Instant rejection (27)
Absolutely, sometimes by the way a woman walks or holds herself. Whether she be slouched looking like any minute she is going to fold up like an outdoor chair or walks with her nose up in the air with her elbows to hands parallel to the ground like she is the Queen of Sheba and a smudge of dirt on her shirt would turn into some fiasco.
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YES! I'm rejected every time i open my mouth 
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Generally I'll like someone right away or not ...... generally though, I've learned to reserve any opinion until spending some time getting to know them. People can sometimes surprise you once they feel comfortable to open up and truly be themselves.
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Yes, for some reason an empathy comes shining through, I have never been proved wrong in this instinct
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i am kinda used to get rejected even before getting to the 'instant' stage
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langleygirl: Generally I'll like someone right away or not ...... generally though, I've learned to reserve any opinion until spending some time getting to know them. People can sometimes surprise you once they feel comfortable to open up and truly be themselves.
That first few seconds isn't always telling. We can all have nerves or just an off moment, and noone likes to have their entire character misjudged based on a single little blip. However, of course there are certain verbal cues that immediately put me on my guard. I listen very closely to what that person says and how they say it... not to mention the body language and facial expressions. This applies to everyone I meet... not just people I'm dating or considering dating.
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
The problem with mere words, just like texting on a mobile. Is that they can be easily misunderstood
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
I'm pretty sure you know what red flags are, sometimes you get them on the first date or sometimes it may take a couple dates. Like for example you can pretty much know whether a person is looking for something different than there ex-significant other or whether they expect you treat them like there ex; this is red flag. I had a ex-girlfriend that preferred somebody more extroverted like her ex. But she would not appreciate or realize the advantages she had in being with somebody like me. Do you have any specific experiences of this?
You can pretty much tell who would take you seriously versus somebody that would pretty is insecure and would waste your time. It takes time figure these red flags, but normally you pick it up while conversing with a person. I could give you more examples.
One thing is for sure, you are never going find somebody perfect, so you may have lower your expectations a little bit and learned live with some of the imperfections of that other person. This is what I have learn over the past couple years.
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robsantiago15: ...you are never going find somebody perfect... This is what I have learn over the past couple years.
So true. People don't need to lower their expectations so much as chance them....not expect so much. ------ This thread is Archived ------
robsantiago15: One thing is for sure, you are never going find somebody perfect, so you may have lower your expectations a little bit and learned live with some of the imperfections of that other person. This is what I have learn over the past couple years.
Well no one is perfect, so expecting perfection is just stupid.
Everyone has their issues or baggage... It's a matter of that person being worthwhile enough to you to deal with that particular set of imperfections. Unless, of course, one or more of those issues are on your will-not-compromise-on short list.
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Totally yes - an utterance of right wing politics or god and I just know it will never work, no matter how lovely they may be as a friend..........
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yes, i can feel immediatelly and, in my case, every time i tried to convinced myself to get to know the person despite the initial feeling it has never worked, therefore it is something i feel right away...the feeling is based on emotion i get and cannot be logically explained..i guess it's a mix of physical appearance and the way of expressing verbally and threw the body language
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Typical example on here, of someone I couldn't get on with, is someone who gives you their phone number within a couple of e mails, seems pleasant enough, asks for yours, then if you provide it, persists in ringing you all hours of the day and night, (talking about anything, just to take up your time, and be "with" you).
Usually one of the clues is that they talk a lot about "liking" you very early on. They often repeat over and over that they would like a companion/partner, how good you would be for each other, how much you have in common, and persist in this vein, even after you have told them you only want friendship.
The air of desperation is almost palpable. None of this is immediate of course, but I don't think, short of death threats or scammers letters, that there is an "instant" put-off that is reliable in estimating character.
I think it is fairer to take a little time to assess people.
Usually one of the clues is that they talk a lot about "liking" you very early on. They often repeat over and over that they would like a companion/partner, how good you would be for each other, how much you have in common, and persist in this vein, even after you have told them you only want friendship.
The air of desperation is almost palpable. None of this is immediate of course, but I don't think, short of death threats or scammers letters, that there is an "instant" put-off that is reliable in estimating character.
I think it is fairer to take a little time to assess people.
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Well Well i guess mind attracting in others minds, i mean, I ised to skip from alcohoic, but that was interesting, each place i used to go had one over to bother me. I stop to skip with them and now it is okDo you have any specific experiences of this?
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GingerBe: Typical example on here, of someone I couldn't get on with, is someone who gives you their phone number within a couple of e mails, seems pleasant enough, asks for yours, then if you provide it, persists in ringing you all hours of the day and night, (talking about anything, just to take up your time, and be "with" you).
Usually one of the clues is that they talk a lot about "liking" you very early on. They often repeat over and over that they would like a companion/partner, how good you would be for each other, how much you have in common, and persist in this vein, even after you have told them you only want friendship.
The air of desperation is almost palpable. None of this is immediate of course, but I don't think, short of death threats or scammers letters, that there is an "instant" put-off that is reliable in estimating character.
I think it is fairer to take a little time to assess people.
Usually one of the clues is that they talk a lot about "liking" you very early on. They often repeat over and over that they would like a companion/partner, how good you would be for each other, how much you have in common, and persist in this vein, even after you have told them you only want friendship.
The air of desperation is almost palpable. None of this is immediate of course, but I don't think, short of death threats or scammers letters, that there is an "instant" put-off that is reliable in estimating character.
I think it is fairer to take a little time to assess people.
Yeah, or guys who ask you if you're really looking for a relationship because you date other men around the time you went out on a date or two with him! Wondering what I thought of him because I didn't immediately cancel all my other dates after our one dinner date. Don't start talking to me about going on vacation together after the first date! Geez!
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PandoraX: Yeah, or guys who ask you if you're really looking for a relationship because you date other men around the time you went out on a date or two with him! Wondering what I thought of him because I didn't immediately cancel all my other dates after our one dinner date. Don't start talking to me about going on vacation together after the first date! Geez!
You must hae met some of the same people I did.
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
that`s why we`re here for ...to be rejected .. and get laid
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JeanMarlow: Can you tell immediately by something someone says or does that they are just not the person for you? Not talking about appearance, but about words or behavior.
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Do you have any specific experiences of this?
Daily...on here.
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trish123: Totally yes - an utterance of right wing politics or god and I just know it will never work, no matter how lovely they may be as a friend..........
Another lost love.
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