Questions...I have questions... ( Archived) (44)

This is indeed a human condition ... one gets so enamoured by the words ... the words translated by ourselves as if we were speaking them in the way 'we' feel them .. yet so different from the what the writer intended..

Hey, you might be on to a great thing

Go easy with the declarations, he might freak out

then isn't that dishonest...aren't words intended to convey what we mean....or is that just wordplay???

I find this one of the most difficult things myself.
I prefer to be honest and up front and tell them.."Hey I really like you" but don't want to scare them away.

I fear being quiet and then they do not "know" how much I care.

All I can do, I suppose is quietly mention it from time to time. Be sure and greet them with my warmest smile. Use simple gestures: a touch of the hand, a finger stroke down their neck.

In other words I..

It would depend upon whether or not the meeting is in person or through some long distance medium. In person your mind and emtional content are fully involved in the communication and any feelings garnered likely come after the fact. After your heart, brain and soul have interpreted and filed them in their respective places according to your own filters.
The distance version allows for premeditation and potential inconsistencies on viewpoint due to inflection, tone and body language being present. Time allows for these to be understood but them again according to what each is willing to allow to become visible.

Letting someone know is best left to the heart. Their response is really not pertinent to the decision as it truly rests inside of yourself to speak or feel what you do. If we fail to reach out it is a crime to our inner child and the problem lies not in the giver but the receiver. Trust in your ability to give and your will receive. Failure and we will all remain good friends here through our own separate mediums of communication.

Mark

I am usually the slow one...never to speak up too soon...or never saying anything for fear I might get hurt.

I am usually the run cause I am scared type...

I guess maybe I am tired of living in the shadows and I want to spill my guts.

You have such a way with words!

Thank you!

My profile does say honest and my postings here do say long-winded...so Thank You for putting up with my exposition... my opinion only but it is what was asked.

God Bless,

Mark

Yikes!

I have always said ..whe nyour phone is broken , dont call the plumber, call the phone guy.

Its a way of saying it doesn't do any good telling anyone but the person you should talk to ... however I'm still with Detente on this , spilled guts too early may chase him away... you havent really supplied much in the way of details, how long, have you met, have you gotten romantic in person ...all these things ought to come first.