Marriage ( Archived) (61)

Selenite: Just goes to show the many differences between people! The lockdown was so so wonderful with my new guy, like a 2 month honeymoon but then after the lockdown ended things went a bit pear shaped.
We both decided may be we would be better off just as friends

Sounds like it will be so much simpler and more workable for you when you're back in the UK! Your patience will pay off

secretagent09: Hi Miss C.....not only do they have to go through a lot of red tape the couple also has to spend a lot of money on the wedding to prove to immigration that they really want the marriage and not just a green card. The couple have to develop friends to show that they fit into the environment. The hard part is they have to live together but the foreigner cannot work until after the marriage so the cost of living often drives them apart. This is to avoid making "big American money" that they send back to their country.

In one instance a woman from Brazil "Larissa" married "Colt" from Nevada. All she wanted was for him to spend lots of money on designer clothes and handbags which he did. Colt still lived with his mommy even though he was in his 30's. Mommy and Larissa fought tooth and nail. Larissa caused so many problems that they called the police three times and three times she was in jail. The judge gave her probation and told her one more time and you will be deported. Colt divorced her BUT he is responsible for her cost of living for 10 years.

mikey4691: .. I could run with that, but I won't...

Miss_Cellaneous: SA
I totally understand what your'e saying. I don't want to marry my friend just so that I can live in America. Ok, I've been there many times and stayed for 80 days at a time but it's not like I'm living there and seeing him every week. I'm getting older and I don't want a green card "I don't even know what that is to be honest" I would just like to stay more than 90 days per year to see if things do work out between us. I'm glad that the US have the rules, anyone can bunk up in the Uk Having said that, anyone can come to Spain to live but there are no benefits here. As an elderly citizen I wouldn't want to work in America. I would be taking my money into America. It's a shame for the people that are genuine but rules are rules. I just wish that this bloody virus would go away. I'm missing my friend and America so much now

secretagent09: There is a reality tv show called "90 Day Fiance". Even though it is reality tv there are marriages that last and many that were a big mistake.

For instance: Angela 55 years old lives in Alabama. Michael somewhere around age 30 is Nigerian. She has the mouth of a truck driver when she swears at him. She went to Nigeria at least 5 times to make sure he is the right one. Immigration denied him the K-1 Visa. Angela freaked out But they finally got approved and now Michael's aunt is discussing the marriage and what is expected of Angela namely that she has to be submissive to Michael. Well Angela lashed out at Michael saying she is an American woman and they aren't submissive to anyone. Michael thinks she will change. Angela says @#$%^&* I'm not changing. The show is funny at times and other times a real romance develops.

"The show is based on the K-1 visa process, which begins with the petitioner meeting the beneficiary inside or outside the United States, then filing a I-129F petition with evidence of meeting and of a relationship. After the petition is approved, the petitioner must pass biometrics and then the process is sent to the foreign embassy of the beneficiary. The beneficiary then files for a visa, before or after passing the medical requirements and is called for an interview, in which the beneficiary must prove that they meet the requirements of the visa, including having strong evidence of meeting and a valid relationship. If approved, the foreign fiancé travels to the States to live with his or her prospective American spouse. The couple must marry within 90 days, otherwise the beneficiary must leave the country. The couple may face language barriers, culture shock, the stigma of being thought of as a "mail-order bride" as well as skepticism of friends and family. Professor Lenni B. Benson of the New York Law School has stated that although the K-1 visa program is widely associated with sham marriages, "It is not true in the majority of cases."