What do you see..... (34)
josingleinspain: as selfish behaviour??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
Allowed me to continue.
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What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
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Apparently I see 
what u want me to see 
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I was told I am so sorry this relationship did not work out the way I(him) wanted it too.......
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i view myself as selfish when i act without regard or consideration for others, and how my choices may impact them. that doesn't mean i'm always gonna choose on their behalf, or even i do choose on their behalf, ...doesn't necessarily mean they're gonna like it...
selfishness has a lot to do with perception me thinks....
as for what is the most selfish thing someone has done to me?
respectfully, josingleinspain, i'm not going to go there, as my focus is more about being in the present than depressing myself with events of the past. (don't get me wrong...self reflection is good...but dragging up old wounds doesn't serve me well)
selfishness has a lot to do with perception me thinks....
as for what is the most selfish thing someone has done to me?
respectfully, josingleinspain, i'm not going to go there, as my focus is more about being in the present than depressing myself with events of the past. (don't get me wrong...self reflection is good...but dragging up old wounds doesn't serve me well)
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josingleinspain: as selfish behaviour??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
Selfish is them making you believe it was your fault...
(Not theirs.)
Whatever it was, don't fall into that trap.
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Selfish is a double and triple standard.
What ever happens; if you wouldn't want, certain actions, situations, or environments that will cause concerns; don't do them to some one else.
The same scenario applies in reverse for things that might be more pleasing.
Example and actions will always stick out more loud and clear.
I experience one sided communications more than anything. I'm just not the complacent type for long once I see where things are headed.
What ever happens; if you wouldn't want, certain actions, situations, or environments that will cause concerns; don't do them to some one else.
The same scenario applies in reverse for things that might be more pleasing.
Example and actions will always stick out more loud and clear.
I experience one sided communications more than anything. I'm just not the complacent type for long once I see where things are headed.
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josingleinspain: as selfish behaviour??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
Saying "I don't care", especially when done with snottiness, a smirk. Not being empathetic with fellow men and women is the epitome of discourtesy. If one doesn't care, they really should keep it to themselves. (Don't mean to go on, but this attitude really grinds my senses....people need to be better goodwill ambassadors in the world we all share. JMO)What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
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rohaan: Saying "I don't care", especially when done with snottiness, a smirk. Not being empathetic with fellow men and women is the epitome of discourtesy. If one doesn't care, they really should keep it to themselves. (Don't mean to go on, but this attitude really grinds my senses....people need to be better goodwill ambassadors in the world we all share. JMO)
This is what I feel to take others into consideration in your life.Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
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rohaan: Saying "I don't care", especially when done with snottiness, a smirk. Not being empathetic with fellow men and women is the epitome of discourtesy. If one doesn't care, they really should keep it to themselves. (Don't mean to go on, but this attitude really grinds my senses....people need to be better goodwill ambassadors in the world we all share. JMO)
This is what I feel to take others into consideration in your life.Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
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josingleinspain: as selfish behaviour??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
mind your own business
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jono7: i view myself as selfish when i act without regard or consideration for others, and how my choices may impact them. that doesn't mean i'm always gonna choose on their behalf, or even i do choose on their behalf, ...doesn't necessarily mean they're gonna like it...
selfishness has a lot to do with perception me thinks....
as for what is the most selfish thing someone has done to me?
respectfully, josingleinspain, i'm not going to go there, as my focus is more about being in the present than depressing myself with events of the past. (don't get me wrong...self reflection is good...but dragging up old wounds doesn't serve me well)
selfishness has a lot to do with perception me thinks....
as for what is the most selfish thing someone has done to me?
respectfully, josingleinspain, i'm not going to go there, as my focus is more about being in the present than depressing myself with events of the past. (don't get me wrong...self reflection is good...but dragging up old wounds doesn't serve me well)
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Selfishness is so prevaliant around my part of the world.
Examples
The Ex saying to me "Your Done" She was almost right but now so wrong.
The lazy know it all at the camp" I don't have to do work at the camp cause I bring food" LOL everybody brings food but he brings a buddy and expects him to work for 2.
This guy at work is also special but Oh well.
Examples
The Ex saying to me "Your Done" She was almost right but now so wrong.
The lazy know it all at the camp" I don't have to do work at the camp cause I bring food" LOL everybody brings food but he brings a buddy and expects him to work for 2.
This guy at work is also special but Oh well.
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josingleinspain: This is what I feel to take others into consideration in your life.
Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
She told me she only wanted me for my body , sob, sob.
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josingleinspain: This is what I feel to take others into consideration in your life.
Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
You certainly get a triple A+++ for an excellent question. This of course presents itself in every relationship, and likely, many times. What to do, what to do.....I almost began my answer to you by suggesting compromise, and compromise seems to be brought up by many couple counselors. However, this quote came to mind, and I really see the validity in it: "Compromise means to go just a little bit below what you know is right. It's just a little bit, but it's the little foxes that spoil the vine". How true. The other side of the coin is a love and respect in a relationship. Does there not, even though it is distasteful, a need for some compromise? i.e. she may absolutely hate it that he has a hobby of camping and fishing, and she knew this from the beginning. I say that accepting him in the first place is also to accept THIS, because I tell you in no uncertain terms that a man who loves fishing and camping will not stop doing it. Also, (I am just using this for an example, it could be another thing the other way 'round)imposing one's dislike for anothers' interests is quite unfair. Some things have to be accepted/compromised, and it is up to the other party to find peace with the situation, not to impose parameters on someone he or she loves. Love is about this sort of thing. It's difficult. If you find yourself in a relationship where it is SO difficult to accept the other person's choices, then you are in the wrong relationship, because people are not going to change. It is about YOU, and YOUR ability to adjust. Remember that.Especially within a couple situation. Both parties should be able to do what they enjoy.
Question if a couple goes on holiday should they go to a place he/she chooses although the other party will hate going there???
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What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
What is the most selfish thing somebody has done or said to you??
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rohaan: You certainly get a triple A+++ for an excellent question. This of course presents itself in every relationship, and likely, many times. What to do, what to do.....I almost began my answer to you by suggesting compromise, and compromise seems to be brought up by many couple counselors. However, this quote came to mind, and I really see the validity in it: "Compromise means to go just a little bit below what you know is right. It's just a little bit, but it's the little foxes that spoil the vine". How true. The other side of the coin is a love and respect in a relationship. Does there not, even though it is distasteful, a need for some compromise? i.e. she may absolutely hate it that he has a hobby of camping and fishing, and she knew this from the beginning. I say that accepting him in the first place is also to accept THIS, because I tell you in no uncertain terms that a man who loves fishing and camping will not stop doing it. Also, (I am just using this for an example, it could be another thing the other way 'round)imposing one's dislike for anothers' interests is quite unfair. Some things have to be accepted/compromised, and it is up to the other party to find peace with the situation, not to impose parameters on someone he or she loves. Love is about this sort of thing. It's difficult. If you find yourself in a relationship where it is SO difficult to accept the other person's choices, then you are in the wrong relationship, because people are not going to change. It is about YOU, and YOUR ability to adjust. Remember that.
I mostly agree with you statement but want to ask you this is it a one way street where only one person has to compromise and the other party get all his needs met????When does giving into the other party and accepting them become a place where it is not getting what you need too.------ This thread is Archived ------
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