Flippant Dating Relationships (43)
allthegoodnamest: Truheart.
We can learn so much from the youth.
true...i envey youth....hope your well.....We can learn so much from the youth.
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truheart1941: but it had the desired affect.....it brought a smile to your face......(nice face)......
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Truheart.
I'm well thanks.
You well mate?
I'm well thanks.
You well mate?
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allthegoodnamest: Truheart.
I'm well thanks.
You well mate?
getting there......I'm well thanks.
You well mate?
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truheart1941: getting there......
*Watches tru getting his cane while he says: "getting there"*
*Watches him struggle*
*Asks him: "U need help"*
*Tru says: No thanks, I'm good, how kind of u to ask though*
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Halv0: Relationships are fine china: beautiful, exquisite, and valuable.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
Everyone is different and this is valid for some people, but not for others.
I have no desire to move from one guy to the next. My LTR have been good and while it wasn't fun when it ended, it was good and it is the reason why I do want to have something like this again.
It just would help if people are honest.
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SandraYelitzza2: *Watches tru getting his cane while he says: "getting there"*
*Watches him struggle*
*Asks him: "U need help"*
*Tru says: No thanks, I'm good, how kind of u to ask though*
....thats true.....*Watches him struggle*
*Asks him: "U need help"*
*Tru says: No thanks, I'm good, how kind of u to ask though*
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truheart1941: ....thats true.....
Hi Tru
How's things with you?
Leg coming right?
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KNenagh: Everyone is different and this is valid for some people, but not for others.
I have no desire to move from one guy to the next. My LTR have been good and while it wasn't fun when it ended, it was good and it is the reason why I do want to have something like this again.
It just would help if people are honest.
I have no desire to move from one guy to the next. My LTR have been good and while it wasn't fun when it ended, it was good and it is the reason why I do want to have something like this again.
It just would help if people are honest.
So very true KNenagh.....
Reading the responses here, it is amazing the various interpretations.
I suppose it wasn't nearly as plain as I thought it might be for one to consider what they do to another when they begin a relationship not considering the impact of what they do on another person (who may think that they are committed to them).
I remember the shock after 10 years of marriage when my ex (who had a mental disorder and I had done as much as I could to nurse her, and look after her) decided that I was a used TV to be thrown away, and then on top of it all, to take my daughter and twist her so that she also thinks I am the one with the mental illness - even though it is my ex who is taking the medication.
I have a wonderful relationship with my now wife. The best, but I feel sad that there is this part that has been stolen and that I can't give to her. There is always that hidden wariness and preparedness now preventing 100% trust, a preparedness should what happened before happen again.
This is what I lament. If people are honest, as you rightly say that many aren't (even to themselves) every relationship takes a little bit of the heart and every hurt leaves its scar.
Yes some may be able to heal to the point that they think they are whole, and that is my point also. We can repair, but we will always have that wariness and that memory of what happened, thus guarding in case it occurs again, never giving to another all that we have in case of disaster again.
But as I have said, it is very interesting seeing the different viewpoints and perspectives people have.
I remember reading of this in the ancient texts of ancient sages. They talk of the callous hearts they could see coming on the world because care of the precious heart is not taken seriously.
That is care of another person's heart by each of us.
Some, it is true, have calloused their heart that such things don't really affect them. But a soft, pliable and loving heart is always hurt by another's callousness, carelessness, and insensitivity to the effects that they may have on another. Often I think this blindness is caused by the self-centredness of an individual.
JMO.
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allthegoodnamest: Truheart.
We can learn so much from the youth.
We can learn so much from the youth.
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actually, we can learn from anyone if we put our minds to it, if about nothing else than their perspective, that can be quite valuable
but about relationships....not so much from the youths, on that I agree with you, allthegoodnmaes :)
but about relationships....not so much from the youths, on that I agree with you, allthegoodnmaes :)
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SandraYelitzza2: Ahh... I see, but same goes for men too... I feel like we do waste time with some folks that aren't even worth of it... I'd just move on to the next <--- if he isn't worth it, keep moving on... that's how it works In the end, it's hard for all of us to fall in love again (including me) I agree with the comment that our hearts aren't like the plates... <--- maybe at first, but it reaches to a point in life where we stop caring... then we build a shield around our hearts and don't allow anyone in. (I feel like I've become heartless to the a point where it sometimes scares me... but oh well)
Yeah, some like to take it literally to deflect the intent of what I was meaning it seems. The point is not that a heart is like a plate, but that it is intrinsically fragile when it is connected to another person through love. The connection opens up the 'shields' that you speak of, and it is this that the analogy represents, an open, unshielded heart.
