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Feb 19, 2014 4:07 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U
777The14U777The14ULondon, Greater London, England UK5 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!laugh confused
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Feb 19, 2014 4:07 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
2girlsnocup
2girlsnocup2girlsnocupunknown, Greater London, England UK33 Threads 3 Polls 4,040 Posts
777The14U: Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!


"Date messages"?? confused

In before the men start about them not getting any mails laugh
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Feb 19, 2014 5:40 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U
777The14U777The14ULondon, Greater London, England UK5 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
date messages - I mean messages in our in-boxes as most of my contacts are way too young or sounding very unreal - here seems a little more down to earth to me""!!
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Feb 19, 2014 5:40 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U
777The14U777The14ULondon, Greater London, England UK5 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
date messages - I mean messages in our in-boxes as most of my contacts are way too young or sounding very unreal - here seems a little more down to earth to me""!!
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Feb 19, 2014 6:23 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U: date messages - I mean messages in our in-boxes as most of my contacts are way too young or sounding very unreal - here seems a little more down to earth to me""!!


I have met people through email alone too.

But the vast majority of the people I have met in real life were people I met in Chat...the now defunct ' speed' version of blogs and forums
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Feb 19, 2014 6:57 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
KauriMan
KauriManKauriManChristchurch, Canterbury New Zealand8 Threads 1 Polls 1,230 Posts
777The14U: Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!


I don't know if you have followed the CS Olympics threads but they have been the funniest postings in years and yes this is where most of the Realies hang out, some just like blogging.
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Feb 19, 2014 7:00 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
Ana13
Ana13Ana13Winchester, Hampshire, England UK4 Threads 202 Posts
The threads can be fun, sometimes they can be extremely dire and repetitive. However, after a time the threads become a safe place to hang out, but at the same time the impetus is lost in respect of meeting and dating someone. I liken the threads to a playground. Most play, flirt, debate, argue etc, and a teeny weeny minority actually hook up behind the bike sheds, or at least attempt to do so.

I suspect most of the "success" or "bike shed" stories are outside the forums. All the dates I've had have been with non forum contributors, so I'm of the opinion they are the CS members who are seriously looking to meet someone. You've probably noticed that there is a high proportion of forum folk who say they "aren't looking" for a variety of reasons and I've noticed that more and more forum posters are adjusting their profiles to say just that. Is that because they have spent so much time on the forums and have forgotten the reason they may have joined CS, or simply because they realise that online dating just isn't as successful as they had anticipated and given up? I don't know, but many people seem to stay on CS to participate in the forums, so yes, in answer to your question, the forums are often more interesting than the messages we receive in our inbox!
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Feb 19, 2014 7:11 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
skippyguy
skippyguyskippyguyAshburton, Canterbury New Zealand30 Threads 4,989 Posts
Ana13: The threads can be fun, sometimes they can be extremely dire and repetitive. However, after a time the threads become a safe place to hang out, but at the same time the impetus is lost in respect of meeting and dating someone. I liken the threads to a playground. Most play, flirt, debate, argue etc, and a teeny weeny minority actually hook up behind the bike sheds, or at least attempt to do so.

I suspect most of the "success" or "bike shed" stories are outside the forums. All the dates I've had have been with non forum contributors, so I'm of the opinion they are the CS members who are seriously looking to meet someone. You've probably noticed that there is a high proportion of forum folk who say they "aren't looking" for a variety of reasons and I've noticed that more and more forum posters are adjusting their profiles to say just that. Is that because they have spent so much time on the forums and have forgotten the reason they may have joined CS, or simply because they realise that online dating just isn't as successful as they had anticipated and given up? I don't know, but many people seem to stay on CS to participate in the forums, so yes, in answer to your question, the forums are often more interesting than the messages we receive in our inbox!


