Have your views changed? (89)
Interesting.......
I believe it boils down to what the individual is really here for in the first place.
Never assume....as in other situations when a lot of people are involved, it's a mixed bunch u find. Before getting down to passing judgment one has to get to know people.
Normally this happens within the first few times one corresponds, u get a general idea of the strenghts and weakneses of the individual. Even from reading someone's posts on varying subjects, u have more or less a clear idea of the charachteristics.
Yes, i do like some on here more then others, not by looks however, but rather from mental prowess.
As to having changed my perspectives since coming on CS.....no way....broadened them maybe, but changed no.
I believe it boils down to what the individual is really here for in the first place.
Never assume....as in other situations when a lot of people are involved, it's a mixed bunch u find. Before getting down to passing judgment one has to get to know people.
Normally this happens within the first few times one corresponds, u get a general idea of the strenghts and weakneses of the individual. Even from reading someone's posts on varying subjects, u have more or less a clear idea of the charachteristics.
Yes, i do like some on here more then others, not by looks however, but rather from mental prowess.
As to having changed my perspectives since coming on CS.....no way....broadened them maybe, but changed no.
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arabella: “Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.” ~Benjamin Franklin~
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arabella: “Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.” ~Benjamin Franklin~
Amen
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Claayer: My views alter about everyone the more I get to know them.. men and women here..
One thing that I have mentioned before than often makes me laugh.. are that the two people I really didn't particularly like when I was first here.. have become two of my favourite people.
One thing that I have mentioned before than often makes me laugh.. are that the two people I really didn't particularly like when I was first here.. have become two of my favourite people.
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Indyfella: :looking around the room emoticon:
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The_Kansan: A substantial part of my life was made better by the fact that I learned to make snap judgements about people I dealt with daily. I won't go into details, but suffice it to say that it served me well at the time.
Here on CS (as well as other forums) who we are is defined by how we present ourselves to other forum members. There are those who profess not to be as "self-centered," "pessimistic," "happy-go-lucky," etc... in real life as they are in the cyber world. And we have to take their word for it, since the vast majority of us (sadly&happily) will never meet in real life. Unfortunately (or in some cases, fortunately ), what they type is all we have to go by.
And all of that is a rather long-winded way of saying that, Yes, my views have changed about certain individuals, but it is because the individuals themselves have changed - or at least changed the way they present themselves - and I've simply adjusted my views accordingly.
Here on CS (as well as other forums) who we are is defined by how we present ourselves to other forum members. There are those who profess not to be as "self-centered," "pessimistic," "happy-go-lucky," etc... in real life as they are in the cyber world. And we have to take their word for it, since the vast majority of us (sadly&happily) will never meet in real life. Unfortunately (or in some cases, fortunately ), what they type is all we have to go by.
And all of that is a rather long-winded way of saying that, Yes, my views have changed about certain individuals, but it is because the individuals themselves have changed - or at least changed the way they present themselves - and I've simply adjusted my views accordingly.
Those would be pretty much my views too
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No my views have pretty much stayed the same, about other members on CS, I still think most of them are pretty great. But the views I have of my self have changed quite a bit. Left field? not even in the park.
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I think I'm pretty good at 'reading' people both here and in real life so no, I haven't changed my initial perception of anybody really.
I have however been surprised at the strength of venom and hatred in some posts of people I knew held extremely opposite views to my own - not a problem - but later displayed an inability to listen or tolerate any difference of opinion.
I have also read posts from people which are so conflicting and this is what I dislike most. It seems that some post simply to gain friends/support whatever, and do not stick to their principles. Maybe they do not have principles, I don't know, but it's very confusing to read a post from somebody one day then the next read something from that same person which is so fundamentally different!
Perhaps the behaviour of some people is affected by medication, drugs, alcohol whatever, but it sure confuses the hell out of me!
It is a real eye opener posting in the forums.
I have however been surprised at the strength of venom and hatred in some posts of people I knew held extremely opposite views to my own - not a problem - but later displayed an inability to listen or tolerate any difference of opinion.
I have also read posts from people which are so conflicting and this is what I dislike most. It seems that some post simply to gain friends/support whatever, and do not stick to their principles. Maybe they do not have principles, I don't know, but it's very confusing to read a post from somebody one day then the next read something from that same person which is so fundamentally different!
Perhaps the behaviour of some people is affected by medication, drugs, alcohol whatever, but it sure confuses the hell out of me!
It is a real eye opener posting in the forums.
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have been on CS for a couple of years and found those people I have as friends have been the same online as in real world when we met....
this in part is mainly due to taking the time to really get to know them ........and Im talking more than a couple of weeks here.
CS also seems to go through different stages. The sad part is all those with a sense of humour seem to end up gone for one reason or another..usually from the hounding they get from members who have no humour.......
loveaboy was one that made me look forward to logging in but the negetivity that was starting at that time made him choose to leave..and we lost some really nice people like that along the way.
this in part is mainly due to taking the time to really get to know them ........and Im talking more than a couple of weeks here.
CS also seems to go through different stages. The sad part is all those with a sense of humour seem to end up gone for one reason or another..usually from the hounding they get from members who have no humour.......
loveaboy was one that made me look forward to logging in but the negetivity that was starting at that time made him choose to leave..and we lost some really nice people like that along the way.
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now that was funny. rivame: have been on CS for a couple of years and found those people I have as friends have been the same online as in real world when we met....
this in part is mainly due to taking the time to really get to know them ........and Im talking more than a couple of weeks here.