And why do people build up shields and don't let people in, really into their hearts? Because of the damage, the hurt, the breakage that past people have made to them.
I also like the analogy that in some cultures breakages are repaired with gold thus making what was broken more valuable.
I can attest to this occurring in my own life as a result of the love from my wife. But it was not I that was able to repair it to that level, it took her love and her input into my heart and my soul for that repair to that level.
As I responded to KNenagh, the intent is to awaken those who wish to see and to hear, to the personal responsibility we each have to ensure we care for another's heart health in the relationships we choose to enter.
Whether a relationship breaks down or not, is not the point. It is the intent of what we do while we are in that relationship, as much as it lies with us, to care for the other to not 'break their heart'.
Even if one comes to the ultimate conclusion that a relationship must end, it can be done in such a way as to not fracture another as some have done to their ex partners in the past.
JMO.
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Halv0: So very true KNenagh.....
Reading the responses here, it is amazing the various interpretations.
I suppose it wasn't nearly as plain as I thought it might be for one to consider what they do to another when they begin a relationship not considering the impact of what they do on another person (who may think that they are committed to them).
I remember the shock after 10 years of marriage when my ex (who had a mental disorder and I had done as much as I could to nurse her, and look after her) decided that I was a used TV to be thrown away, and then on top of it all, to take my daughter and twist her so that she also thinks I am the one with the mental illness - even though it is my ex who is taking the medication.
I have a wonderful relationship with my now wife. The best, but I feel sad that there is this part that has been stolen and that I can't give to her. There is always that hidden wariness and preparedness now preventing 100% trust, a preparedness should what happened before happen again.
This is what I lament. If people are honest, as you rightly say that many aren't (even to themselves) every relationship takes a little bit of the heart and every hurt leaves its scar.
Yes some may be able to heal to the point that they think they are whole, and that is my point also. We can repair, but we will always have that wariness and that memory of what happened, thus guarding in case it occurs again, never giving to another all that we have in case of disaster again.
But as I have said, it is very interesting seeing the different viewpoints and perspectives people have.
I remember reading of this in the ancient texts of ancient sages. They talk of the callous hearts they could see coming on the world because care of the precious heart is not taken seriously.
That is care of another person's heart by each of us.
Some, it is true, have calloused their heart that such things don't really affect them. But a soft, pliable and loving heart is always hurt by another's callousness, carelessness, and insensitivity to the effects that they may have on another. Often I think this blindness is caused by the self-centredness of an individual.
JMO.
Reading the responses here, it is amazing the various interpretations.
I suppose it wasn't nearly as plain as I thought it might be for one to consider what they do to another when they begin a relationship not considering the impact of what they do on another person (who may think that they are committed to them).
I remember the shock after 10 years of marriage when my ex (who had a mental disorder and I had done as much as I could to nurse her, and look after her) decided that I was a used TV to be thrown away, and then on top of it all, to take my daughter and twist her so that she also thinks I am the one with the mental illness - even though it is my ex who is taking the medication.
I have a wonderful relationship with my now wife. The best, but I feel sad that there is this part that has been stolen and that I can't give to her. There is always that hidden wariness and preparedness now preventing 100% trust, a preparedness should what happened before happen again.
This is what I lament. If people are honest, as you rightly say that many aren't (even to themselves) every relationship takes a little bit of the heart and every hurt leaves its scar.
Yes some may be able to heal to the point that they think they are whole, and that is my point also. We can repair, but we will always have that wariness and that memory of what happened, thus guarding in case it occurs again, never giving to another all that we have in case of disaster again.
But as I have said, it is very interesting seeing the different viewpoints and perspectives people have.
I remember reading of this in the ancient texts of ancient sages. They talk of the callous hearts they could see coming on the world because care of the precious heart is not taken seriously.
That is care of another person's heart by each of us.
Some, it is true, have calloused their heart that such things don't really affect them. But a soft, pliable and loving heart is always hurt by another's callousness, carelessness, and insensitivity to the effects that they may have on another. Often I think this blindness is caused by the self-centredness of an individual.
JMO.
The responses are very different, depending on what people want. People are different and want different things. As long as they are not as selfish/cruel to hurt others by their behaviour or lying, that's all anyone can ask for.
Just looking back, I don't think in all cases people want to be cruel. If one person stops loving the other person and wants to get out, this is rarely a smooth ride even if there is no intention of hurting the other person. It does hurt if someone you love walks away even without being nasty about it.
