"What" will you bring to the table? ( Archived) (16)

Interesting question, in all honesty I had to think about it..

A few weeks back while I was doing my usual clowning around about finding a 22 yo redhead in the forums, a lady emailed me asking this question. I "think" (and that can be dangerous for me) I said me. Yet, that question keeps popping into my head.

I all honesty, at this moment in time, absolutely nothing... I care for an elderly mom, it would not be fair to you. I do not have the time or energy to provide you with the attention you deserve and the attention I would choose to give you.

It would not be fair to mom to bring a stranger into her domain during her final time on earth.

All of this set aside, first and foremost, I would bring "ME" to the table. You, and our time together would have priority over all else (within reason). I possibly would/could be demanding at times but I may not realize it (I am a man you know). I would hope that you would have enough faith in our relationship to know it is OK to say exactly what you wish to say.

If I have to be able to "afford" you, I am not the man for you. I am no longer willing to "provide" for another (if they are capable of providing for themselves). I believe a partnership is down the middle. I am also old enough & wise enough to realize that at times, one partner may have to carry all the load and I have no problem there.

I am not one that believes cooking, cleaning, doing dishes, doing laundry or cleaning toilets is womans work. Mom started me cooking when I was 7 years old and I assure you I cleaned before that. I am one that believes that is something needs to be done, do it. Hell, I spent the last 2 days at the bike shop cleaning. That is not what Jim pays me to do, but it needed doing.

This is just part of who I am and shows that at times, it does take a while for a question to sink into this thick skull..

BTW, that lady has become a very close friend to me and in my "moments" of anxiety with mom, I do find strength and I am grateful for her..

I'll bring the wine....

I will bring myself...............am more than enough

Wow...

You see, I have that caretaker thing going on too.

Except that the person I take care of is 19 and I will be taking care of him as long as I am on this earth.

So... do we delay making a connection for ourselves?

And do we delay involving someone else in our lives?

How long do we wait?

Or do we invite someone in....to share what we do and who we care for.

Time is short.

How long do we wait?

hi shel

Heya....

I had a boyfriend once (him once but have had others ) and he said he would bring a "knife and fork" to the table....

While this could be true, it could also bring her peace and solace to see you find true love. Mothers are like that - they just want their babies to be happy.