The Moral Compass.... ( Archived) (11)

The moral compass can only point a person in the right direction..it cannot force them to go to...

It seems of late we are raising a generation who we are teaching to not be ashamed of anything they do or say...and it has backfired to the point where they commit heinous crimes...for which they feel no remorse...

The guidelines for discipling children have become so rigid that its as if there are no boundaries for children growing up in the here and now...if children were born knowing right from wrong then they wouldn't need the guidance of parents...yet if a child has done something wrong its the parents that shoulder the blame...is parenting a dying art?

Anyone else seeing this??


*Disclaimer....I am NOT speaking of abusing children here i am speaking of "discipline" the kind we all went through and are still able to be constructive members of our community...

I'm a parent and I've seen it around me and have been disgusted by some of the kids these days! You have children completely disrespecting their parents and getting away with it! It's just amazing, but have you ever sat in on a parenting class. The parents that go to these are being told that they need to talk to their child. Never raise your voice and treat that child like your equal. If that were the case then that child wouldn't need a parent. I understand talking with your child, but until my child is an adult he/she is not an equal. I do not coddle my children, I do encourage them and believe that I am teaching them right from wrong, and they know that there are consequences for all their actions.

i fully agree with you on this one.

Several major problems:

1. Parents are never actually taught to be parents. In fact to try to teach people to be parents would be considered an insult to their very freedom of beliefs etc. So there isn't even any serious attempt to teach people to be good parents.

2. Far too many parents allow TV, computer games, and Public or Private Schools to raise their children for them.

3. Another truth that most parents don't even want to own up to, is the fact that they want to live their own lives as well, and their kids are just going to have to deal with it. This is especially true of young couples who are still trying to grab all the gusto they can.

4. Even if the parents are seriously GREAT, the kids are still being bombarded with huge amounts of distorted corruptions from TV, schools and peer pressure.

If I were raising kids, I'd home school them all the up to college level. I'd raise them in a very rural area, and I keep them actively participating in productive project from a very early age. Not harshly disciplined at all. I would entice them into doing these things lovingly. They would all play at least one musical instrument of their choice, and they would sign together as a family around the campfire, or into fireplace. We'd all eat together, and we'd all do the dishes together.

I'm an old-fashioned guy. Give me the Walton's or the Little House. All LOVE, no harsh dictatorship. Encouragement and inspiration are the key. And the cities can go down the tubes for all I care.

I think that I mentioned this in an earlier post. That children are so spoiled that they are growing up only thinking of themselves. Caring for no one else and doing whatever it takes to get what they want. So that when they are adults they will not have the compassion, and concern that it takes to make decisions as a whole, that aren't only in "their" own best interest. I worry what this is going to do to the future of our world as we know it.
I have never seen an unruly child and not thought it was of the parents doing.
I believe that some parents just do not want to take the time it takes to raise our children to become responsible adults.
It could, to be fair. Be because they are feeling guilty for having to work so much and spend so little time with them that they let this be a problem without realizing it.
Kat

I have noticed a change in the wind.

I do not know if the next generation is doing it themselves or if some have been raised and are effecting the rest but I am seeing signs of responsibility and forthrightness in some of our youth.

I agree with the total decay of enforcing responsibilities and consequence of actions of the kids of today. they do not know of being responsibile for their atittudes or actions and no llonger fear the consequencesof them...

Me too! Responsibility and caring teenagers are all over the place. Get them one on one or a few in a room, they are sweethearts. Put them in a pack, and they act like teens, like I remember they did when I was a teenager.

My boys were raised mostly by me. They tell me the truth about who and where they have been. I can guide and talk to them but ultimately, they will be left to make their own decisions, better to make them when they are younger so they can learn early.

In some respects if you look at it through their eyes...

They must clean up our (all the past generations) mess. We have passed our consequences on to them.

They have been brought into a world where they are told to turn the other cheek and yet we do not.

They are told the right way to live is... And yet we do not.

I firmly believe that discipline is something you teach to your children by living it.