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RDM59: It wasn't all bottled up and hidden, the final announcement to the kids of our separation (after 6 years of denial) came as no surprise to them, even though they were very young at the time.
In fact it was them that would say "when are you two going to split up". The atmosphere in the home must have been that bad. Only 10 minutes after is was announced my daughters had the Ikea catalogue out and were busy choosing the colour schemes and items for their rooms in Dad's new house ! The moment I/we had been dreading for years had turned into joy for them. It was the first time in years me wife and I looked at each other with a genuine smile on our faces.( relief mainly )
The kids have been fantastic, they know they are loved equally by us both and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
In fact it was them that would say "when are you two going to split up". The atmosphere in the home must have been that bad. Only 10 minutes after is was announced my daughters had the Ikea catalogue out and were busy choosing the colour schemes and items for their rooms in Dad's new house ! The moment I/we had been dreading for years had turned into joy for them. It was the first time in years me wife and I looked at each other with a genuine smile on our faces.( relief mainly )
The kids have been fantastic, they know they are loved equally by us both and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
Sooooooooooooooooooooooo stop beatting yourself up about your "failure". That feeling of failure comes only from "learned attitudes and behaviours" we pick up as we grow up. Conforming to society's norms. Very difficult to shake off deep down!!!
Looks like what your kids have learned from that expereince is to NOT burry one's head in the sand when things aren't cool. But to admit to having made a mistake and get on with making the necessary changes!!!!!!!!!!!
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RDM59: It wasn't all bottled up and hidden, the final announcement to the kids of our separation (after 6 years of denial) came as no surprise to them, even though they were very young at the time.
In fact it was them that would say "when are you two going to split up". The atmosphere in the home must have been that bad. Only 10 minutes after is was announced my daughters had the Ikea catalogue out and were busy choosing the colour schemes and items for their rooms in Dad's new house ! The moment I/we had been dreading for years had turned into joy for them. It was the first time in years me wife and I looked at each other with a genuine smile on our faces.( relief mainly )
The kids have been fantastic, they know they are loved equally by us both and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
In fact it was them that would say "when are you two going to split up". The atmosphere in the home must have been that bad. Only 10 minutes after is was announced my daughters had the Ikea catalogue out and were busy choosing the colour schemes and items for their rooms in Dad's new house ! The moment I/we had been dreading for years had turned into joy for them. It was the first time in years me wife and I looked at each other with a genuine smile on our faces.( relief mainly )
The kids have been fantastic, they know they are loved equally by us both and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
Kids are more astute than we give them credit for sometimes
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jac379: Ah, but if we ask you what you lot would like for a treat, the thread will get locked in no time.
Ah you know what we like.........Very simple creatures on a base level
Seriously good thread though which raises a lot of interesting questions. Took me too long to read it though and now am off to work.
Kudos EW
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You made me laughing out loud with your post.The best so far in this thread.
jac379: Ah, but if we ask you what you lot would like for a treat, the thread will get locked in no time.
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vinny1967: What a great Thread
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
Thanks Vinny!!
I see men and women getting to understand one another better, sharings experiences and communicating lovingly!!!
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jahzah: But have you seen the love they have for each other
Own up time!!
Had never seen the series ... had to look it up on wikki!!!
You mean a bit like Homer and Marge?
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EagleWoman: Thanks Vinny!! I see men and women getting to understand one another better, sharings experiences and communicating lovingly!!!
I don't think it's rocket science really. I believe if we were all to treat everyone equally, use our mouth and ears proportionally
and treat others how we ourselves would like to be treated, we get it back in spades.Great read
Gotta run
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vinny1967: Ah you know what we like.........Very simple creatures on a base level
Seriously good thread though which raises a lot of interesting questions. Took me too long to read it though and now am off to work.
Kudos EW
Seriously good thread though which raises a lot of interesting questions. Took me too long to read it though and now am off to work.
Kudos EW
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chris27292729: You made me laughing out loud with your post.The best so far in this thread.
Thank you, Chris.
Glad I made you giggle.
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vinny1967: What a great Thread
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
Well Vin, I dont see any men learning how to treat thier ladies either...Maybe thats another thread eh
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vinny1967: What a great Thread
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
I don't see any women lerning anything about how they should treat their men
Well Vinny,
We don't have a man, so the point is moot...LOL
I am keeping notes though....
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I was joking 
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vinny1967: I was joking
I know, just ribbing u there
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todger: Kids are resilliant and a little shallow/fickle
easier for them to pick themselves up and dust themselves down.
Im glad it all worked out for you in the end ...
NOW we need to find you a loving careing tactile lady that loves you more than money
easier for them to pick themselves up and dust themselves down.
Im glad it all worked out for you in the end ...
NOW we need to find you a loving careing tactile lady that loves you more than money
GingerBe: Just goes to show, that all the worrying and avoidance in the world won't predict an outcome.
venusenvy: Kids are more astute than we give them credit for sometimes
Yes, kids are much more resilient these days, they have to be I suppose. They are not the odd one's out in the school classroom any more by coming from a broken home background, the statistics now show they are one of the 30%. I massive change from the 3% in my day.
The media, the TV soap stories, the reality .... teaches the kids to accept it as normality these days and gives them the ability to cope much better with it.IMO
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EagleWoman: Sooooooooooooooooooooooo stop beatting yourself up about your "failure". That feeling of failure comes only from "learned attitudes and behaviours" we pick up as we grow up. Conforming to society's norms. Very difficult to shake off deep down!!!
Looks like what your kids have learned from that expereince is to NOT burry one's head in the sand when things aren't cool. But to admit to having made a mistake and get on with making the necessary changes!!!!!!!!!!!
Looks like what your kids have learned from that expereince is to NOT burry one's head in the sand when things aren't cool. But to admit to having made a mistake and get on with making the necessary changes!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh I can live with it OK, it's all done now, just commenting on life's past events here.
Yes, it has taught them not to bury their head in the sand but I hope it has also taught them that it is also necessary to fight and endure for something they think is worthy. That's not easy in today's throw away mentality society.
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RDM59: Yes, kids are much more resilient these days, they have to be I suppose. They are not the odd one's out in the school classroom any more by coming from a broken home background, the statistics now show they are one of the 30%. I massive change from the 3% in my day.
The media, the TV soap stories, the reality .... teaches the kids to accept it as normality these days and gives them the ability to cope much better with it.IMO
The media, the TV soap stories, the reality .... teaches the kids to accept it as normality these days and gives them the ability to cope much better with it.IMO
I remember my son once throwing the woe is me card because he couldnt have something or other and that he was different or deprived.
I quickly reminded him that half the kids in the county where from one parent families so get over it, he didnt use it against me again.
tough love 
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todger: I remember my son once throwing the woe is me card because he couldnt have something or other and that he was different or deprived.
I quickly reminded him that half the kids in the county where from one parent families so get over it, he didnt use it against me again.
tough love
I quickly reminded him that half the kids in the county where from one parent families so get over it, he didnt use it against me again.
tough love
Got to give it to them, they will always try it on whatever their circumstances.
The little angles .....
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In fact it was them that would say "when are you two going to split up". The atmosphere in the home must have been that bad. Only 10 minutes after is was announced my daughters had the Ikea catalogue out and were busy choosing the colour schemes and items for their rooms in Dad's new house ! The moment I/we had been dreading for years had turned into joy for them. It was the first time in years me wife and I looked at each other with a genuine smile on our faces.( relief mainly )
The kids have been fantastic, they know they are loved equally by us both and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.