For the Guys. Dating Women Who Are Coming Out of a Bad Relationship (21)
Matthew98Flowery Branch, Georgia USA3 Threads 46 PostsHas anyone ever had decent relationship with a woman coming out of a bad relationship. My ex-girlfriend and I had problems with this. I was always living in her ex's shadow who treated her horrible. I treated her very well which she admitted too but there was always the element of fear that I would turn out to be him. Any other men on here experience this?
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sound like you either got with her while she was on rebound or she just couldnt let go of what happened to her in the old relationship and carried it with her to the next
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
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best to leave them alone. You are in a no win situation
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got_milk: sound like you either got with her while she was on rebound or she just couldnt let go of what happened to her in the old relationship and carried it with her to the next
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
Yeah I was afraid of the whole rebound thing when I got with her for sure. We've been friends for over 10 years.
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shipoker58: best to leave them alone. You are in a no win situation
It is a no win when some one has not had time to heal and they get caught on the rebound.
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got_milk: sound like you either got with her while she was on rebound or she just couldnt let go of what happened to her in the old relationship and carried it with her to the next
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
but then some things are hard to forget and let go for some people
I agree...she probably didn't take the time she needed in between relationships and sometimes when women see certain patterns repeating themselves that were a part of an old relationship...it's easy to get fearful of things turning out the same even though they are two different people!!!!!!!!!
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CjTenorSax: It is a no win when some one has not had time to heal and they get caught on the rebound.
Well when we first started dating, I told her about my concerns. That I didn't think she was ready for a relationship but she seemed ok with it so we went about our business. Well we broke up last Tuesday. She says that she's going to stay single for a year or two. Not sure that will actually happen but I still care for her. After all, I've been friends with her for over ten years and she's still a dear friend of mine.
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"I agree...she probably didn't take the time she needed in between relationships "
Agreed, if she can't stand on her own two feet and meet you eyeball to eyeball, you're likely to have problems (unless you like to be an enabler, which I gather some folks do).
Better luck next time.
Agreed, if she can't stand on her own two feet and meet you eyeball to eyeball, you're likely to have problems (unless you like to be an enabler, which I gather some folks do).
Better luck next time.
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NEVER DATE a girl on the rebound GOOD RELATIONSHIP OR BAD. EVER. NEVER.
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WhatUwish4: "I agree...she probably didn't take the time she needed in between relationships "
Agreed, if she can't stand on her own two feet and meet you eyeball to eyeball, you're likely to have problems (unless you like to be an enabler, which I gather some folks do).
Better luck next time.
Agreed, if she can't stand on her own two feet and meet you eyeball to eyeball, you're likely to have problems (unless you like to be an enabler, which I gather some folks do).
Better luck next time.
I agree with you. Hopefully she'll find what she's looking for. Hopefully I'll find what I'm looking for. I thought she was a great woman, still do.
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Matthew98: Well when we first started dating, I told her about my concerns. That I didn't think she was ready for a relationship but she seemed ok with it so we went about our business. Well we broke up last Tuesday. She says that she's going to stay single for a year or two. Not sure that will actually happen but I still care for her. After all, I've been friends with her for over ten years and she's still a dear friend of mine.
Sorry to hear that Matthew, that kinda sucks. Doesn't make a lot of sense though. She couldn't have been much in the 'here and now'. Rebound or not, important to leave it behind and enjoy the person you're with!
All the best, you will meet someone who deserves you!
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Matthew98: Has anyone ever had decent relationship with a woman coming out of a bad relationship. My ex-girlfriend and I had problems with this. I was always living in her ex's shadow who treated her horrible. I treated her very well which she admitted too but there was always the element of fear that I would turn out to be him. Any other men on here experience this?
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Regardless of gender - its probably best to hold off getting involved with anyone until they've healed - that can take different amounts of time depending on the person and the issues involved and how motivated they are to deal with things.
Some people seem to leave a relationship and jump right back into dating - why not take the time to heal, recover and learn and bring the best "you" into a new relationship?
Some people seem to leave a relationship and jump right back into dating - why not take the time to heal, recover and learn and bring the best "you" into a new relationship?
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I dated a woman, after 3.5 months of e mail, chat and phone, she invited to her place.
She had forgot to mention that her X BF still lived in her house, in a separate room. her house, built on his land
She had asked him to disappear for a few days, but she had invited me for a week. He soon craved his own warm bed.
Just plain stupid on her part. He didn't want to let her go.
All her anger at him was displaced on me.
People that can't take a break between relationships have a "love addiction" problem. They treat relationships as children do security blankets.
It takes time out of a relationship to process problems of it.
"Baggage" is the term that covers unresolved issues from past relationships.
She had forgot to mention that her X BF still lived in her house, in a separate room. her house, built on his land
She had asked him to disappear for a few days, but she had invited me for a week. He soon craved his own warm bed.
Just plain stupid on her part. He didn't want to let her go.
All her anger at him was displaced on me.
People that can't take a break between relationships have a "love addiction" problem. They treat relationships as children do security blankets.
It takes time out of a relationship to process problems of it.
"Baggage" is the term that covers unresolved issues from past relationships.
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Not only no but h@ll no!! Do not, men or women, I repeat, do NOT date someone fresh out of a divorce or a bad break-up of a long term relationship. I can't set a time limit, but people have to have time to heal. A person who jumps into a new relationship before resolving issues from the old one is going to hurt themselves and their new partner. They can't help it, they don't mean to, but they will. Run, far and fast, do not get involved!
Voice of experience here, and I freakin' knew better! 
Voice of experience here, and I freakin' knew better!
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I won't.......not if she's on the rebound.
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We all have baggage in this life. I have had some women friends that I have worked with that have got out of a bad thing and gone into a serious relationship that worked out. Depends if the person really is over their ex or not. Sometimes when a woman is having a rough time out of a relationship maybe being her friend for a bit is an idea instead of rushing headlong into something serious. The longer men and women are in relationships sometimes the longer they take to get over things as well.
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im new here but my ex is going around seaying that i rapped her.iv allready been in 2 fights with her ex or curent boy friends.the cops say they cant do eney thing sence no one will admittto her sending them out for me. still it makes me "gun shy" about just being here.bad relationshipsare bad relationships no mater how you cut it.
so drink a beer and go on or what.
so drink a beer and go on or what.
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