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GingerBe: I understand but people can't account for everything before they marry.
I had a partner once,who disliked going out to any place except a pub. He wouldn't have liked me doing things on my own.
I'm not a pub kind of person but love galleries and theatre.
I loved dancing, and he was a good dancer, but he wouldn't go dancing , even though we had met in a pub on a new's year's eve at a dance........
I said it didn't matter to me if we went out or not, after he had said no a few times, but with time it became something that niggled at me and made me unhappy, because I was never getting to do what I loved.
Don't get me wrong, I cared deeply for him, and would never have hurt him, but just found this hard.
I had a partner once,who disliked going out to any place except a pub. He wouldn't have liked me doing things on my own.
I'm not a pub kind of person but love galleries and theatre.
I loved dancing, and he was a good dancer, but he wouldn't go dancing , even though we had met in a pub on a new's year's eve at a dance........
I said it didn't matter to me if we went out or not, after he had said no a few times, but with time it became something that niggled at me and made me unhappy, because I was never getting to do what I loved.
Don't get me wrong, I cared deeply for him, and would never have hurt him, but just found this hard.
Did you ever feel like you had been conned, cheated even ? As they had misrepresented themselves to you ?
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jahzah: But your talking about superficial men that used to enjoy holding that power over women
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
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GingerBe: I understand but people can't account for everything before they marry.
I had a partner once,who disliked going out to any place except a pub. He wouldn't have liked me doing things on my own.
I'm not a pub kind of person but love galleries and theatre.
I loved dancing, and he was a good dancer, but he wouldn't go dancing , even though we had met in a pub on a new's year's eve at a dance........
I said it didn't matter to me if we went out or not, after he had said no a few times, but with time it became something that niggled at me and made me unhappy, because I was never getting to do what I loved.
Don't get me wrong, I cared deeply for him, and would never have hurt him, but just found this hard.
I had a partner once,who disliked going out to any place except a pub. He wouldn't have liked me doing things on my own.
I'm not a pub kind of person but love galleries and theatre.
I loved dancing, and he was a good dancer, but he wouldn't go dancing , even though we had met in a pub on a new's year's eve at a dance........
I said it didn't matter to me if we went out or not, after he had said no a few times, but with time it became something that niggled at me and made me unhappy, because I was never getting to do what I loved.
Don't get me wrong, I cared deeply for him, and would never have hurt him, but just found this hard.
who knows, maybe we are not meant to stay together for too long
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Boban1: Trust issue ???
I don`t think so ... ether I have seen too much and say it like it is
or Im from another dimension
I don`t think so ... ether I have seen too much and say it like it is
or Im from another dimension
Oooo talk naughty to me in alien Mr. spaceman! You big hunk of burning extraterrestrial love
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Interesting thread.
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jahzah: But your talking about superficial men that used to enjoy holding that power over women
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
Kindness and appreciation are beautiful starts indeed!!
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jahzah: But your talking about superficial men that used to enjoy holding that power over women
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
There is lots of stuff real man do naturally to show their love starting at kindness and appreciation
Hi J..so true and right you are...nice to see chivalry is NOT dead..that's the start of one thing I can appreciate most in a man...being a gentleman!
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jahzah: ALL ABOARD!!!
My name is Paul
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venusenvy: Oooo talk naughty to me in alien Mr. spaceman! You big hunk of burning extraterrestrial love
My Klingon is a bit rusty ,but I can show you some dandy moves...
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Boban1: well a nice divorce is still better that a bad marriage
Don't think any divorce is "nice" but it sure beats a bad marriage!!!
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lilmamma71: Same thing here...he got threatened when I went to business college and thwarted me by tearing up homework, throwing tantrums, sabotaging my car, and telling me that once I became educated I wouldn't "need" him anymore.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
Sounds like we could swap "sabotage" stories sometime!!
Agree on your last paragraph!!
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lilmamma71: Same thing here...he got threatened when I went to business college and thwarted me by tearing up homework, throwing tantrums, sabotaging my car, and telling me that once I became educated I wouldn't "need" him anymore.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
Amen again.
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kidatheart: Interesting thread.
Started by your truely!!!
You gonna bare your mind/heart to us?
We'll be gentle with you if you play nice!!
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lilmamma71: Same thing here...he got threatened when I went to business college and thwarted me by tearing up homework, throwing tantrums, sabotaging my car, and telling me that once I became educated I wouldn't "need" him anymore.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
I tried to tell him it was a different kind of "need," and that while I was getting my degree, I was intent on doing it for US and our family---he thought if he kept me at home, cut off from my family and friends and society, he could control me, belittle me, break my spirit and be abusive towards me. For awhile it worked, but then I woke up.
You can't reach the potential you have in life when you have someone insecure and suspicious holding you back. A woman needs an equal partner, capable and strong, and you should be your partners greatest support network, cheerleader and best friend.
People never get anywhere by controlling and being abusive. JMHO.
I reckon he was the insecure one and you certainly did the right thing
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Boban1: Trust issue ???
I don`t think so ... ether I have seen too much and say it like it is
or Im from another dimension
I don`t think so ... ether I have seen too much and say it like it is
or Im from another dimension
Well, you're from another dimension to me.
To me love and trust are pretty much the same thing.
And if someone didn't trust me to go out with my friends, then not only do they not love me, they have absolutely no idea who the hell I am.
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a stranger who doesn't love me.
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venusenvy: Maybe confidence grows as love does.
Oooo, I like that. Yes, I can see that to be true.
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lilmamma71: hahaha, imagine the ones your grammy wore with the full seat in the back, and extended from your belly button to about the mid-thigh...like the ones in Bridget Jones (loved Hugh Grants line..."hello, what are these??!?!?! OH..come to me Mommy!)hehehehe
AKA: Bloomers
AKA: Bloomers
Bloomers look best when being took off
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StillOfTheNight: Bloomers look best when being took off
Don't you mean peeled....you can't take those off without great effort..cause I wear mine bolted to my buns!
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No seriously, its easily said, "you need to be more confident", but not so easy to do. I struggle big time with this one.
Maybe confidence grows as love does.