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Ken_19: So there is this couple living together, after a few months together they break up and go in different directions. A month later the girl discovers she is pregnant by the man who just moved out.
Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
The best choice is that of the woman carrying the baby. Everyone else will be quick to advise her but it's her life and her choice imho.
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Ken
choices are hard/but I agree with 2intrigue and Ocee
choices are hard/but I agree with 2intrigue and Ocee
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? What her sister suggested.
Ken_19: So there is this couple living together, after a few months together they break up and go in different directions. A month later the girl discovers she is pregnant by the man who just moved out.
Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
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The woman should tell the guy and find out if he wants the child to raise himself since men nowadays obviously raise their own children.
Also take into consideration what the Aunt said.
Why should any child have to pay or suffer because of what their parents did.
Also take into consideration what the Aunt said.
Why should any child have to pay or suffer because of what their parents did.
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The woman has the moral obligation to inform the father of the child,
for her decision.JMO
for her decision.JMO
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Murder is murder, regardless of how we may label it.
I agree with Cc; "Why should any child have to pay or suffer because of what their parents did."
I agree with Cc; "Why should any child have to pay or suffer because of what their parents did."
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chris27292729: Whatever choices she makes,it is my opinion,the father of the child,
should be informed.-
should be informed.-
So the father in this case is completely neglected despite the fact that he was not aware of the pregnancy. Moral obligation exists, they are partner/two on the act.
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.....the guy who fled........
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2intrigued: The best choice is that of the woman carrying the baby. Everyone else will be quick to advise her but it's her life and her choice imho.
Not knowing anything about their very short relationship or the reason for parting ways, it's a bit of a conundrum in the matter of informing the father of the child. Only the woman carrying the baby will know what is appropriate under the circumstances. Morally or perhaps legally, she may be compelled to disclose her pregnancy to the father if she plans on keeping it but again, it's ultimately her choice and she is the one who has to live with the choice.
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truheart1941: .....the guy who fled........
pity for that guy tru,, it's a break up,, he doesn't fled
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2intrigued: Not knowing anything about their very short relationship or the reason for parting ways, it's a bit of a conundrum in the matter of informing the father of the child. Only the woman carrying the baby will know what is appropriate under the circumstances. Morally or perhaps legally, she may be compelled to disclose her pregnancy to the father if she plans on keeping it but again, it's ultimately her choice and she is the one who has to live with the choice.
sure about that????
i think she needs as much input as possible from others as she can get
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Ken_19: So there is this couple living together, after a few months together they break up and go in different directions. A month later the girl discovers she is pregnant by the man who just moved out.
Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
There are three right choices, none of which includes what the mother suggests.Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?
As for the best choice (and the third right choice), I agree with what 2Intrigued stated and followed up with. I could only hope that the pregnant woman's choice wasn't influenced by her mother.
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Lolette: pity for that guy tru,, it's a break up,, he doesn't fled though i know guys like to fled when they can,,
you keep posing like that.....you may have some questions to answer.....
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Lolette: So the father in this case is completely neglected despite the fact that he was not aware of the pregnancy. Moral obligation exists, they are partner/two on the act ,,,
It's a difficult position to clarify concisely, and I understand
most people will disagree with me..
The father is not completely neglected, in any circumstance other than
the woman being unwilling to carry the child.
If she is willing to carry the child, the man should be informed.
He has a right to have knowledge of the child being in the world,
and a right to the opportunity to parent said child.
If she is unwilling to carry the child, it's simply out of his hands.
While I would prefer she informed him of her choice to terminate the pregnancy, in the absence of an ongoing relationship she doesn't owe him anything.
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It's a well thought out scenario, that happens all over the
World. We are all possibly looking at it from our comfy middle
class lives. It is the poor(who outnumber us), where dilemma comes
into play. It really boils down to abort the child or not. What's
worse?
Imo., bringing a child into this world and not giving
a toss about it? It seems in this picture too much focus is on
if the biological Father should know about it rather than the child
itself. Opinions are going to be all over the place on this one,
but that is the idea isn't it?
World. We are all possibly looking at it from our comfy middle
class lives. It is the poor(who outnumber us), where dilemma comes
into play. It really boils down to abort the child or not. What's
worse?
Imo., bringing a child into this world and not givinga toss about it? It seems in this picture too much focus is on
if the biological Father should know about it rather than the child
itself. Opinions are going to be all over the place on this one,
but that is the idea isn't it?
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conception is the first stage to biological life. adults knows how this occurs and still make choices to push it along.
whats a few billion cells in a womb, like fungus, just scoop it out and be done with it.
let the fetus grow and then abort and sell the dead fetus parts for cold hard cash.planned parenthood will help.
Eberyone who lives wants to live a life and provide some meaning to it before it ends naturally... Right to life is a right....no matter what 'age' or 'time label' people wish to put on it.
Everything else after 'life' begins is mere logistics.
whats a few billion cells in a womb, like fungus, just scoop it out and be done with it.
let the fetus grow and then abort and sell the dead fetus parts for cold hard cash.planned parenthood will help.
Eberyone who lives wants to live a life and provide some meaning to it before it ends naturally... Right to life is a right....no matter what 'age' or 'time label' people wish to put on it.
Everything else after 'life' begins is mere logistics.
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Did anyone almost get sick?
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purr4mance: sure about that????
i think she needs as much input as possible from others as she can get
i think she needs as much input as possible from others as she can get
Sometimes too much input from others will confuse matters especially if the advice is all over the place on such a sensitive matter. I can imagine how overwhelming it might feel to the woman having to make wise decisions if she's bombarded from all sides.
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Her sister says, call him and tell him. No matter what you decide about keeping it, he deserves to know, and you should at least hear how he feels about it.
Her mother says, absolutely not. Why tell him? He is gone from your life and why have it anyway? It will ruin your stomach and who will want a single mom with some other guy's kid? If he doesn't want it, how would you care for it? Abort it at once.
Her aunt says, have the child. Whether or not you ever decide to tell him he is a father and even if you and he don't want the child after the birth, it deserves a chance at life and there are thousands of people willing to adopt children.
Which one is the best choice?