Life, Living and Reflections ( Archived) (22)

Dan, I am sure you want no more of my witterings but.....

Confused? There is much to be confused about, if we had all the answers..... (1) we'd be very rich indeed and (2) there would be nothing left to learn...? What kind of world would that be?

We often have no choice as to what adversity is thrown at us in life, but we can CHOOSE how we deal with it.... sometimes a positive and optimistic outlook is all we have to get through it? Yes, its hard to remain upbeat at times, but what's the alternative? Perhaps remember that we can either let it beat us or WE can BEAT it??

There can be a tendency to let time pass us by, yes, but you now see that. There are many people who never realise it and waste their whole lives. So now is the time, surely, to take the bull by the horns? You are moving home, see this as just one aspect of a whole new fresh start?

You mention your age (again).... there was a time when reaching 30s or 40s was considered "middle age" and so life naturally took a different tack.... those days are long gone, my friend. People, on the whole, are younger for longer. There is a multitude of women in your age group out there, you need to maxmise your opportunities, not minimise them.... as with refering to "women in your country"? It may be that, in time, you make just friendships with others from around the globe and you DO meet your soulmate in the US but, in the meantime..... don't restrict yourself, eh? Be open to things that come your way. Anyway, friendships are precious, girlfriends and even wives sometimes come and go but true friends......??

There is no doubt that you have a lot to offer the right lady, that special someone. The right one will realise that and she will, surely, be worth waiting for? After all, which is more important, the timescale or the "connecton"?

Just my .02 cents.........

first meeting somebody will not help you,you first have to enjoy your life at your own, than you are ready to meet somebody, and do whatever you want.
the having childreen point: if a women around 40 dont have them (and she wants to have childreen) she will try to find dady: that is not you!!! never!!! (my marriage was made like this)
if she dont have childreen and dont want to have them, forgot about childreen.
if you want to have some, just look for a woman who already has childreen she would not mind to make some more if she loves you, and she would no t fall in love with you only for the childreen.

Dknew, you have an interesting point there. Maybe clinging to what makes us feel emotionally safe is what stops us from allowing love into our lives.

I have done exactly the opposite of what you did - I found safety in change. Same end result though - what I really would have wanted is a house full of people to love and be loved by.

In the end people and relationships is what living is really all about.

Daniel, I believe someone can only appreciate the "man inside" you after meeting you face-to-face.

During the family campout July 4th week of this year, I had the opportunity to get to chat with you some, and you were wonderfully patient as we talked during my roadtrip up to NH to get Earl,.

But the time we had to chat at your home, over that delicious steak dinner you prepared for Earl and I with your Niece, was I able to see the special gentleman that you are.

I know the webcam can be more personal than a phone call or IM message, but only when someone meets and sits down to talk with you one-on-one can he or she ever really get to know the great guy you are.

Mom said you boys were very much like your Dad, so a girl can only be Loved Incredibly by the men you all became. I know Earl is the most incredible guy ever. Just he doesn't show it off except for the people he cares the most about. I know you're made from the same cloth!

At 44, you're still in your Prime

Thx shelia

I no longer look a head but just at today.

Today is another day! Get on with your life. I am curious, though, how long you have been on CS?

6 Months