why are guys heartless (109)
keepinitreal4u1Arlington, Texas USA1 Threads 4 Postswhy dont guys watch what they say and promise...i just got out of a longterm relationship...we were planning on moving in together so naturally i started getting my kids involved...well he started making promises to my son age 9....so when he took off promises broken my son thinks its his fault and that he doesnt like him...and today he had a meltdown and was talking bout killing hisself...seriously guys u need to be careful when u deal with kids...my heart is broken cause my baby was hurt badly...
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Not all of us are like this
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That is too sad... 
I have stopped promising anything to anyone for a long time because I realised that in this life we can only do what we can, not what we want or would like to do.
Sorry
I have stopped promising anything to anyone for a long time because I realised that in this life we can only do what we can, not what we want or would like to do.
Sorry
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I feel for your son and what he now has to deal with. Thats for sure!
I would have to wonder at age 9 where would he have heard "want to kill myself"? That is a comment that he must have heard from someone before!
A man did not deside to involve YOUR child, you did! I would have to think about what I let others say to my children.
What this man did was wrong! But! Where are you at fault in letting it happen?
Sorry so honest, but if it is blame you seek, you will surely find some!
~BELLY~
I would have to wonder at age 9 where would he have heard "want to kill myself"? That is a comment that he must have heard from someone before!
A man did not deside to involve YOUR child, you did! I would have to think about what I let others say to my children.
What this man did was wrong! But! Where are you at fault in letting it happen?
Sorry so honest, but if it is blame you seek, you will surely find some!
~BELLY~
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i'm sorry that happened and the guy did that to your kids and you
i don't believe guy's promises anymore for so many have broken them to me from ones i use to date to even my guy friends.
i don't believe guy's promises anymore for so many have broken them to me from ones i use to date to even my guy friends.
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All guys are heartless? So...why did he take off? He just one day started hitchhiking for no reason?
Sounds like there's more to the story then we're being told. And I hate it when people generalize.
I agree people should be careful what they tell children. Especially their inner one...lies, especially the ones we tell ourselves, hurt more than anything, because there is no pill to cure the hurt they cause...
Sounds like there's more to the story then we're being told. And I hate it when people generalize.
I agree people should be careful what they tell children. Especially their inner one...lies, especially the ones we tell ourselves, hurt more than anything, because there is no pill to cure the hurt they cause...
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it's always tricky introducing kids to new partners as they tend to get emotionally involved quite quick (if they like the person). i never introduce my kids to new women in my life but hopefully some day i'll meet someone for keeps and then i'll introduce them. we may all end up with our hearts broen but it's always a risk. please don't judge all men by his standards though, it works both was and it's not nice to generalise. anyway here's 2 hgs, 1 for you and one for your son. hope i works out for you both.
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i let my son get involved cause we were about to move in together...and i wasnt gonna move in without my son getting to know him first and knowing what was gonna happen...so no i am not at fault and i did get after him every time he made a promise thats why i got rid of him cause he did it too many times...and i wanted to prevent this from happening...when i asked my son where he got this from he told me it was all in his head...
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I'm very sorry for what happened, its a hard situation to be in. But one you have more control over then you think. I've been there and used poor judgement and had to rely on my mothering skills and do alot of explaining. its a time you have to be strong. for what I've read of it, your son has every right to be mad at this man and I would let him. but not sure why he would feel its his fault or to think to kill himself over this person. I have to limit the impact and control a man has in my life and in my children's for no person is worth ending a life for... no matter the age. Regardless, your son is going to depend on and see how you handle the situation, if your beat up and depressed to a large degree, he inturn will take that upon himself. You have to find your inner strength to get both of you through this. Best of Luck...
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That's not good. I'm sorry that you and your son had to go through something like this. I also feel for your little one. No child should have to go through any kind if broken promises. Just keep in mind that you’re not at fault.
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thanx for the comment blue eyed...my son is extremely soft hearted and when he loves he loves with all his heart...i dont know why he wants to take the blame and me and him have been talking and praying all day...i told him that what this guy did has nothing to do with him...this has broken me from wanting another relationship...ive been divorced from his dad for 7yrs...was with this guy over a year before he met my kids...and he is the first and last that will be around them...every time he told my son he would do something i told him not to be making promises to my kids but it was to late cause it was already said and son already heard...i have remained strong for my son...and thats why i decided to post this hoping that it will help me stay strong...cause its up to me to pull him through...
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My prayers are with you as well. Take a time out, its much needed. Just dont give up on the male species all together, there are great guys out there and not all are heartless. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and find the positives always...
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I wonder why I had the same situation played on my children, by a female?
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Women are no more heartless than men, just more calculating!!!!
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devious=calculating to me!!!
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I agree it is always tricky introducing kids to new partners. Kids are so trusting especially little boys who need a father. Fathers or male role models are important to children ,girls too ,but more so to boys I think. It is really important to protect you children from unsure things. Dating is something a mother can control. I believe if I had children I would take your advice sir and not introduce my children to anyone unless I was completely and utterly sure of that person and he was for keeps. I think that is really wise advice to protect your children.
But I know it isn't her fault as it tends to get into the "trust" issue. But still I would wait for more than just the promise of committment before taking that first step for sure and like you said even after that and marrige there is always a risk.
But I know it isn't her fault as it tends to get into the "trust" issue. But still I would wait for more than just the promise of committment before taking that first step for sure and like you said even after that and marrige there is always a risk.
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