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DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER? ( Archived) (20)

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Jan 12, 2008 8:19 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
capigirl
capigirlcapigirlSan Diego, USA49 Threads 157 Posts
capigirlOPSan Diego, USA157 posts
hhhmmm, was debating with a group of friends last nite about the subject, what is your take on it?

If you don't feel that pull and attraction on the first date, do you not go on with that person or attraction will develop as time goes on?
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#2
Jan 12, 2008 8:22 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
wwry13
wwry13wwry13newton, Iowa USA44 Threads 568 Posts
wwry13newton, Iowa USA568 posts
i dont think that the first date counts. cuz of nerves. so i give it at least 3 dates.
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#3
Jan 12, 2008 8:23 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
rwantin
rwantinrwantinRoyal Oak, Michigan USA17 Threads 8,924 Posts
rwantinRoyal Oak, Michigan USA8,924 posts
Good question. For answers, I pondered my own dating history (all three of them).

I think there needs to be at least some pull, some attraction, even minor, from the start. smoking
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#4
Jan 12, 2008 8:23 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia16,853 posts
I think there should be some sort of spark.

There needs to be some sort of connection that you feel I think, not that you're with a dead fish and hope it is revived later.

Here's to sparks wine
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#5
Jan 12, 2008 8:37 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
WhiteAsh
WhiteAshWhiteAshTurtle Lake, Wisconsin USA7 Threads 688 Posts
WhiteAshTurtle Lake, Wisconsin USA688 posts
I could not imagine even going out on a first date, if I did not at least like them.
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#6
Jan 12, 2008 11:30 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
blue_eyed_blonde
blue_eyed_blondeblue_eyed_blondeVinton, Iowa USA51 Threads 5,458 Posts
blue_eyed_blondeVinton, Iowa USA5,458 posts
I would think there should be something there to go on the date in the first place...I dont put much thought into the first date...I think I make a bad first impression myself and it seems like there so much info going back on forth that I do alot of analyzing afterwards. It takes me some time to understand what I think of them...so a second date is a must for me to really get to know them. JMOwine
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#7
Jan 12, 2008 11:39 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
UnluckyGuyinpa
UnluckyGuyinpaUnluckyGuyinpaTrenton, New Jersey USA1 Threads 137 Posts
UnluckyGuyinpaTrenton, New Jersey USA137 posts
Well said. thumbs up
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#8
Jan 12, 2008 11:41 PM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
constanza
constanzaconstanzaLA, California USA28 Threads 1 Polls 5,159 Posts
constanzaLA, California USA5,159 posts
Chemistry is instantaneous; it's that nervous energy that is in the air; it's having to make an effort to breathe normally; otherwise if it's too calm it ain't itlaugh
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#9
Jan 13, 2008 1:42 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Weimarlady
WeimarladyWeimarladySouth, Xlokk Malta29 Threads 5 Polls 1,305 Posts
WeimarladySouth, Xlokk Malta1,305 posts
In response to: Chemistry is instantaneous; it's that nervous energy that is in the air; it's having to make an effort to breathe normally


And I would not necessarily expect that to happen the very first time you meet the person, but maybe I'm just weird. To me, the VERY main thing is finding out whether we interest each other, whether the emails that seemed promising would be supported by any connection when meeting in person for the first time. I would only meet someone in person who I thought could potentially be at least a good friend. At least for me it is very possible that the person is interesting to talk with, to discover the way they think (and be pleasantly surprised) etc, and the proper attraction can grow gradually as you learn about each other.
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#10
Jan 13, 2008 2:11 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
langleygirl
langleygirllangleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada70 Threads 8,202 Posts
langleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada8,202 posts
I agree with this post; but I also believe that there should be chemistry ..... and whether we like it or not ...... I think that most of the time - at least from my personal experiences - is that chemistry does not develop over time. The initial attraction is there from the beginning - and can grow stronger as I get to know someone better.

I don't think "chemistry" is something that can be made to happen - it can be cultivated; but its a naturally occurring phenomenon that we have no control over.
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#11
Jan 13, 2008 3:58 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK49 Threads 12 Polls 6,581 Posts
EuphoWild Wild South West, England UK6,581 posts
I would only be on a first date if there was chemistry in the first place.

If I don't become more intrigued (at all) then I wouldn't bother with 2nd date.
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#12
Jan 13, 2008 4:14 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
cristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands17,243 posts
yes, you can develop it later!

If you are attentive, there is always something interesting about everyone.Some have less, others more. With those that have less, you just need to explore the person more, chemistry might come.Not always we want to explore more... COMPLETELY FAIR!banana banana banana


kiss
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#13
Jan 13, 2008 4:16 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
Aries01Kent, England UK2,732 posts
If you really enjoy that persons company you might wish to hang out again... but in my experienc at least.. the chemistry element is pretty essential...dunno.... its part of the 'clicking' process smile
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#14
Jan 13, 2008 4:18 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK49 Threads 12 Polls 6,581 Posts
EuphoWild Wild South West, England UK6,581 posts
Oo I like your new piccie Aries! applause
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#15
Jan 13, 2008 4:49 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
Aries01Kent, England UK2,732 posts
Thanks Eupho.. blushing

Hiya wave hug
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#16
Jan 13, 2008 5:37 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta27 Threads 1 Polls 4,368 Posts
morganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta4,368 posts
thumbs up
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#17
Jan 13, 2008 5:51 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
riyablossom
riyablossomriyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA184 Threads 18 Polls 11,244 Posts
riyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA11,244 posts
A good impression atleast , if not chemistry and some positive vibes about them will do for the first time.

I usually take time to judge unless its blatant dislike or disinterest.
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#18
Jan 13, 2008 5:52 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK49 Threads 12 Polls 6,581 Posts
EuphoWild Wild South West, England UK6,581 posts
I agree Riya...

Hellooo wave hug
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#19
Jan 13, 2008 6:09 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
Zellarrone1
Zellarrone1Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK33 Threads 4 Polls 7,644 Posts
Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK7,644 posts
For me, there would have to be some kind of a spark/chemistry on
the first date or I would not be interested in a second date at all

wine
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#20
Jan 13, 2008 6:17 AM CST DO U HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY ON THE FIRST DATE,IF NOT WILL IT DEVELOP LATER?
riyablossom
riyablossomriyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA184 Threads 18 Polls 11,244 Posts
riyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA11,244 posts
heelloo eupho .. hope you are doing good.

wave hug
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