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steffffieChicago, Illinois USA8 Threads 598 PostsI can only agree with rebel's comment 
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Obstinance_Works: No, it's not a bad idea. Anybody with someone because they have don't have the opportunity to cheat is kind of missing the point of what fidelity means.
It's a actually a good idea(particularly for the Husband to still go out). Him maintaining his social prowess is the equivalent of her maintaing a slender and supple body. If her indoors turns him into a shut-in then his charisma and personality will lapse and this may very well result in her leaving him. Remember, the greatest liability to any relationship is the woman getting bored.
It's a actually a good idea(particularly for the Husband to still go out). Him maintaining his social prowess is the equivalent of her maintaing a slender and supple body. If her indoors turns him into a shut-in then his charisma and personality will lapse and this may very well result in her leaving him. Remember, the greatest liability to any relationship is the woman getting bored.
I agree with you except on a couple of points - it's equally important for both spouses to retain their prowess as long as it's merely looking at the menu and not ordering; and, the greatest liability to a relationship is complacence which comes from taking each other for granted. A little insecurity in both spouses keeps everyone on their toes and the relationship interesting.
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KenAdams101: I agree! It`s ok if you do it occasionally, to rarely. But anything more than that. I would see that Idea have alot more tilt to the heading for disaster in time.
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We should trust our couple.
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Married people having exclusively SINGLE friends????? Is this what the majority calls NORMAL.-
lalasierra: Do you think it's a bad idea for married people to go out for nights on the town, night clubbing or to social gatherings with their single friends? Is this a recipe for disaster for the married couple?
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lalasierra: Do you think it's a bad idea for married people to go out for nights on the town, night clubbing or to social gatherings with their single friends? Is this a recipe for disaster for the married couple?
No. Something I learned in college psychology (which, by nature of the material, teaches to discern, rather than accept) is that disliking and/or being jealous of a partner going out with others, or going 'stag', is a far WORSE problem, as stable and secure relationships DON'T harbor jealousy. { If jealousy exists, then the relationship is already in trouble, for the jealousy equals fear of infidelity, emotional or sensuous, and there need not be a real reason for the jealousy, the jealousy in and of itself is the catalyst, not the 'true' or 'false' of the matter. It is the jealousy that wrecks the friendship, not the absence or presence of an actual factor.------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: No. Something I learned in college psychology (which, by nature of the material, teaches to discern, rather than accept) is that disliking and/or being jealous of a partner going out with others, or going 'stag', is a far WORSE problem, as stable and secure relationships DON'T harbor jealousy. { If jealousy exists, then the relationship is already in trouble, for the jealousy equals fear of infidelity, emotional or sensuous, and there need not be a real reason for the jealousy, the jealousy in and of itself is the catalyst, not the 'true' or 'false' of the matter. It is the jealousy that wrecks the friendship, not the absence or presence of an actual factor.
It's amazing, and scary, what people will accept as healthy behavior, in or out of a relationship.
I get the feeling most people are their own recipe for a disaster just by virtue of the way they think.
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lalasierra: Do you think it's a bad idea for married people to go out for nights on the town, night clubbing or to social gatherings with their single friends? Is this a recipe for disaster for the married couple?
I think it's a great idea. She goes out with her wench friends... I don't have to buy her a drink and I still get the benefit of her giggly drunken ways when I drag her into the bedroom.
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kidatheart: It's amazing, and scary, what people will accept as healthy behavior, in or out of a relationship.
I get the feeling most people are their own recipe for a disaster just by virtue of the way they think.
So, just wondering if you agree with what I observe, or are there situations and/or standards I'm missing or incorrect about? {I am always willing to adjust or change my view if another can be demonstrated to be better}. Thanks for writing.I get the feeling most people are their own recipe for a disaster just by virtue of the way they think.
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bungallow55: If you want to be independent, do not get married.
Look at me, old but happy and single.
And not an inner wish finding a partner,for the rest of you life?????Look at me, old but happy and single.
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rohaan: So, just wondering if you agree with what I observe, or are there situations and/or standards I'm missing or incorrect about? {I am always willing to adjust or change my view if another can be demonstrated to be better}. Thanks for writing.
I do agree, and I don't see any situation where jealousy is a good thing, so I don't think you're missing anything.
I think people accept these feelings within themselves, because it's easier than dealing with it. Same for insecurities, easier to mask them than confront them, and work on being a healthier person overall.
I find it especially disturbing when they blame someone else for their jealousy and insecurities.
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In response to: Do you think it's a bad idea for married people to go out for nights on the town, night clubbing or to social gatherings with their single friends? Is this a recipe for disaster for the married couple?
Yes, they can go out with the single friends but came home after that... People around to talk and have friend... Married not mean everything you have to do together.., you still got your own spect..
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kidatheart: I do agree, and I don't see any situation where jealousy is a good thing, so I don't think you're missing anything.
I think people accept these feelings within themselves, because it's easier than dealing with it. Same for insecurities, easier to mask them than confront them, and work on being a healthier person overall.
I find it especially disturbing when they blame someone else for their jealousy and insecurities.
Thankx. But now I'm jealous. (You offered to sell your skivvies to Serene). I can't think of a time I've been so hurt. I mean it. I think people accept these feelings within themselves, because it's easier than dealing with it. Same for insecurities, easier to mask them than confront them, and work on being a healthier person overall.
I find it especially disturbing when they blame someone else for their jealousy and insecurities.
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rohaan: Thankx. But now I'm jealous. (You offered to sell your skivvies to Serene). I can't think of a time I've been so hurt. I mean it. )
That's just a little envy.
I'd offer you a pair, but I've used the rest to wash floors and whatnot around the house. Don't think you want them that dirty.
Freedom!!!!
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Annelise101: Yes, they can go out with the single friends but came home after that... People around to talk and have friend... Married not mean everything you have to do together.., you still got your own spect..
Okay folks, is anyone gonna propose this pretty Lady or do I have to do everything around here ...
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Dedovix: Okay folks, is anyone gonna propose this pretty Lady or do I have to do everything around here ...
Sorry, I don't believe in marriage, you may as well do it.
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kidatheart: Sorry, I don't believe in marriage, you may as well do it.
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lalasierra: Do you think it's a bad idea for married people to go out for nights on the town, night clubbing or to social gatherings with their single friends? Is this a recipe for disaster for the married couple?
I always preferred to meet friends with himself.
I never had a problem with someone heading out occasionally during the week for a pint with his friends and he didn't have a problem with going away to see my family. Never had a reason not to trust a partner.
Note the "occasionally", I wouldn't be impressed if someone would spend more time with friends than with me.
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kidatheart: Sorry, I don't believe in marriage, you may as well do it.
I don`t believe in the theory of evolution but I don`t remember turning down a 6 foot tall ,blond atheist with huge bazongas ...
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emerald888: me either!!
I guess you won't be proposing to her either then.
Dedovix: I don`t believe in the theory of evolution but I don`t remember turning down a 6 foot tall ,blond atheist with huge bazongas ...
I'll assume bozongas are breasts, not balls, just to clarify that you're not talking about me.
PS, I'm not offering.
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