CS also seems to go through different stages. The sad part is all those with a sense of humour seem to end up gone for one reason or another..usually from the hounding they get from members who have no humour.......
loveaboy was one that made me look forward to logging in but the negetivity that was starting at that time made him choose to leave..and we lost some really nice people like that along the way.
this in part is mainly due to taking the time to really get to know them ........and Im talking more than a couple of weeks here.
CS also seems to go through different stages. The sad part is all those with a sense of humour seem to end up gone for one reason or another..usually from the hounding they get from members who have no humour.......
loveaboy was one that made me look forward to logging in but the negetivity that was starting at that time made him choose to leave..and we lost some really nice people like that along the way.
I miss Unmatchable.. he was bloody FUNNY!... (he did my devil horns pic)
Hope you are having fun!
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Jan1305: I think I'm pretty good at 'reading' people both here and in real life so no, I haven't changed my initial perception of anybody really.
I have however been surprised at the strength of venom and hatred in some posts of people I knew held extremely opposite views to my own - not a problem - but later displayed an inability to listen or tolerate any difference of opinion.
I have also read posts from people which are so conflicting and this is what I dislike most. It seems that some post simply to gain friends/support whatever, and do not stick to their principles. Maybe they do not have principles, I don't know, but it's very confusing to read a post from somebody one day then the next read something from that same person which is so fundamentally different!
Perhaps the behaviour of some people is affected by medication, drugs, alcohol whatever, but it sure confuses the hell out of me!
It is a real eye opener posting in the forums.
I have however been surprised at the strength of venom and hatred in some posts of people I knew held extremely opposite views to my own - not a problem - but later displayed an inability to listen or tolerate any difference of opinion.
I have also read posts from people which are so conflicting and this is what I dislike most. It seems that some post simply to gain friends/support whatever, and do not stick to their principles. Maybe they do not have principles, I don't know, but it's very confusing to read a post from somebody one day then the next read something from that same person which is so fundamentally different!
Perhaps the behaviour of some people is affected by medication, drugs, alcohol whatever, but it sure confuses the hell out of me!
It is a real eye opener posting in the forums.
exactly!!!
So many say whatever they know will sound good and gain them friends,, no matter how fake it is.
have also seen a few real people. that is the only reason I stay.
but the honest and real people have a hard time surviving because many others really want to be buttered up and made to feel good, even if it is fake.
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it is a shame.
Im sure most people remember when I first came here, I usually made a lot of people laugh and enjoyed light hearted conversation.
But I myself have drastically changed over time because of so many nasty attacks and 2nd profile people attacking me.. acting nice and friendly with original profile, then create a second to attack and be nasty.
this has made it so difficult to trust anyone and made me more bitter and hard.
Im sure most people remember when I first came here, I usually made a lot of people laugh and enjoyed light hearted conversation.
But I myself have drastically changed over time because of so many nasty attacks and 2nd profile people attacking me.. acting nice and friendly with original profile, then create a second to attack and be nasty.
this has made it so difficult to trust anyone and made me more bitter and hard.
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rasgumby: it is a shame.
Im sure most people remember when I first came here, I usually made a lot of people laugh and enjoyed light hearted conversation.
But I myself have drastically changed over time because of so many nasty attacks and 2nd profile people attacking me.. acting nice and friendly with original profile, then create a second to attack and be nasty.
this has made it so difficult to trust anyone and made me more bitter and hard.
Im sure most people remember when I first came here, I usually made a lot of people laugh and enjoyed light hearted conversation.
But I myself have drastically changed over time because of so many nasty attacks and 2nd profile people attacking me.. acting nice and friendly with original profile, then create a second to attack and be nasty.
this has made it so difficult to trust anyone and made me more bitter and hard.
That is sad and I wasn't aware that's been your experience here
I have to wonder at the state of their hearts and what has happened in people's lives to cause them so much bitterness/pain and anger. Acknowledging the hurt that you've experienced is perhaps the first step to releasing that bitterness? It took me a long time to understand that my anger was the result of underlying hurts that I hadn't acknowledged and dealt with ....... when we hold onto these feelings they have power over us ........ letting go allows us freedom to be who we really are.
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langleygirl:
I have to wonder at the state of their hearts and what has happened in people's lives to cause them so much bitterness/pain and anger. Acknowledging the hurt that you've experienced is perhaps the first step to releasing that bitterness? It took me a long time to understand that my anger was the result of underlying hurts that I hadn't acknowledged and dealt with ....... when we hold onto these feelings they have power over us ........ letting go allows us freedom to be who we really are.
I have to wonder at the state of their hearts and what has happened in people's lives to cause them so much bitterness/pain and anger. Acknowledging the hurt that you've experienced is perhaps the first step to releasing that bitterness? It took me a long time to understand that my anger was the result of underlying hurts that I hadn't acknowledged and dealt with ....... when we hold onto these feelings they have power over us ........ letting go allows us freedom to be who we really are.
I applaud you on a truly inspirational and truthful post.
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Maybe 4.00 gas has something to do with it.
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when I fists joined I had a view of the Iaqi desert now I got a view from my home town...
so yes my views have changed 
so yes my views have changed
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jimbhoy: when I fists joined I had a view of the Iaqi desert now I got a view from my home town...
so yes my views have changed
so yes my views have changed
Amazing the journey that you've been on ......... although I'm sure you're ears are probably a little bigger from Nuala having to put you in your place!
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I know one way my views have changed. I never liked that saying or the idea of 'a woman scorned' because I think it stereotypes women. Here, I have definitely learned that A MAN SCORNED is as bad, definitely as bad, in his behavior and desire to get back at a woman who has scorned him as any stereotypical vision of a woman scorned.
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