Men...when you end a relationship..... (62)
online today!online today!rohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,522 Posts(to anyone and everyone) Somewhere out there is a song or poem, I can't recall which, maybe it's just a saying, but it is something like, "Nothing fixes a broken heart better than a new love" does anybody know the exact words/poem/quote, etc...?
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rohaan: (to anyone and everyone) Somewhere out there is a song or poem, I can't recall which, maybe it's just a saying, but it is something like, "Nothing fixes a broken heart better than a new love" does anybody know the exact words/poem/quote, etc...?
I'm only familiar with the saying that the best way to get over a man is to get under another!
Sorry, just joking. I don't know the source for your quote.
I'm off to sleep now. G'night, folks.
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billyj1: Yes he will think of you and actually never forget you for the rest of his life.
Sighhhh, precious and nice to know....
U know everyone has that one big time killer heartbreak in their lifetime, and everyone handles it differently. Ur in the processing phase and once U have the whole relationship categorized and dissected, u will be able to move on....Some folks on here have had multiple heartbreaks and tend to be a little cold hearted and impatient with folks in pain....U do things ur way, only u know what works for u.
Good luck and quick healing
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Thalassa: I'm only familiar with the saying that the best way to get over a man is to get under another!
Sorry, just joking. I don't know the source for your quote.
I'm off to sleep now. G'night, folks.
hardy har har. Thanx--sleep tight, don't let the bed buggies bite...Sorry, just joking. I don't know the source for your quote.
I'm off to sleep now. G'night, folks.
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rider4u: If the reason for ending the relationship was truly insurmountable then it was the only decision to make. It doesn't alter the fact the you love the person but it does make the relationship impossible. In that case my feelings wouldn't alter or diminish but it would have to fall under the heading of "too bad, so sad" as I would want my loved one to have the best chance at a full and fulfilling relationship. When I love it is forever and unconditional but reality can put up barriers where it is better to be a loving memory than a unworkable reality. A sad situation but still a loving one. Best of luck
Well said, 'better loving memory than unworkable reality'!
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I guess it varies a lot from person to person and from relationship to relationship.I tend not to indulge too long on decisions made whether right or wrong ...
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Thalassa: If you loved the woman still, but knew that the relationship couldn't go any further due to insurmountable and sadly unfortunate circumstances...and you see no choice but to end it...
Well, I guess my question is this:
When you make the decision to end a relationship while it is still very good, but you see no other choice....are you able to get her out of your thoughts once you've made that decision?
I guess I just wonder if he thinks of me as much as I do him. His decision was really the only logical choice, for reasons that aren't important. I actually understand why he felt he had to end it. The love never died, but there was an elephant in the room that we could no longer ignore.
So....now that he made the cut....
Does he think of me?
I know this is a broad question and everyone is different, but I'd be interested in hearing from the men here about what goes on in their heads after the love is not gone, but the lover is...and it was your decision to end it.
(By the way, it wasn't a short-term fling; it was 16 months in duration)
I'm giving you my sympathy but also some advise..Forget him, move on and find someone who can love you forever and give you what YOU want..The sooner you do this, the sooner you will find true happiness..Good luck to you..With most men, once they make up their minds it is over, its over..Us women are wired to be more emotional and if we miss someone we automatically assume they are feeling the same..Trust me, if a man is ending things, most likely he might tell you something to try and make you feel better like, well i love you but its all my fault, or some other lame excuse..Just move on honey..Its better for you..Well, I guess my question is this:
When you make the decision to end a relationship while it is still very good, but you see no other choice....are you able to get her out of your thoughts once you've made that decision?
I guess I just wonder if he thinks of me as much as I do him. His decision was really the only logical choice, for reasons that aren't important. I actually understand why he felt he had to end it. The love never died, but there was an elephant in the room that we could no longer ignore.
So....now that he made the cut....
Does he think of me?
I know this is a broad question and everyone is different, but I'd be interested in hearing from the men here about what goes on in their heads after the love is not gone, but the lover is...and it was your decision to end it.
(By the way, it wasn't a short-term fling; it was 16 months in duration)
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Time heals. Time and distance.
But the love you had, you will carry with you always.
So will he. Trust me, so will he.
But the love you had, you will carry with you always.
So will he. Trust me, so will he.
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I guess I just wonder if he thinks of me as much as I do him. quote]
If he felt the same way about you as you did about him, I'm sure he does. Why wouldn't he? People just don't walk off and wipe someone from their thoughts, not someone who mattered to them. It is probably as painful for him as it is for you.
If he felt the same way about you as you did about him, I'm sure he does. Why wouldn't he? People just don't walk off and wipe someone from their thoughts, not someone who mattered to them. It is probably as painful for him as it is for you.
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Swissblueeyes: I'm giving you my sympathy but also some advise..Forget him, move on and find someone who can love you forever and give you what YOU want..The sooner you do this, the sooner you will find true happiness..Good luck to you..With most men, once they make up their minds it is over, its over..Us women are wired to be more emotional and if we miss someone we automatically assume they are feeling the same..Trust me, if a man is ending things, most likely he might tell you something to try and make you feel better like, well i love you but its all my fault, or some other lame excuse..Just move on honey..Its better for you..
i agree wholeheartedly, having wasted precious time in the past grieving the end of a relationship. i think if it is right, and if he loves you, he will make it work/you both will make it work. some people think it is "kinder" to say things that soften the blow, but, i feel, it is not kind. better to cut if off, like a samauri blade, let the wound bleed free and fast and move on as quickly as possible - not necessarily into a new relationship, but in your own life.
