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Cramp197Waterford, Ireland2 Threads 9 PostsI am a single dad of 2, a little boy and girl, and from my experience it is not only the men who can reject the children . . . .
Happygolucky4u: I think if a person does not want someone with children it is best to lay your cards on the table for all to see. It is not just females many men come with children too. And I can assure you I would want to know if a man felt that children were not what he wanted. It would save everyone alot of bs. Thank you for the honesty and the appropiate individual is some one who loves the child.
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Cramp197: I am a single dad of 2, a little boy and girl, and from my experience it is not only the men who can reject the children . . . .
with the above said, I think you are saying that the mum of your children rejected them.....so if that is the case....how come you state in your profile your children live with you sometimes?
just a question...
but I have the same thoughts.....it's not all men who reject children....there are women rejecting children too.
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There is nothing wrong with either opinion, either you are willing to accept somebody's children or not! If it is for you then great if not that is great too. I just know that I would not like to go out with somebody who is not willing to accept the fact that I have children, after all they are the most important thing in my life. I love my children above all else, however that does not mean that I don't have a lot of love, time, and attention to devote to my significant other! Life is about prioritizing and making sure that all those in your life know how much you love and care for them. I know that the person who I end up with will have just as much respect for me as I for him, and we will accept each other fully.
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jebencla: We men are being ,corrected, rediculed,twisted,possibly condemned for making a choice to be looking for females without offsprings,,for the want of not accepting females with offspring we may be the worst thing out,,,,here it comes,,,,Where are the fathers ,,they are the appropiate individuals.
i'm a single mother but that doesn't mean my sons father isn't around. in actual fact we probably have a better relationship that most married parents! i don't think people think anything of men who look for women without kids though. you want what you want.
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jebencla: We men are being ,corrected, rediculed,twisted,possibly condemned for making a choice to be looking for females without offsprings,,for the want of not accepting females with offspring we may be the worst thing out,,,,here it comes,,,,Where are the fathers ,,they are the appropiate individuals.
Just because a woman with children is hoping to another partner, doesn't automatically mean they are also looking for a replacement father,many fathers remain part of their childs lifeI think its sad so many men jump to the same conclusion as you
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morgan5: Just because a woman with children is hoping to another partner, doesn't automatically mean they are also looking for a replacement father,many fathers remain part of their childs life
I think its sad so many men jump to the same conclusion as you
I can't begin to tell you how much trouble, and an infinity of problems, it causes for two men, one being the "ex", to facilitate this. (hint: it's not as easy as Dr. Phil would have you believe. Really, it ISN'T. Trust me.) You know what's going to happen? A constant resentment. Heaviness in the air. Short tempers. Tense situations. It's a bad, bad deal.I think its sad so many men jump to the same conclusion as you
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trueheart1941: having a ready made family would,nt worry me...what would worry me tho.........is .........wuold they accept me..... .......????
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Ccincy: There are some fathers who don't take responsibility for their children.
There are some women who feel the same about not dating men who have children.
So it's not just the men catching the heat.
There are some women who feel the same about not dating men who have children.
So it's not just the men catching the heat.
Men who don't date a woman JUST because they have a child are lame, ignorent a**hole... A lot of women (like myself) have been in a relationship had a child & then the relationship broke up!! It doesn't make us "spoiled goods" We are just as good as women who don't & in truth we wudn't wana date arrogent, pig headed a**hole like urself anyway so ur doin us a favour not showin an interest!! I hope someday u end up in my position & get judged by a shallow minded creep like urself!!!
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jebencla: We men are being ,corrected, rediculed,twisted,possibly condemned for making a choice to be looking for females without offsprings,,for the want of not accepting females with offspring we may be the worst thing out,,,,here it comes,,,,Where are the fathers ,,they are the appropiate individuals.
its everyone's right to choose what kind of a partner they want. and if you dont want one who has children then thats entirely up to you. i dont see why you would be ridiculed for making your own personal choice 
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Twinks11: Men who don't date a woman JUST because they have a child are lame, ignorent a**hole... A lot of women (like myself) have been in a relationship had a child & then the relationship broke up!! It doesn't make us "spoiled goods" We are just as good as women who don't & in truth we wudn't wana date arrogent, pig headed a**hole like urself anyway so ur doin us a favour not showin an interest!! I hope someday u end up in my position & get judged by a shallow minded creep like urself!!!
And that is exactly the type of nonsense and jumping to judgement the OP is taking about.
It is the individuals chose as to who they date. As with some of the other women who have posted in this thread I have raised my family and do not want to date a man with young children. Does that make me a shallow minded creep? eh no.
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......there is a big difference between childless dames and mothers......their brains and outlook are vastly different.....so you do not want a girl with rug rats........or grand rug rats....so what.....?!.....it is your life........your preference.......the ones that criticize are mean mothers......not one mother in 1000 knows how to regain her femininity......
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jebencla: We men are being ,corrected, rediculed,twisted,possibly condemned for making a choice to be looking for females without offsprings,,for the want of not accepting females with offspring we may be the worst thing out,,,,here it comes,,,,Where are the fathers ,,they are the appropiate individuals.
Well at least you are honest,
I have kids, one lives with me, but kids grow up! And leave the nest to make their own,
I don’t see having kids as a negative, after all who is going to look after you in your old age?
