up to the other person to take our hand. If they are unable or do not want to, then we can only move on and wish them well.
ahhhh hat, ya better put the kettle on later today
all u can do is try again, but try to go in with ur eyes open and if it doesnt work draw a line under it call it a day, if someone cant show u the love back , then do u really want this person as a partener or do u feel ur worth more than the pain that ur willing to suffer to be with this person jmo sometimes its better to walk away and move on and think about ur feelings
Shell225: I think that in our lifetimes we can fix alot of things, but more times than not people arent one of those things.
I think that there are two types of people, those who can work through and ultimately rise above great trauma, and those who are scared and broken for life by trauma.
I think that regardless, we give people the benefit of the doubt, and extend a hand, but ultimately it is up to the other person to take our hand. If they are unable or do not want to, then we can only move on and wish them well.
I think that there are two types of people, those who can work through and ultimately rise above great trauma, and those who are scared and broken for life by trauma.
I think that regardless, we give people the benefit of the doubt, and extend a hand, but ultimately it is up to the other person to take our hand. If they are unable or do not want to, then we can only move on and wish them well.
exactly right shell.
Hope it works out for you Hatpin , sometimes tho the one we want isnt the one we need
Have you come to peace with your issues yet... and your own self...Aunty Shell and Mudpeople are both right, but there is also a "YOU" component.
Ask yourself, "How much do I want my time wasted by indecisive people?"
Sometimes maladjusted people get their jollies from wasting other people's lives. And those people haunt sites like this. They also hang out in bars ... but hardly ever go to places where there is an activity or other interest and the participants are likely have fulfilling lives.
When I say, "those people haunt sites like this" it is like this place IS a virtual bar. You just have to provide your own drinks and you won't get breath tested on the way home.
If this someone is someone you have met in person, it doesn't make the time wasting (emotional energy wasting) any less valid.
As a woman in a bar once said to one of my drunken amorous drinking mates, "Don't worry sweetheart, it's only a game. And you just lost."
I would add, "If you're not playing a game, in fact you just won." After all, you get to go on with your life without wasting emotional energy on the undeserving.
Ask yourself, "How much do I want my time wasted by indecisive people?"
Sometimes maladjusted people get their jollies from wasting other people's lives. And those people haunt sites like this. They also hang out in bars ... but hardly ever go to places where there is an activity or other interest and the participants are likely have fulfilling lives.
When I say, "those people haunt sites like this" it is like this place IS a virtual bar. You just have to provide your own drinks and you won't get breath tested on the way home.
If this someone is someone you have met in person, it doesn't make the time wasting (emotional energy wasting) any less valid.
As a woman in a bar once said to one of my drunken amorous drinking mates, "Don't worry sweetheart, it's only a game. And you just lost."
I would add, "If you're not playing a game, in fact you just won." After all, you get to go on with your life without wasting emotional energy on the undeserving.
Darkhorseman: Aunty Shell and Mudpeople are both right, but there is also a "YOU" component.
Ask yourself, "How much do I want my time wasted by indecisive people?"
Sometimes maladjusted people get their jollies from wasting other people's lives. And those people haunt sites like this. They also hang out in bars ... but hardly ever go to places where there is an activity or other interest and the participants are likely have fulfilling lives.
When I say, "those people haunt sites like this" it is like this place IS a virtual bar. You just have to provide your own drinks and you won't get breath tested on the way home.
If this someone is someone you have met in person, it doesn't make the time wasting (emotional energy wasting) any less valid.
As a woman in a bar once said to one of my drunken amorous drinking mates, "Don't worry sweetheart, it's only a game. And you just lost."
I would add, "If you're not playing a game, in fact you just won." After all, you get to go on with your life without wasting emotional energy on the undeserving.
Ask yourself, "How much do I want my time wasted by indecisive people?"
Sometimes maladjusted people get their jollies from wasting other people's lives. And those people haunt sites like this. They also hang out in bars ... but hardly ever go to places where there is an activity or other interest and the participants are likely have fulfilling lives.
When I say, "those people haunt sites like this" it is like this place IS a virtual bar. You just have to provide your own drinks and you won't get breath tested on the way home.
If this someone is someone you have met in person, it doesn't make the time wasting (emotional energy wasting) any less valid.
As a woman in a bar once said to one of my drunken amorous drinking mates, "Don't worry sweetheart, it's only a game. And you just lost."
I would add, "If you're not playing a game, in fact you just won." After all, you get to go on with your life without wasting emotional energy on the undeserving.
well said
So very true... I do forget about me at times like this.... THAT might have just been the answer!!
Thank you...
Back to swimming... Just keep swim-ming, just keep swim-ming!!
Thank you...
Back to swimming... Just keep swim-ming, just keep swim-ming!!
Lots of good advice given already, so no need for me to add
but I hope you work it out Hatpin
but I hope you work it out Hatpin
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This person is VERY shy and hard to
How do you attempt to gain a mutual trust ..... Considering I have been stood up twice already
Do I go through the 3rd time to have my heart torn out if they are not there?
I know for a fact if I am stood up again, I will be ending the friendship
Stood up and FED UP!!
Wadda ya all reckon???