Jealousy ( Archived) (136)

These days, yes.

Enjoy your lunch and save a little bit for the hound

I do agree Jac, it's interesting to hear different opinions from different people - and it gives you an idea about a good few people

I'm not sure I understand your question, Ccincy, but I'll try to explain my reasoning.

Tom followed a train of thought which originated from him saying something to the effect of, if you have feelings of jealousy because your partner is attending to someone else, you should gain back that attention by deliberately attempting to incite jealousy in your partner.

I argued against that, but instead of following the argument through, Tom copied someone else's writing without crediting them and without relating it to his previous comments. I didn't understand why he did that.

As for Rump, he also copied someone else's writing without crediting them and so was passing it off as his own. This particular piece he copied, I found interesting in its abusive and sociopathic structuring, particularly as its presented in the original as successful relationship advice.

Both Tom's original train of debate and Rump's copy were focussed upon game playing as a solution to relationship conflict, rather than communication. I believe they're destructive solutions.

The learning and progress for me is spotting game playing over effective communication and also that which constitutes effective communication, or appropriate behaviour.

I think its quite important to be able to recognise abusive and sociopathic techniques so we are neither subject to them, nor do we take them on board as ethical, or appropriate practices.

jac I wasn't referring to Tom's post but since you wish to bring him into the discussion I would suggest you go read post #59 of his.I totally agree with him.

In defense of Tom he does quite often post a link to what he posts.



As for Rump or whatever he chooses to call himself I'm not to awfully worried nor concerned about him.He's a know it all kid anyway. My son's not to much younger then him and still thinks he knows everything about life.

It's funny just how much some of those kinds of people who think they're such the experts on everything.Heck I'm 64 and I'm still learning.I doubt if we ever quit learning.



The forums just aren't that much fun anymore when some people come off as know it alls about just about everything.


There doesn't seem to be much laughter anymore.I rarely log in much anymore and just read and only log in when and if I see something worth posting to.
I wonder if the lack of fun could be the reason behind some people leaving or not posting in the forums anymore.Just before I left the site I noticed a coldness within the forums.Then during the presidential stuff I came back and saw nothing had really changed.Still scammers and still infighting.


Sometimes I think that maybe the sites owners should change the name from Connecting Singles to Disconnecting singles.Plus have a sign that reads enter at your own risk.To be perfectly honest jac the internet scares me to death.


Not saying I'm perfect and haven't said things out of the way too but gee whiz it doesn't seem to take much to set most people off these days.I'd be totally scared to death to meet some people on here or date them wondering if they display the very same personality they do on here.

OOO you are awful,, but I do like you

Go drink beer, you t*sser. It might improve your debate technique.

backatya

Pubs aren't open yet but I'll have one for you when they do.


You are merely discrediting yourself by appearing intransigent and making unreasonable accusations, and acting a bit frumpish and humourless.

But if it makes you happy you win dear