The attraction dilemma (105)
Softly_MeColumbus, Ohio USA10 Threads 388 PostsDamn. Does this mean I need to go back and fix the 'not stupid' remark I made earlier??
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I dunno...go crazy girl and suit yourself!
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Refilling my wine glass . .
I will try to lurk more and type less. Sorry Detente. (zips mouth shut and slinks to the frig)
I will try to lurk more and type less. Sorry Detente. (zips mouth shut and slinks to the frig)
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seems like someone was needing a little reassurance today, maybe...hope u feel better...
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Some sad people arund here...truly sad.
Read properly people.
Read properly people.
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Detente, I want to address your question directly....
"Can I honestly assume that an attractive woman would ever be interested in somebody like myself?"
First of all, you are selling yourself short. You list your shortcomings, if they are truly even that...slightly overweight, a few gray hairs, and nail-biting. Hmmmm. Well, depending on which women you find attractive, do you assume that they are flawless? This is where I have such a problem understanding people...ALL people. We tend to view others whom we find attractive (doesn't matter which gender) as flawless, when in reality, we are all flawed. Attraction, to me, is not based on aesthetic beauty alone. A man can be quite average in appearance and can have many physical characteristics which are less than the ideal that we think we seek, but if there is something about him...some little tiny thing that can knock our socks off...the way his lip curls up on one side when he smiles, the way he looks at me, the twinkle in his eye, a wink, etc....just SOMETHING that connects him to me...his physical appearance is often lost at that point. I don't F****ing care. I have had women friends tell me about new men in their lives and almost apologize for the fact that they are not so great-looking and this really annoys me. I DON'T CARE. If they are happy, if they enjoy each other, what difference is it to me what the guy looks like? I don't know....maybe I'm just rationalizing my own aging process and hoping that others won't view ME under a microscope....for, if they do, I am screwed! I am flawed. I am so flawed. But I don't for a second feel that I am anything less than any other woman.
As usual, I digress...you should definitely not sell yourself short. You have much to offer.
"Can I honestly assume that an attractive woman would ever be interested in somebody like myself?"
First of all, you are selling yourself short. You list your shortcomings, if they are truly even that...slightly overweight, a few gray hairs, and nail-biting. Hmmmm. Well, depending on which women you find attractive, do you assume that they are flawless? This is where I have such a problem understanding people...ALL people. We tend to view others whom we find attractive (doesn't matter which gender) as flawless, when in reality, we are all flawed. Attraction, to me, is not based on aesthetic beauty alone. A man can be quite average in appearance and can have many physical characteristics which are less than the ideal that we think we seek, but if there is something about him...some little tiny thing that can knock our socks off...the way his lip curls up on one side when he smiles, the way he looks at me, the twinkle in his eye, a wink, etc....just SOMETHING that connects him to me...his physical appearance is often lost at that point. I don't F****ing care. I have had women friends tell me about new men in their lives and almost apologize for the fact that they are not so great-looking and this really annoys me. I DON'T CARE. If they are happy, if they enjoy each other, what difference is it to me what the guy looks like? I don't know....maybe I'm just rationalizing my own aging process and hoping that others won't view ME under a microscope....for, if they do, I am screwed! I am flawed. I am so flawed. But I don't for a second feel that I am anything less than any other woman.
As usual, I digress...you should definitely not sell yourself short. You have much to offer.
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Same goes for me except with women....You do not have to be the most attractive woman out there but you have to be at least interesting enough to catch my attention.
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To answer you last question............. for me, no!!
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This is something I was talking to my brother about the other night and we went through our dating history from when we we're teens, Now I'm nothing special to look at but you know in all those years I can only think of maybe 2 woman who ppl would call short on looks the rest have always been very good looking or better.
It's all in your attitude and how you present yourself.
It's all in your attitude and how you present yourself.
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Absolutely!!....we are all programmed for beauty...but in the end, it's the funny little quirks about a person that make you fall for them....you know, in a weird way, I'm almost inclined to say that these days I look for less the "babe" type of looks, because I find "ordinary" looking women have more character, and have more to offer in terms of a relationship...
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Nah, it's because you're getting older and the 'babes' aren't so interested!
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A lot of women are confused about what they want.
Maybe it's something to do with the hormone thingy.
Maybe it's something to do with the hormone thingy.
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Awwww...I would say the same thing bout men.HAHAHA...
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Oh, she stabs me right in the eye.
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She can stabs you right in the back .
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You're scaring me, Pearl!
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I am able to make you feel scared.Trust me.
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(Trying to remember if I pissed her off at some point)
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She has a name
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I bet nobody can guess whay Im going to say.
SIZE MATTERS.
SIZE MATTERS.
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