Good Points ,thumbs up ...though don't believe every one who says they are not looking, there is often contradictory events...
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Feb 19, 2014 7:18 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
Ana13
Ana13Ana13Winchester, Hampshire, England UK4 Threads 202 Posts
skippyguy: Good Points , ...though don't believe every one who says they are not looking, there is often contradictory events...


I know that, but it's rather sad that people feel they need to lie about it. Why do that? I've read profiles here which actively state their desire to meet someone and a few months later they drastically change to "not looking", "not single".......when regular forum posters know this isn't true, "only here for the forums" etc, etc.
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Feb 19, 2014 7:24 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
skippyguy
skippyguyskippyguyAshburton, Canterbury New Zealand30 Threads 4,989 Posts
Ana13: I know that, but it's rather sad that people feel they need to lie about it. Why do that? I've read profiles here which actively state their desire to meet someone and a few months later they drastically change to "not looking", "not single".......when regular forum posters know this isn't true, "only here for the forums" etc, etc.


i think it's kind of a safety net...done for a variety of reasons,
i guess if u say you are not looking you are not accountable dunno
as for ones that change it, i would suggest a bad experience.......
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Feb 19, 2014 7:30 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
Ana13
Ana13Ana13Winchester, Hampshire, England UK4 Threads 202 Posts
skippyguy: i think it's kind of a safety net...done for a variety of reasons,
i guess if u say you are not looking you are not accountable
as for ones that change it, i would suggest a bad experience.......


If I had a bad experience as you say, and I was here to meet someone, I would not let it hamper my reason for being here. That's what I don't understand, not the people who really do only want to participate in forum chat and therefore are not worried or fazed by crackpot members. I think there is something more. hmmm
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Feb 21, 2014 10:34 AM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U
777The14U777The14ULondon, Greater London, England UK5 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
thanks' for your responses...

After only a few weeks, I have learnt, it would be very foolish to pin one's romantic dreams and goals on this site. Nontheless, I remain open to love but suspicious of most of the inbox contacts and have also received one abusive contact when I refused to meet him because he was too young - euggh.

I believe enough in human nature to still know there are some great people here because it stands to reason if I am genuine and sincere I cannot surely be the only person here that is !!!!

So, also I am quite clear even here if I find a guy I think is cute, nice personality, intelligent and in the same country or so on - I'm definitely still looking.... I intend to live till I am 116 therefore I have a good 50+ years of my life to live, love, give and laugh. So any of you gorgeous old 50 year olds ish - have the same Idea come to London and visit me.....lol...I'm a reallie!!
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Feb 21, 2014 10:36 AM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
check_mate
check_matecheck_mateLondon, Greater London, England UK48 Threads 13 Polls 1,374 Posts
777The14U: Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!


Look behind you laugh
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Feb 21, 2014 1:27 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U: Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!
Hard to say. It's a Duke's mixture, wherever the folks hang out.
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Feb 21, 2014 7:40 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
777The14U: Anyone think the threads are more fun than the date messages? Do you think this is where the 'real' people hang out? are we all alone hereeee just the few of us???!!!


weellll....i suppose that would depend on what's in yur mailbox... wink

wine
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Feb 21, 2014 9:06 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
CapricornDancer
CapricornDancerCapricornDancerMelbourne, Victoria Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 191 Posts
In a way it is more fun and interesting. You get more opinions on a topic than you would 'one on one' and I don't think you get so much of people trying to impress each other. It is like meeting in a public place ... if you are not on your best behaviour you will be shunned by the group.
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Feb 21, 2014 9:12 PM CST Anyone think .....threads are more fun and is this where the 'realies' hang out????.
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada36 Threads 1 Polls 10,540 Posts
CapricornDancer: In a way it is more fun and interesting. You get more opinions on a topic than you would 'one on one' and I don't think you get so much of people trying to impress each other. It is like meeting in a public place ... if you are not on your best behaviour you will be shunned by the group.




wave I will try to be on best behaviour then.(Not).laugh
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