How do you help someone slow down? (78)
UnmatchableMartinsville, USA22 Threads 790 PostsI went through with meeting someone that I've been talking with awhile, she spent the weekend with me and we had a really wonderful time together. But... she's falling faster than a bowling ball pushed off the side of a building. It scares me a little... how do I help her slow down a bit? I love being with her and have feelings, but I'm a little freaked out how hard and fast she's falling, I'm feeling pressured and awkward. I don't her to be sad... I've done everything I can to show I care and am happy to be off to a good start but it doesn't really seem like enough for her, she wants my ownership papers or something lol I don't know how to explain it exactly. My thoughts are kind of muddled at the moment.
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count your blessings and go for it!
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There really is no way to help somebody slow down because when somebody really feels that much for you, there is no stopping it.
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Maybe she just wants confirmation that you 2 are exclusive....Being in the not knowing what or how someone feels is a hard place to be so maybe she just needs a little reassurance!!!!!!!!!
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wear that hat when you go out...she'll slow down~~~
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Bask in the warmth of her love, bathe in it, return it to her in full measure and you will be a happy man. Focus on her plus's and ignore her negatives. Faint heart never won fair maiden.
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And if he takes his sword with him she may even go in reverse!!!!!!!!
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Real love only comes in a rare time, go for it buddy.....
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Will be watching the Martinsville Va. Times to see if there's any arrests for inappropriate public behavior in the daily police log section.
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Keep me posted!!!!!!!!
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Get down and dirty with her...and now having 2nd thoughts? I hate when that happens 
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give it a couple days without doing to much thinking about it, remembering the good weekend dont over analyze whats on her mind. things will get clearer and if not, you'll know what to do or say to ease her some...congrats 
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Thanks for the responses everyone.
Someone said "we get in that trap of having some feelings and not wanting to hurt them." That really nails it because that's exactly how I've been feeling about it. It does kind of feel like a trap, almost like you're being emotionally held hostage and afraid to do or say the wrong thing because if you do, you'll hurt them really bad and seeing them sad like that will hurt YOU...
We had talked about everything before hand and all this was actually supposed to be a friends with benefits type of thing. I don't have a problem with being cared about, or with caring about someone in return... in moderation those are good things and I welcome them, just not to such an overwhelming extent and definitely not that quickly.
I hate to make her sound like a desperate fool, I don't want to disrespect or de-value her as a person, she's really great, she's wonderful. It's just that I'm uncomfortable to be the one who makes her the "happiest she's ever been in her life" and all these other intense things she's been saying. It's hard to explain it here without sounding like I'm being inconsiderate of her feelings, or disrespectful of her in that regard. I kind of feel ashamed of myself for even talking about it publically, at least I know she won't see it though to be hurt or embarrassed by it since she doesn't belong to this site.
ArrrrRRR... **puts on my pirate hat and stares at the wall. lol
Ok, well I'll figure it all out. I've been talking with her and doing the best I can with that... trying to not hurt her or ruin the friendship but also trying to get it across that I'm uncomfortable with someone trying to suck me in so deep when that just isn't a place I want to be right now.
Strange how that normally you could give others some reasonable advice on something but when you're in the situation yourself you aren't really sure what to do or how to proceed...
**Takes a shot...
Someone said "we get in that trap of having some feelings and not wanting to hurt them." That really nails it because that's exactly how I've been feeling about it. It does kind of feel like a trap, almost like you're being emotionally held hostage and afraid to do or say the wrong thing because if you do, you'll hurt them really bad and seeing them sad like that will hurt YOU...
We had talked about everything before hand and all this was actually supposed to be a friends with benefits type of thing. I don't have a problem with being cared about, or with caring about someone in return... in moderation those are good things and I welcome them, just not to such an overwhelming extent and definitely not that quickly.
I hate to make her sound like a desperate fool, I don't want to disrespect or de-value her as a person, she's really great, she's wonderful. It's just that I'm uncomfortable to be the one who makes her the "happiest she's ever been in her life" and all these other intense things she's been saying. It's hard to explain it here without sounding like I'm being inconsiderate of her feelings, or disrespectful of her in that regard. I kind of feel ashamed of myself for even talking about it publically, at least I know she won't see it though to be hurt or embarrassed by it since she doesn't belong to this site.
ArrrrRRR... **puts on my pirate hat and stares at the wall. lol
Ok, well I'll figure it all out. I've been talking with her and doing the best I can with that... trying to not hurt her or ruin the friendship but also trying to get it across that I'm uncomfortable with someone trying to suck me in so deep when that just isn't a place I want to be right now.
Strange how that normally you could give others some reasonable advice on something but when you're in the situation yourself you aren't really sure what to do or how to proceed...
**Takes a shot...
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She is just madly in love with you my dear....
and as far as I know there is not that much you can do...sorry
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OMG, it's the "Expanding Ball" affect. 
Some women just go gagga when they meet a guy that they like and who likes them.
Wait three months and she'll sober up.
She's in love with love and has yet to see your warts and bad habits
Some women just go gagga when they meet a guy that they like and who likes them.
Wait three months and she'll sober up.
She's in love with love and has yet to see your warts and bad habits
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Come on....you like her her too...don't you??????
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Yes.
But I don't want her eternal love, devotion and loyalty. I don't want to be exclusive, official, committed, monogamous, spoken for, tied down and owned by someone heart and soul... I don't want a full blown relationship. She does.
But I don't want her eternal love, devotion and loyalty. I don't want to be exclusive, official, committed, monogamous, spoken for, tied down and owned by someone heart and soul... I don't want a full blown relationship. She does.
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Is there anything you do want??....Lol
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ask yourself is she stable? have you seen her act this implusive in other aspect of her life?
remember implusive women can be a blessing for men who tend to hesitate drag their feet. Do you hesitate alot , procrastinate,over think things?
she could be just what the doctor ordered
still on my first cup of coffee so .. maybe no validity at all in what i say.
remember implusive women can be a blessing for men who tend to hesitate drag their feet. Do you hesitate alot , procrastinate,over think things?
she could be just what the doctor ordered
still on my first cup of coffee so .. maybe no validity at all in what i say.
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Are you trying to talk to me about it or are you just being sarcastic because I can't really tell for sure...
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