Should love be hard (27)
DavidleeHenderson, Nevada USA2 Threads 4 PostsShould it be shouch a hard job to keep the love between two people, or should love just flow? Maybe there is just no such thing as true love.
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Love is a work of art in the lives of those who feel it. If we don't work to keep it beautiful, it has the capability of atrophying into ugliness.
Should we just let the brush itself paint the picture, or should we guide it? Love is work, yes, but it is a labor of love, and justifies the means with the ends.
Yes, love is hard. Hate might be easier, but its reward is destruction. Love builds, hate destroys.
Do you ask the construction worker if his job should be hard? I think not...
Should we just let the brush itself paint the picture, or should we guide it? Love is work, yes, but it is a labor of love, and justifies the means with the ends.
Yes, love is hard. Hate might be easier, but its reward is destruction. Love builds, hate destroys.
Do you ask the construction worker if his job should be hard? I think not...
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don't let it go with the flow, otherwise it will fly from your hands
Concentrate yourself in love to make it work.
The go with the flow think is one of the poissons
The reunion of two spirits is very hard to find...
It seems like we always have the "substitute for love"...meaning, the one that we really want isn't the one for us...or at least the spirit runs away!!!
The perfect one for us runs away from us...then we have the "substitute for love" but this one needs a little of our touch, but then we can't just want them to be what we want them to be....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
Then what brothers?
Concentrate yourself in love to make it work.
The go with the flow think is one of the poissons
The reunion of two spirits is very hard to find...
It seems like we always have the "substitute for love"...meaning, the one that we really want isn't the one for us...or at least the spirit runs away!!!
The perfect one for us runs away from us...then we have the "substitute for love" but this one needs a little of our touch, but then we can't just want them to be what we want them to be....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
Then what brothers?
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I think it is usually flowing and easy, and it doesn't feel like work when it is real. Otherwise, you will have all sorts of assignments due if you want to pass the class with a good grade.
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If love feels like work then it is not really love at all.....love should be easy and natural when it is real 
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Life is hard, for the most part, in various ways. And so are many of the things included in life, such as love, for example.
I don't feel that it should be such a hard job to keep the love between two people because, if the love is true, it will flow naturally.
Still, relationships do take a degree of work and/or effort, but again, if the love is there and it is true, you shouldn't have to work hard to keep it. You will, however, have to put forth certain efforts to maintain it, overall - of course - that is a given.
I don't feel that it should be such a hard job to keep the love between two people because, if the love is true, it will flow naturally.
Still, relationships do take a degree of work and/or effort, but again, if the love is there and it is true, you shouldn't have to work hard to keep it. You will, however, have to put forth certain efforts to maintain it, overall - of course - that is a given.
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no....it should be soft
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Love is fantastic yet it is work. You go with the flow and you will be diverted elsewhere. You will lose your love and everything you held dear.
Love like anything you like needs constant attention. Even your daily health needs work. Your favourite hobby requires work. If you play a sport then you know to get better, requires work.
So why would you think that something like love does not require work. If you want it to work and get better; you go work hard at it.
You didn't just reach out and grab her and say your mine. You wooed her and dined her. To keep her you now do that everyday for the rest of your life. It is worth it if it is returned equally.
Love like anything you like needs constant attention. Even your daily health needs work. Your favourite hobby requires work. If you play a sport then you know to get better, requires work.
So why would you think that something like love does not require work. If you want it to work and get better; you go work hard at it.
You didn't just reach out and grab her and say your mine. You wooed her and dined her. To keep her you now do that everyday for the rest of your life. It is worth it if it is returned equally.
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I like that Quescent. Deep and well written.
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I'd love to take the credit but none of it was mine.
Conversations with God
*an uncommon dialogue*
book 1
Neale Donald Walsch
Conversations with God
*an uncommon dialogue*
book 1
Neale Donald Walsch
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Hon...
I have talked to much wiser souls then me.
They were married for many years and never
told me the road they traveled together was easy.
I don't believe your alone in your thoughts. At some
point and time in relationships we tend to work harder
too keep the bond there. when one or even both for countless
reasons decide to give up. At that moment everything starts to alter and disconnect. Really is unfortunante. But is one of the many realities of life I have lived. All we can do is take the chance on finding that one person who is willing to learn and grow with us. I have been on both ends in past relationship. Due to that, I have made it a priority to reflect on how I have handled different situtation with partners in the past. I feel I have never been without fault. At this point in my life. I have chosen to look at life as a journey and not so much as an inconvience. One can only hope by working on their inner self. A door maybe opened to make them more available emotionally for that someone very special.