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For the men who don't take resonsability for their own children they aren't worthy of being called a man much less a DAD. For those men who are willing to eccept and love children of the women thewy date you rock and are true men of character. For those men who won't date a woman because she has children , well thats your loss man your losing out on something important in life.
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A lot of men think the word DAD is just their right , but to me , a father of 3 girls , this word is to be earnt.
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I agree with you whole heartedly my dear ! I do not have any children of my own, wish I did, but I do not.Every child deserves to have loving parents wheteher separated or divorced or living together. Every parent should honour their children and show them unconditional love allways.Any new parent whetehr divorced or separated should never judge another parent based on wheteher they have children or not. Each person has their objectives, likes and dislikes and should be respected for their interests, views and type of personality. If we were all of the same personalities, we would be a rather boring bunch to say the least.
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Glatlol: And that is exactly the type of nonsense and jumping to judgement the OP is taking about.
It is the individuals chose as to who they date. As with some of the other women who have posted in this thread I have raised my family and do not want to date a man with young children. Does that make me a shallow minded creep? eh no.
It is the individuals chose as to who they date. As with some of the other women who have posted in this thread I have raised my family and do not want to date a man with young children. Does that make me a shallow minded creep? eh no.
Nonscense?????
Is there something wrong with being offended by people judging me because I am a single mum??? I genuinely don't care whether a man wants 2 date me or not but it is shallow 2 totally disregard an individual u are attracted to just because they have a child!
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Ccincy: There are some fathers who don't take responsibility for their children.
There are some women who feel the same about not dating men who have children.
So it's not just the men catching the heat.
There are some women who feel the same about not dating men who have children.
So it's not just the men catching the heat.
So true,
I saw my father last time I was five years old. And last time I spoke to him was last summer, I wish I didn't.
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morgan5: I think its a little sad to rule out the possibility of a relationship with anyone because they have a child, that applies to both genders.
In alot of cases the natural father/mother are part of a child's life, once the relationship is over and that to me thats how it should be when possible. Because a child is part of a persons life doesn't mean they can't go on to have a relationship with another partner.
End of the day its down to choice, women/men with children aren't always looking for a replacement parent. jmo
In alot of cases the natural father/mother are part of a child's life, once the relationship is over and that to me thats how it should be when possible. Because a child is part of a persons life doesn't mean they can't go on to have a relationship with another partner.
End of the day its down to choice, women/men with children aren't always looking for a replacement parent. jmo
Personally, I don’t mind if someone has kids but it isn't sad for someone to refuse to date someone without kids. Maybe they are not ready to be a parent and know that. That is just being responsible. It’s possible they don’t like kids. No matter if the father is involved in the child’s life or not, the boyfriend of their mother still has to be involved in their life and be a positive role model. How can you say that it is sad? Women do the same thing and worse. There are many women that will not date men unless they make a certain amount of money, are a certain height, have certain types of jobs, certain types of cars, etc. The people that will not date someone for any reason may be losing out but it is there choice. We all think differently and are in different situations and to judge them because they are not ready for kids is silly.
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woodstock1: ......there is a big difference between childless dames and mothers......their brains and outlook are vastly different.....so you do not want a girl with rug rats........or grand rug rats....so what.....?!.....it is your life........your preference.......the ones that criticize are mean mothers......not one mother in 1000 knows how to regain her femininity......
This man is exactly the reason that I give out... U don't know me I'm 27 & I'm extremely feminine!!! I hav a 6 month old son who I love very much & care 4 to the best of my ability but that doesn't make me un-dateable! I'm far from past it, I still hav a lot 2 offer a man & I think u have a nerve calling kids rug-rats & making crude remarks about mean mothers!!! What a pig, I'm glad u wudn't be with a single mum cos u don't sound fit 2 be around children!!!!!
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Twinks11: Nonscense?????
Is there something wrong with being offended by people judging me because I am a single mum??? I genuinely don't care whether a man wants 2 date me or not but it is shallow 2 totally disregard an individual u are attracted to just because they have a child!
Is there something wrong with being offended by people judging me because I am a single mum??? I genuinely don't care whether a man wants 2 date me or not but it is shallow 2 totally disregard an individual u are attracted to just because they have a child!
Some of the people who choose to NOT get involved with someone who is raising their children is NOT making a judgement on the person who has the children OR the children themselves. Not at all. It´s no reflection at all on the parent & child/children.
It´s about being clear with oneself how one sees the future.
In my own case, from the age of 20 till I was in my late 40´s, my life has pretty much been centered around kids: 2 step-children (not full-time but weekends and holidays) then my own children, then grand-children. Also working as a secondary school teacher for 16 years somewhere in there...
Now .... Well, now I wish to be able to do all the things I lovingly gave up to spend weekends and any holidays with my step-children in my early 20´s, then came my own 2 children, then when I was supporting my daughter with her first born, and last but not least all the things I didn´t do because I was also busy preparing lessons and marking books for my (most of them) lovely students ...
I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo NOT raising anymore kids!
Although, I would make an exception for my own grandchildren should the need arise!!
You may call it shallow ... I call it being able to dedicate the latter part of my years to other projects ...
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