Your lack of replies where about your unrealistic expectations,
not about your financial status.
Poverty, like ugliness, stupidity, and negativity narrows your dating field, that is true but ultimately your obstruction to finding a partner is how you view(and what you value in) women, those values eliminated the women who may have been interested in you.
Ocee102: Your lack of replies where about your unrealistic expectations,
not about your financial status. Poverty, like ugliness, stupidity, and negativity narrows your dating field, that is true but ultimately your obstruction to finding a partner is how you view(and what you value in) women, those values eliminated the women who may have been interested in you.
So true, I remember reading his profile after feeling sad for him after something he posted. Still sad for him though, I cannot see how he will find happiness with or without a partner without being more positive
LoletteLe Mans, Pays de la Loire France1,691 posts
smalldutchgirl: So true, I remember reading his profile after feeling sad for him after something he posted. Still sad for him though, I cannot see how he will find happiness with or without a partner without being more positive
some are quite gifted with inborn courage to go agaist odds,, some are not,, what would this world be if all are gifted,,?
smalldutchgirl: So true, I remember reading his profile after feeling sad for him after something he posted. Still sad for him though, I cannot see how he will find happiness with or without a partner without being more positive
I didn't phrase my statement well though. Although I agree his negative attitude is a liabilty in his dating efforts, and general happiness, it wasn't my intent to say he was ugly, stupid and negative. I was just offering those as other examples of things that limit partner choice. It was very poor phrasing on my part.
OP: If you're still readin this, I apologize if I hurt your feelings
Ocee102: I didn't phrase my statement well though. Although I agree his negative attitude is a liabilty in his dating efforts, and general happiness, it wasn't my intent to say he was ugly, stupid and negative. I was just offering those as other examples of things that limit partner choice. It was very poor phrasing on my part.OP: If you're still readin this, I apologize if I hurt your feelings
with my careless use of language.
It was the negative way of thinking that stood out to me and I also think it is the only aspect of our lives we have control over so no point making comments on the others. I did not read your message as commenting on looks or intelligence and I hope my message was not taken to say anything about those.
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
SCB.....if you are reading this, and I suspect you will be....I want you to take note of what I say.
You created a thread whilst you were here. I could sense your pain and do empathise with you. I gave you some advice on it. You didn't respond to my post, so I doubted your authenticity.
It appears I assumed wrong and you are, in fact, the person you say you are.
I want you to speak to somebody about this stuff. You need to offload to someone. It may be a counselling support phone hotline which you can remain anonymous to.
At how you perceive the world to be treating you and your response to it, indicates to me, you need to make some changes within yourself. Once you start making these changes, the world will start receiving you in a more positive light. You cannot go through your life blaming others. You have to take some responsibility for why these things are happening in your life.
Once you start taking control of your internal negative emotions, you will start noticing positive changes around. It won't happen overnight, but it will happen.
Talk to someone who can give you some guidance/advice.....a trained counsellor....somewhere on where to start. You need some "tools" on how to get things going for yourself.
I am no medical expert myself, but I have been where you are now.
Now.....take some action and pick up a phone. Call someone.....someone you can trust or a support helpline as I mentioned earlier.
If you want change in your life, do it now.
You are not silly. You have a brain, but you can't work this out on your own. You need to offload this internal stuff.
LoletteLe Mans, Pays de la Loire France1,691 posts
Ocee102: I didn't phrase my statement well though. Although I agree his negative attitude is a liabilty in his dating efforts, and general happiness, it wasn't my intent to say he was ugly, stupid and negative. I was just offering those as other examples of things that limit partner choice. It was very poor phrasing on my part.OP: If you're still readin this, I apologize if I hurt your feelings
with my careless use of language.
Ocee102, Apology is a strong weapon, it settles almost all conflicts, from my point of view, your apology is more benifique to you than him, He, is seems like a lost among , , ,
What a tantrum. To think any women should change their preference to fit in with your circumstances. People have choice. You have choice. You chose to show an ugly side of your nature, it shows the women on this site chose wisely.
LoletteLe Mans, Pays de la Loire France1,691 posts
almera03: Nor would a big hug and a pat on the back. There are times when being honest with someone is what they need to hear. He's made it to appear that he's owed something.
At this very moment, hugging or critizing meant nothing to him, but to those who are reading yes,,,
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
almera03: Nor would a big hug and a pat on the back. There are times when being honest with someone is what they need to hear. He's made it to appear that he's owed something.
I'm not suggesting we pity him and throw him cuddles or pander to him.
There is being honest with empathy. He needs assistance.
Yeah.....I agree, he needs to start taking responsibility in his life, but stomping on him only serves to shove him deeper into a hole.
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