Here's one for the men.............. ( Archived) (75)

Unfortunately; relationships are all built on lies as people don't know how to be honest. I think I read once that if all people were honest in a relationship; there would be no relationships. Well, I wouldn't lie in a relationship which is why I am single as honestly people can't handle the truth. I don't believe in sugar coating anything. If a guy is not a good lover; I would tell him, or if he was overweight; I would tell him. I would expect him to be equally honest with me.

How are you feeling Jeepers?

I would never tell a man his love making didn't meet my expectations.......unless he asked me. And I definitely wouldn't tell him that he was too heavy. I met a men from CS who told me in email that he lost a lot of weight. When I met him he was still obese and I was surprised but he never knew that it bothered me. In fact, I kept seeing him for about a month until other problems came about. I don't have a perfect body so I'm not in a position to tell someone else that they are overweight. When we accept people for how they think and how they treat others then we will have a better chance of finding the right match.

Pounds can be lost but personalities don't change.

Seems like men do lie more than women...

"Men lie six times a day and twice as often as women, study finds."

Top ten lies men tell:

1. Nothing's wrong, I'm fine
2. This will be my last pint
3. No, your bum doesn't look big in that
4. I had no signal
5. My battery died
6. Sorry, I missed your call
7. I didn't have that much to drink
8. I'm on my way
9. It wasn't that expensive
10. I'm stuck in traffic

Top ten lies women tell:

1. Nothing's wrong, I'm fine
2. Oh, this isn't new, I've had it ages
3. It wasn't that expensive
4. It was in the sale
5. I'm on my way
6. I don't know where it is, I haven't touched it
7. I didn't have that much to drink
8. I've got a headache
9. No, I didn't throw it away
10. Sorry, I missed your call

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I just love an honest liar...
I ,too will lie to protect someones feelings but never for personal gain.. I can't lie to save myself really but am probably too honest for my own good sometimes

My mother lied, so i inherited it from her.

Hi Montecito, just now seeing this. I feel pretty darn good, thanks for asking. How about you ?

I make a lousy liar as I couldn't look a person in they eye and lie even to protect their feelings. That is the one thing I never mastered nor do I care too.

why lie? and i don't think it is gender specific.

i caught someone telling me a lie recently, and although it was probably done out of caring for me...it wasn't necessary, and it undermined my ability to trust them further. i don't want to be in relationship with anyone at any level, where i have to spend time trying to sort if they are telling me the truth or not. (and i am referring to their 'truth' ....as we each have our own...and then there's that one in the middle as well...lol)

often i think perhaps it's the lack of ability to know how to say something which precipiatates the lie?

i've been there myself...but i have learned to use phrases like..

i'm not ready to discuss it right now. we'll have to come back to it.

i'm not sure how to say what i want to say...i'll get back to you on it.

i need to think more about this, before i have a response for you.

and when pressured...i just repeat...i have already answered your question. i need time to think about it, because i do think it's important, and i will get back to you on it when i am ready to do so.

jmho