Forgot how to be single...need help ( Archived) (23)

I know where yer comin from man!
It seemed like it was a year or so before I began to see there was life after a long relationship.
Give it some time...
Hang out on this site too, as it can be a welcome diversion for so many things. Y tend to kinda get sucked in and before ya know it, the whole night has gone by! why is that?

Well then you have a whole town to get to know then !! Take the plunge and have fun - it all starts with a good attitude.

Hey, don't sweat it, there's lots of ways to enjoy being single. Start dating on the internet to get rid of the first date jitters and BS. then take your date somewhere nice. Cannovas in Neenah is a great place for a first date. there are lots o places to go, and things to do in your area. I was from Waupaca and moved here a couple of months ago. I met a lot of really great women online up there. The bar scene is lame and the same, but find another hobby that you like and you'll find someone that likes it too. keep coming to the forums, search the singles sites, and keep doing what is comfortable to you. It's actually pretty easy to be single, and fun.

i can relate for sure.... took me near 3 months before I felt half way comfortable out of the house. I didn't want to go anywhere that I knew anyone. I just wanted new people and wanted the security of having someone with me when I did go out in public. Fortunately I ran into a very old friend from many years back. Had seen him only once in 30 years or more. We met up and went out to a bar & grill then met up later to go to a bowling alley with pool tables where we now go regularly. It's an out of the way place in a small city where there's quite a few people and many are strangers to each other...so we fit in. Just getting the feel of being out without the s.o. is a very good adjustment. I've had a couple of different dates at the same place and totally enjoyed their company while shooting pool. I'm not much of a pool player but it's relatively cheap and I love just getting out there with friends. It seems to be something I was really missing in life before. I live in a very isolated place and seldom see people so these little outings have become extremely desirable and important to me. I'd love to find even more new and good places to go. I've even invited old dates to bring their new boyfriends along just so I could be around friends again. Getting to know more and more people ....although slowly... just by being active on some of the date sites.

Everyone that comes on here takes a blood oath to become a hermit. You didn't see that in the rules?

Ssh .... don't give away all our secrets here!!

Careful! Don't start knocking hermits!

First part to not feeling out of place with being single is learning how to accept it for what it is. As far for myself going out by myself, isn't going to happen, I end of having a bunch of yoohoo's following me and trying to pick me up like I am needy or something. No thanks. But I am comfortable now being alone in my home. Being alone and lonely is to different things. Good Luck to you. CS really helps too