I had good experiences with my LTR in the past, but I have gotten wary with the guys I have met in the last number of years. I never had it when I was younger that I met damaged people who either don't want or simply can't built up a relationship. It's a shame really and I'm amazed at the amount of people like that. The past is the past and shouldn't stop someone from having a good future imo. Much happines to you and your wife.
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Halv0: Relationships are fine china: beautiful, exquisite, and valuable.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
I find it much better to pay for my relationships from 30 mins up to 1 hour, depends how I´m feeling. It suits me as I´m shallow and soulless.
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truheart1941: ....thats true.....
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Halv0: Yeah, some like to take it literally to deflect the intent of what I was meaning it seems. The point is not that a heart is like a plate, but that it is intrinsically fragile when it is connected to another person through love. The connection opens up the 'shields' that you speak of, and it is this that the analogy represents, an open, unshielded heart.
And why do people build up shields and don't let people in, really into their hearts? Because of the damage, the hurt, the breakage that past people have made to them.
I also like the analogy that in some cultures breakages are repaired with gold thus making what was broken more valuable.
I can attest to this occurring in my own life as a result of the love from my wife. But it was not I that was able to repair it to that level, it took her love and her input into my heart and my soul for that repair to that level.
As I responded to KNenagh, the intent is to awaken those who wish to see and to hear, to the personal responsibility we each have to ensure we care for another's heart health in the relationships we choose to enter.
Whether a relationship breaks down or not, is not the point. It is the intent of what we do while we are in that relationship, as much as it lies with us, to care for the other to not 'break their heart'.
Even if one comes to the ultimate conclusion that a relationship must end, it can be done in such a way as to not fracture another as some have done to their ex partners in the past.
JMO.
And why do people build up shields and don't let people in, really into their hearts? Because of the damage, the hurt, the breakage that past people have made to them.
I also like the analogy that in some cultures breakages are repaired with gold thus making what was broken more valuable.
I can attest to this occurring in my own life as a result of the love from my wife. But it was not I that was able to repair it to that level, it took her love and her input into my heart and my soul for that repair to that level.
As I responded to KNenagh, the intent is to awaken those who wish to see and to hear, to the personal responsibility we each have to ensure we care for another's heart health in the relationships we choose to enter.
Whether a relationship breaks down or not, is not the point. It is the intent of what we do while we are in that relationship, as much as it lies with us, to care for the other to not 'break their heart'.
Even if one comes to the ultimate conclusion that a relationship must end, it can be done in such a way as to not fracture another as some have done to their ex partners in the past.
JMO.
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Important that your plate is made with metal. It will not break
bur merely bend.
bur merely bend.
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Halv0: Relationships are fine china: beautiful, exquisite, and valuable.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
Try this experiment to illustrate a broken relationship:
1. Get a plate
2. Break it on the ground
3. Collect all the pieces and glue them back together
4. Observes the "new" whole plate that was once broken and now is whole again.
Result: Once a heart has been broken, it never, ever, returns to whole. There will always be cracks and tiny missing pieces.
This same analogy fits with those who are careless and hurts another through words, actions, etc.
A person can say sorry after breaking the plate, but your sorry will never restore the plate to its original whole.
Give it a try and see the results.
So be careful with whom you enter any kind of relationship. Pick them carefully so that they don't break your heart. It will never fully heal and will be left with cracks and tiny missing pieces.
Now multiply this by multiple relationships - how much of your heart might be lost and irretrievable from multiply relationship breakups?
Aim for one lasting relationship if possible. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, because of the unfixable damage that occurs with each breakup.
JMO.
for years i adhered to the 'broken' plate..
then i learned something a bit different.
Another Story
imagine...visualize...a bunch of children playing in a mud hole. they are all flinging mud on each other. they know they'll go home and wash it off.
life can be a bit like this. some folks are gonna fling their mud on you..
it doesn't break you.
you have the choice to wash it off.
people are not broken.
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jono7: for years i adhered to the 'broken' plate..
then i learned something a bit different.
Another Story
imagine...visualize...a bunch of children playing in a mud hole. they are all flinging mud on each other. they know they'll go home and wash it off.
life can be a bit like this. some folks are gonna fling their mud on you..
it doesn't break you.
you have the choice to wash it off.
people are not broken.
then i learned something a bit different.
Another Story
imagine...visualize...a bunch of children playing in a mud hole. they are all flinging mud on each other. they know they'll go home and wash it off.
life can be a bit like this. some folks are gonna fling their mud on you..
it doesn't break you.
you have the choice to wash it off.
people are not broken.
Unless u decide to be broken or not wash the mud off of u
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