I have talked to much wiser souls then me.
They were married for many years and never
told me the road they traveled together was easy.
I don't believe your alone in your thoughts. At some
point and time in relationships we tend to work harder
too keep the bond there. when one or even both for countless
reasons decide to give up. At that moment everything starts to alter and disconnect. Really is unfortunante. But is one of the many realities of life I have lived. All we can do is take the chance on finding that one person who is willing to learn and grow with us. I have been on both ends in past relationship. Due to that, I have made it a priority to reflect on how I have handled different situtation with partners in the past. I feel I have never been without fault. At this point in my life. I have chosen to look at life as a journey and not so much as an inconvience. One can only hope by working on their inner self. A door maybe opened to make them more available emotionally for that someone very special.
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Love is the easy part. Maintaining a strong relationship takes some work. But if you find your soulmate, then it is all natural and takes no effort.
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Should love be hard??
...Naww, that's just ..TOO EASY!! 
...Naww, that's just ..TOO EASY!!
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I haven't found my soul mate but I think love just is...pure and natural...we are imperfect and have difficulties accepting so we must learn not to look for the perfect person but to learn to love an imperfect person perfectly. And since perfection doesn't exist in people, it only exist in love...we can only do the best we can.
I keep repeating myself today, I must be trying to teach myself something.
I keep repeating myself today, I must be trying to teach myself something.
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I agree totally...
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Heya, sweetie! 
I'm sure we can find SOMETHING to "work" at...
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If love is hard work then it is not love. We humans experience love in different ways. The way I see it is that love should be free.. Love to me is being happy and wanting the same for the person(s) that we love, by doing things and wanting the best for them without pressure.
I can only talk about the love I feel for my kids and the people who are closed to me . Love them and keep them happy most part of the time it is not always easy, but I wouldn't say that is hard job . My desire to see and do things for them can only make feel pleasure and happiness.
No one likes to be push or be obligate to anything and when things go that way (Houston you have a problem). If love is based on those principles then no matter what anyone do, it will not work and sooner than latter it will end and the love that was felt once it cease to exist!
Wish you luck and it just an honest opinion!
Take care,
I can only talk about the love I feel for my kids and the people who are closed to me . Love them and keep them happy most part of the time it is not always easy, but I wouldn't say that is hard job . My desire to see and do things for them can only make feel pleasure and happiness.
No one likes to be push or be obligate to anything and when things go that way (Houston you have a problem). If love is based on those principles then no matter what anyone do, it will not work and sooner than latter it will end and the love that was felt once it cease to exist!
Wish you luck and it just an honest opinion!
Take care,
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I agree with you there. Especially with the first paragraph. One can even go as far as to say love is one of the most selfish experiences.
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If you are going to form a lifelong relationship with someone, you may want to give it a little thought.
Be sure that you and your mate agree on purpose. If you both agree at a conscious level that the purpose of your relationship is to create an opportunity, not an obligation--an opportunity for growth, for full Self expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about you, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls--the relationship has begun on a very good note. It's gotten off on the right foot.
Know and understand that there will be challenges and difficult times. Don't try to avoid them. Welcome them. Gratefully. See them as grand gifts from God; glorious opportunities to do what you came into the relationship--and life to do.
Try very hard not to see your partner as the enemy, or the opposition, during these times.
In fact, seek to see no one, and nothing, as the enemy--or even the problem. Cultivate the technique of seeing all problems as opportunities. Opportunities to be and decide, Who You Really Are.
*Conversations with God
Be sure that you and your mate agree on purpose. If you both agree at a conscious level that the purpose of your relationship is to create an opportunity, not an obligation--an opportunity for growth, for full Self expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about you, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls--the relationship has begun on a very good note. It's gotten off on the right foot.
Know and understand that there will be challenges and difficult times. Don't try to avoid them. Welcome them. Gratefully. See them as grand gifts from God; glorious opportunities to do what you came into the relationship--and life to do.
Try very hard not to see your partner as the enemy, or the opposition, during these times.
In fact, seek to see no one, and nothing, as the enemy--or even the problem. Cultivate the technique of seeing all problems as opportunities. Opportunities to be and decide, Who You Really Are.
*Conversations with God
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