I am appalled not just by the divorce rate but the general lack of obligation anyone feels to keep their word anymore. Every single business arrangement I make requires lawyers and dead trees.....ugh
HzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA2,779 posts
I was married for 26 yrs. The divorce was the most painful, gut wrenching thing I have ever experienced. It would have to be one hell of a man to ever get me to marry again. Same goes for co-habitating with one also. My life is happily together and pretty drama free...I just cannot see rippling the waters at this time.
That is a tough question. Would I like to get married again, Yes I would. Is it a requirement, No it is not. I am a bit old fashioned in that to me when you get married that should be the end of it. But I am not just going to settle like I did before, when I knew the relationship was dying and I was trying to save it. That just prolonged the inevitable.
My grandparents were the same way. My parents are still married, as well as aunts, uncles, the only exceptions are two cousins and myself. The rest of them have been married for 10 years up to 62 when my last Grandfather passed away.
marryingtypeLondon, Greater London, England UK16 Posts
marryingtypeLondon, Greater London, England UK16 posts
I know that common law marriages are no longer allowed to occur in certain states like New York. But previously in New York, for a common law marriage, the couple had to only promise each other to live as husband and wife, and then live as such.
Thus, there in New York, a couple "knew" what they were getting into because they could not "accidently" enter into a common law marriage.
And I would not be too happy if a state imposed a common law marriage on me for no reason other than my cohabitation with a woman and the duration of that cohabitation. Because an intention to cohabit with a person, is not necessarily the same as an intention to marry that person.
Marriage is not a "play thing". And people should not enter into marriage without long and serious consideration. And, although I know why states do it, no state should override such an important personal right like the decision to not marry someone.
As in any relationship it takes two minds, hearts, souls, friendship,and communications to share thoughts, dreams, and desires. If these two desire marriage, then it will be. But I would never look at marriage as a binding contract. Rather a commitment of love and loyalty to each other.
123ru4meletssee: I have been married twice but, I still would do it again for the right girl. Hey, they say the third time is a charm!
multiple marriages downplay the importance of marriage.if you are about to walk down the aisle for your third or fourth marriage, the idea of marrying for love is not that believable. Multiple marriages seem to portray boredom and confusion rather than true love.
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