Expectation and love (28)
WoolGatheringAthens, Attica Greece1 Threads 4 PostsWe fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
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Fall in love with someone for who they are, don't have too many Expectations, he or she may not be able to live up to all of them, that's where problems arise
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WoolGathering: expectations
Why? Isn't love all about being with someone because you "love" the way they are, not how you expect them to be??
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WoolGathering: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
I don't believe you can change a person, I just take someone as he is.
The problem is, will this someone show his real personality?
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if you have too much expectation, you may come away disappointed.
-dalai lama-
i think, one falls in love, when they accept the other for who they are, and focus on those things which strengthen and bring joy to the We, with support of each partner's individual growth.
if the emphasis is on unreal expectations from the other, i don't think this is love. i think this is falling in love with an ideal, and sometimes one can become victim to their own ideals, placing the importance on what they expect from the other, rather than on the We. and when this creates disharmony, it is not the relationship or the other that they lament, but the unfulfillment of a dream they had.
-dalai lama-
i think, one falls in love, when they accept the other for who they are, and focus on those things which strengthen and bring joy to the We, with support of each partner's individual growth.
if the emphasis is on unreal expectations from the other, i don't think this is love. i think this is falling in love with an ideal, and sometimes one can become victim to their own ideals, placing the importance on what they expect from the other, rather than on the We. and when this creates disharmony, it is not the relationship or the other that they lament, but the unfulfillment of a dream they had.
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WoolGathering: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
Fall on Bed is Good
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jono7: if you have too much expectation, you may come away disappointed.
-dalai lama-
i think, one falls in love, when they accept the other for who they are, and focus on those things which strengthen and bring joy to the We, with support of each partner's individual growth.
if the emphasis is on unreal expectations from the other, i don't think this is love. i think this is falling in love with an ideal, and sometimes one can become victim to their own ideals, placing the importance on what they expect from the other, rather than on the We. and when this creates disharmony, it is not the relationship or the other that they lament, but the unfulfillment of a dream they had.
Hi Jono ,when u r Going to fall inlove ?-dalai lama-
i think, one falls in love, when they accept the other for who they are, and focus on those things which strengthen and bring joy to the We, with support of each partner's individual growth.
if the emphasis is on unreal expectations from the other, i don't think this is love. i think this is falling in love with an ideal, and sometimes one can become victim to their own ideals, placing the importance on what they expect from the other, rather than on the We. and when this creates disharmony, it is not the relationship or the other that they lament, but the unfulfillment of a dream they had.
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ali110: Hi Jono ,when u r Going to fall inlove ?
she already loves me alot
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ali110: Hi Jono ,when u r Going to fall inlove ?
hiya Ali
just a minute, .....
...looking on my calendar now..yup...tuesdays looks good...
ps: Ali...i don't 'fall' in love, i 'rise'
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jono7: hiya Ali
just a minute, ..... ...looking on my calendar now..
yup...tuesdays looks good...
ps: Ali...i don't 'fall' in love, i 'rise'
ohh ,rise inlove ,it is new thingjust a minute, ..... ...looking on my calendar now..
yup...tuesdays looks good...
ps: Ali...i don't 'fall' in love, i 'rise'
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ali110: ohh ,rise inlove ,it is new thing
Ali bhai aik pe hath rakho,
sab leke jaoge to hum jese kiya karenge?
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WoolGathering: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
Once you fall in love with expectations - that is the beginning of the end
Change expectation to acceptation and there is a chance for a great relationship.
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real_khan: Ali bhai aik pe hath rakho,
sab leke jaoge to hum jese kiya karenge?
Sub meri hain sab leke jaoge to hum jese kiya karenge?
Hw r u Real ?
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ali110: Sub meri hain
Hw r u Real ?
Hw r u Real ?
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WoolGathering: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
we fall inlove in the image we create in our mind about a certain person
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ali110: Sub meri hain
Hw r u Real ?
Hw r u Real ?
I am fine bro,
what's going on?
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I think we all have some expectations of what we basically want in a partner, Kind , loving, no serious bad habits like drugs gambling, or alcahol. However to try to mold a person to your expectations other then that is a waste of time and you should love the person for who they are , trying to change someone never works they are who they are .
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WoolGathering: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
There must be something about that person if we have expectations from him! We don't have expectations about just everyone, so I suppose there is bit of both. It is a different thing how we deal with the disappointment when our great expectations do not come true - do we learn to love them as they are or look for someone who will match these expectations? The success may be in the answer!
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In response to: We fall in love with somebody or with the expectation that we have from him / her ?
That's the difference between Love & Oneitis.
Love is loving everything about a person, including the things that you don't like, and subordinating your sense of expectation to your sense of commitment when things don't go your way.
Oneitis is the pedestal. Expecting/insisting that the other person is special when in fact they are not and you find yourself enthralled to illusionary perfections.. for worse or worser.
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