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rainy5: i agree wholeheartedly, having wasted precious time in the past grieving the end of a relationship. i think if it is right, and if he loves you, he will make it work/you both will make it work. some people think it is "kinder" to say things that soften the blow, but, i feel, it is not kind. better to cut if off, like a samauri blade, let the wound bleed free and fast and move on as quickly as possible - not necessarily into a new relationship, but in your own life.
Dont worry, a good man will come into your life and make you forget this one ever was.. I think it is sad some people use words to ease their way out of a relationship..They dont realize all it does is give the person false hope and keep them pinning after them..Meanwhile the other one is out meeting others and forgetting the person they hurt..Just try to forget, do things to spoil yourself, go on a date, ect..It will get better..------ This thread is Archived ------
I'm sure he does, how could he not? 
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relationships are suppose to end 
we are still friends 
they keep asking me when i am coming to see them 
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Swissblueeyes: I'm giving you my sympathy but also some advise..Forget him, move on and find someone who can love you forever and give you what YOU want..The sooner you do this, the sooner you will find true happiness..Good luck to you..With most men, once they make up their minds it is over, its over..Us women are wired to be more emotional and if we miss someone we automatically assume they are feeling the same..Trust me, if a man is ending things, most likely he might tell you something to try and make you feel better like, well i love you but its all my fault, or some other lame excuse..Just move on honey..Its better for you..
Swiss, we think alike, I can't agree more. Our end was slow and painful.
But in the end, he found another. Hell, it hurt, but it makes it real easy to move out of the house and into another place.
Thalassa, to be honest, you will need to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you shouldn't. It's part of the process. Then you get used to being on your own. Deciding what type of guy is the best fit for you.
It may help on your next relationship. My goal is to find someone who has good qualities but also makes me laugh. I do not want a repeat of another disaster.
The Dobe
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doberman3: Swiss, we think alike, I can't agree more. Our end was slow and painful.
But in the end, he found another. Hell, it hurt, but it makes it real easy to move out of the house and into another place.
Thalassa, to be honest, you will need to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you shouldn't. It's part of the process. Then you get used to being on your own. Deciding what type of guy is the best fit for you.
It may help on your next relationship. My goal is to find someone who has good qualities but also makes me laugh. I do not want a repeat of another disaster.
The Dobe
I'm sorry to hear he hurt you..There are still good men in the world tho..Some day he will find you..But in the end, he found another. Hell, it hurt, but it makes it real easy to move out of the house and into another place.
Thalassa, to be honest, you will need to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you shouldn't. It's part of the process. Then you get used to being on your own. Deciding what type of guy is the best fit for you.
It may help on your next relationship. My goal is to find someone who has good qualities but also makes me laugh. I do not want a repeat of another disaster.
The Dobe
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In response to: If you loved the woman still, but knew that the relationship couldn't go any further due to insurmountable and sadly unfortunate circumstances...and you see no choice but to end it...
Well, I guess my question is this:
When you make the decision to end a relationship while it is still very good, but you see no other choice....are you able to get her out of your thoughts once you've made that decision?
I guess I just wonder if he thinks of me as much as I do him. His decision was really the only logical choice, for reasons that aren't important. I actually understand why he felt he had to end it. The love never died, but there was an elephant in the room that we could no longer ignore.
So....now that he made the cut....
Does he think of me?
I know this is a broad question and everyone is different, but I'd be interested in hearing from the men here about what goes on in their heads after the love is not gone, but the lover is...and it was your decision to end it.
(By the way, it wasn't a short-term fling; it was 16 months in duration)
Well, I guess my question is this:
When you make the decision to end a relationship while it is still very good, but you see no other choice....are you able to get her out of your thoughts once you've made that decision?
I guess I just wonder if he thinks of me as much as I do him. His decision was really the only logical choice, for reasons that aren't important. I actually understand why he felt he had to end it. The love never died, but there was an elephant in the room that we could no longer ignore.
So....now that he made the cut....
Does he think of me?
I know this is a broad question and everyone is different, but I'd be interested in hearing from the men here about what goes on in their heads after the love is not gone, but the lover is...and it was your decision to end it.
(By the way, it wasn't a short-term fling; it was 16 months in duration)
Well i believe if he truly love's you he will be thinking of you right now and would be thinking of coming back to kill that elephant with you. Why i hate love so much is that it never dies, even if you try so hard to kill it, it still always breath no matter how weak it gets. So be strong if he his truly yours and loves you as much as he says does he will come back and try to make things work.
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I know you said you wanted to hear from the men. But I was curious how long has it been since the breakup...I was in a recent relationship that ended very suddenly. He left me like a thief in the night while I was at work. He went to the arms of another women. I was devastated as I felt I had found someone I could love again after losing my life long partner of 27 years. My friends and family told me he'd call on me again, and I have to admit I was surprised when he did. THANK GOD it was a couple of months later and I had moved on with my life. He said he couldn't get over me.
I have to admit it felt good to think he wanted me back. Hope your heart heals quickly!!
I have to admit it felt good to think he wanted me back. Hope your heart heals quickly!!
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estate: I was in this situation last year. She is now a great pal....the love is still there, but the lust is gone. Perfect end to our relationship, and a great start to our friendship.
beautifully said
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