alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
A winning smile and confidence. A sense of humor doesn't hurt. Manly but not macho. To me looks only matter in that they reflect the person within. No one is attractive with frown lines.
Seabiscuit: At first it's all about looks, anyone who says it isn't is a liar.. You wouldn't go up to someone on a bar and say "Hi, you look like you've got a great personality.." .
After that things like personality etc come in to play.. Well, that's my opinion on it anyway.
Looks can attract your attention.. true.. but given that I am not into being picked up in bars.. nor picking anyone else up in a bar really, it honestly doesn't figure that much... none of my boyfriends were that gorgeous... and of course you need to feel a kind of chemistry.. but that chemistry isn't confined to looks.. so no we are not lying.. perhaps we are just a little less shallow..
Serenity1971: What are the things that attract you to someone? Looks? Brains? Personality? Or is it something else?
All of the above + a great sense of humor, somebody easy going...stressfree, and of course the eyes. Oh my, I love eyes. I'm also really attracted to women who actually understand me and my zany thoughts...as well as my deep and complex thoughts.....
While it's true some like the total package, including myself, physical characteristics are low on the totem pole...I'm more interested in his mind and personality.
Intelligence The way that they conduct themselves and how they treat others Their sense of humor and fun adventurous spirit (not necessarily 24/7 .... but having it) Their looks to a decent degree ........ gotta have that physical attraction and chemistry
Its a combination of everything ....... because when I think back over men that I've been attracted to - I can peg one certain thing that stands out in my mind. As well, they were all different - so I'll take a Heinz man!
I love a man that makes me laugh. I'm very attracted to that. He also has to be smart, I love a good conversationalist. One must be physically attractive to me or I wouldn't be drawn to them physically. All of this ties into a personality that I find interesting.
Sometimes looks too, but I'm not into "Pretty Boys" or "Gym Freaks" (those who spend 90% of the day at the gym) and also I'm not into morbidly obese guys either (yuck! Can't be active, that's for sure).
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