Count_Me_In: No, a woman should not be judged for mistakes of her past.........unless she's done time for doing in the last hubby!!! Might like to reconsider...
no!Becuz some women may make mistakes base on the circumstances or situation they would of being in at that time,and in being like that they would do the wrong thing,but as time go by as adults we get reasoning and wisdom to correct what we have done, so I would not judge a woman base on her past mistakes.
Anna91: i say no,, it what she does in her future that matters!
The term you should never judge a book by the cover applies here too. we all make mistakes in life, that's the beauty of learning, but what if the mistake made crops up again. What we have is a mistake but not clear what the mistake is. If the mistake crops up again then she is the one who hasn't learnt by the last one and therefore can be judged.
A man should always give the benefit of the doubt no matter what.
Anna91: i say no,, it what she does in her future that matters!
in the heading of this thread you do say mistakes. On one mistake no but when you make it plural then the other 100 are not mistakes so now you will go to hell where you will burn for eternity
Anna91: i say no,, it what she does in her future that matters!
First, let us note you wrote in the plural. MistakeS, not the singular mistake. This to me implies repeated errors in judgment or what the older than 21 people refer to as 'pre-disposed.'
So we have someone who is pre-disposed to make mistakes. What kind is very relevant. If the mistakes are severe enough society probably noticed and there may have been a court ruling. Sometimes when I avoid intimate relations with such persons it isn't judgmental but rather instead awareness combining with self preservation. Because there are bullets in my house, I could (here in the US) go to jail if I knowingly let you (a convicted felon) in and didn't watch you closely the whole time. If you pocket a single piece of ammo or a grain of powder, I have granted you access to and face 5 years. So I don't date those women, or drop them when the past becomes known. Let them find a non-hunter, and good luck to them. Not judgmental, but self-preservation.
Then there are the lesser mistakes. Children. She has kids, and they aren't my own? Virginia (the regional government hereabouts) came out with a horrid court ruling about a decade ago. If a man accepts a woman and children of another man, and provides support to those children, then when the relationship ends, that man may still find himself liable for child support until the children are of age, even though he is not the father. You have kids? Guess what? It isn't judgmental as I leave you standing there, it is financial self preservation. In my youth I once lived with a woman who had a child. I was in another state too. Lovely kid. We (the mom and I) broke up. I missed the kid a lot to, for years. Back then it was, whatever. No consequences. In this state, that would no longer be the rule. Had it happened in the here and now, when she leaves she may be taking a part of my income, and future income, with her. So for as long as I reside here, if you have children, keep on walking.
Tattoos. They are a clear violation of the 2nd Commandment. Yes, so is my photography and sometimes this troubles me. I grow more troubled by seeing a tattoo on a pretty woman. To me it is a statement against and an intentional insult to God. He has his own way of getting even, so that is not my job. No doubt her life began turning to kaka right around the time she got the tattoo. Not my worry, that is between her and Him. Would I knowingly date a woman with a tattoo? I don't recall it ever being the sole determining factor, but I am also unable to recall ever dating someone where I noticed a tattoo on them before we began dating (meet n greets over coffee don't count as dates). Hidden tattoos. If you have a tattoo in a personal place, that is, and always will be, a constant reminder to the man, there is nothing special about this relationship to you, because you have allowed lots of people, even strangers in tattoo parlors to handle these places before, so nothing about this relationship is to be viewed seriously or as special. I don't see a reaction to a tattoo on an erogenous zone as judgmental. I see it as a practical situation awareness.
Multiple lovers (maybe some very bad choices). No, I have never held that against the woman. Frankly I don't get to date people as young as you that much anymore. Most of my partners have a few years more on them, so I enter the relationship with an expectation she has been with someone else a few times. No training required. YeHah.
Anna91: i say no,, it what she does in her future that matters!
If whatever it is remains in the past and isn't carried into a new relationship, I don't see why someone should be judged. Oh, and it's a two way street.
Why not,women are capable of judging men on their past also.If its personalised judgement its not very nice for either side but in some cases it might be the truth and those people don't want to face up to it. Everyone gauges each others behavior to see if they are suitable and/or acceptable to begin a relationship with.
sirLarryIII: Why not,women are capable of judging men on their past also.If its personalised judgement its not very nice for either side but in some cases it might be the truth and those people don't want to face up to it. Everyone gauges each others behavior to see if they are suitable and/or acceptable to begin a relationship with.
sirLarryIII: Why not,women are capable of judging men on their past also.If its personalised judgement its not very nice for either side but in some cases it might be the truth and those people don't want to face up to it. Everyone gauges each others behavior to see if they are suitable and/or acceptable to begin a relationship with.
This is true but quite difficult to do if someone is a master at holding back pertinent information about their past that may impact a potential relationship.
sirLarryIII: snip Everyone gauges each others behavior to see if they are suitable and/or acceptable to begin a relationship with.
That is it in a nutshell. We are not equipped to gauge future behavior. Our self preservation (and that of our gene pool) demands good selections of mates. Our only yardstick is the candidates prior behavior and what we see today in the here and now. Neither one will be ignored.
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