Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????. ( Archived) (17)

Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!

"Date messages"??

In before the men start about them not getting any mails

date messages - I mean messages in our in-boxes as most of my contacts are way too young or sounding very unreal - here seems a little more down to earth to me""!!

date messages - I mean messages in our in-boxes as most of my contacts are way too young or sounding very unreal - here seems a little more down to earth to me""!!

I have met people through email alone too.

But the vast majority of the people I have met in real life were people I met in Chat...the now defunct ' speed' version of blogs and forums

I don't know if you have followed the CS Olympics threads but they have been the funniest postings in years and yes this is where most of the Realies hang out, some just like blogging.

The threads can be fun, sometimes they can be extremely dire and repetitive. However, after a time the threads become a safe place to hang out, but at the same time the impetus is lost in respect of meeting and dating someone. I liken the threads to a playground. Most play, flirt, debate, argue etc, and a teeny weeny minority actually hook up behind the bike sheds, or at least attempt to do so.

I suspect most of the "success" or "bike shed" stories are outside the forums. All the dates I've had have been with non forum contributors, so I'm of the opinion they are the CS members who are seriously looking to meet someone. You've probably noticed that there is a high proportion of forum folk who say they "aren't looking" for a variety of reasons and I've noticed that more and more forum posters are adjusting their profiles to say just that. Is that because they have spent so much time on the forums and have forgotten the reason they may have joined CS, or simply because they realise that online dating just isn't as successful as they had anticipated and given up? I don't know, but many people seem to stay on CS to participate in the forums, so yes, in answer to your question, the forums are often more interesting than the messages we receive in our inbox!

I know that, but it's rather sad that people feel they need to lie about it. Why do that? I've read profiles here which actively state their desire to meet someone and a few months later they drastically change to "not looking", "not single".......when regular forum posters know this isn't true, "only here for the forums" etc, etc.