How and Why Women "Test" you. (167)
jbibiza: I know what you mean... it´s one of the reasons I do like IM... less time to think... better chance of more honest answers.
Telephone is even better.
The im here absolutely underpar,imho.
Mods do not shoot me.
I love the mods .
Love C.S. too.
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jbibiza: I´m not talking about the things the op has listed, I think most of those are as the rest of you have said... crap.
But I do think that people in the course of getting to know someone do things to see how a person reacts. If I´m dating someone and thinking of taking it to a more serious level..... he´s going to get an invitation to a family party. I´ll introduce him around a bit and then disappear for a while... at that stage it´s sink or swim. I am a very social person and I need to know that...
a. A man can get along with my family, or at least put on a bold front
b. He can handle himself in social situations
If our time together so far has been one on one then these are things I don´t know about him, but are important if the relationship is going to go any further.
I think everyone, if they think about it does things like this.... do you have a special girl friend that´s a bit of a nutter but you love her... and you´re looking forward to seeing how he gets on with her....
You´ve got an uncle a bit like our lovely Ship, quite crusty on the outside but a jewel underneath, aren´t you curious to see if he walks away thinking grumpy old cuss, or if he is able to suss out the truth?
But I do think that people in the course of getting to know someone do things to see how a person reacts. If I´m dating someone and thinking of taking it to a more serious level..... he´s going to get an invitation to a family party. I´ll introduce him around a bit and then disappear for a while... at that stage it´s sink or swim. I am a very social person and I need to know that...
a. A man can get along with my family, or at least put on a bold front
b. He can handle himself in social situations
If our time together so far has been one on one then these are things I don´t know about him, but are important if the relationship is going to go any further.
I think everyone, if they think about it does things like this.... do you have a special girl friend that´s a bit of a nutter but you love her... and you´re looking forward to seeing how he gets on with her....
You´ve got an uncle a bit like our lovely Ship, quite crusty on the outside but a jewel underneath, aren´t you curious to see if he walks away thinking grumpy old cuss, or if he is able to suss out the truth?
I must agree with the use of the word "TEST" giving off a nagative vive, now as for testing someone to see if they can handle their own in your fanily setting by disappearing for 10 or whatever time, is actually a cruel in itself, is it not. You need to know if this person, is capable of handling his own, in a setting where he may not know anyone, or for that matter, not be social enough unless someone walks up to him and speaks of something he knows, or enjoys speaking of. I've been tested in such manner, and have upset the one who tested me, to see if I'd get along with her family, and when they then scolded her about leaving, she placed the blame on me for being too social. go figure.
so in truth, it is best for me to be myself, take it, or leave it. NO test required, I'm simply me. outspoken, comical, loud at times, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, bend steel with my bare hands, look up in the sky.....................what are you doing looking up?
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polishknight: i dont ask questions to test , their test is in there personality
You just made my point.
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jbibiza: I do like IM...
I like the way UR too
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jbibiza: I know what you mean... it´s one of the reasons I do like IM... less time to think... better chance of more honest answers.
then I get questioned as why it takes so long to respond.... my typing skills SUCK... but they automatically assume that is not the truth.
much better at articulating my views and opinions, thus i stick with what I'm good at.... the face to face encounters
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mrsmiles4444: I must agree with the use of the word "TEST" giving off a nagative vive, now as for testing someone to see if they can handle their own in your fanily setting by disappearing for 10 or whatever time, is actually a cruel in itself, is it not. You need to know if this person, is capable of handling his own, in a setting where he may not know anyone, or for that matter, not be social enough unless someone walks up to him and speaks of something he knows, or enjoys speaking of. I've been tested in such manner, and have upset the one who tested me, to see if I'd get along with her family, and when they then scolded her about leaving, she placed the blame on me for being too social. go figure.
so in truth, it is best for me to be myself, take it, or leave it. NO test required, I'm simply me. outspoken, comical, loud at times, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, bend steel with my bare hands, look up in the sky.....................what are you doing looking up?
so in truth, it is best for me to be myself, take it, or leave it. NO test required, I'm simply me. outspoken, comical, loud at times, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, bend steel with my bare hands, look up in the sky.....................what are you doing looking up?
Thanks i gott laugh here.I can relate.So basically you got accused of having more fun than her.
Sometime we just cant win no matter how many tall buildings are leapt.etc.
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Here are a few.I'll check in later on.
Enjoy the discussion.
Have you ever called a woman on the phone to
set up a date and she says: "Friday night?
Sure. Call me on Friday and we can talk about
it..."?
Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you're
"a player"?
Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?
Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?
Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn't get her way?
Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don't you give me your number
and I'll call YOU"?
Well guess what... you were being TESTED.
There's many variables in the Dating Game. There never seems to be the same solution with the beginning or ending of a date. Both prospective players are doing just that, playing,playing the game of yes or no .
To say this individuals thread is wrong or slanted is being nearsighted.
EX. I have had women ask me to dance as well as for my phone number..
I have had women ask me to bed them.
I have asked for a phone number,been refused. Then ask why ? "We don't know each other good enough".
Ask," how about going to dinner then" ?
" Sorry we don't know each other good enough".
"Well then darlin if we can't contact each other how will we ever get to know each other better" ?
Final Reply," meet me here next Saturday at 9;00.
Meeting Saturday at 9;00. Date kept by both parties.
Same conversation ensues.
Testing,Testing,1,2,3.
Hell-o ?
A phone number is about the only way to be able to schedule time together unless by E-mail.
Better to tell that man or woman," hey I'm not interested than to be a jerk, and try to come up with another misleading solution".
I test,you test, hell everybody tests all of the time.
No ending to it and all tests vary.
I applaud the thread and everybody's personal opinion concerning women's test's but to think that everybpdy's expectaions and approach towards tests are the same is very self centered and nearsighted.
Being on the receiving end of a woman's scorn or testing method is brutal and in many cases unfair.
Since I'm man, I haven't any idea how women feel about the way we test them.
Off my podium..
T.D.
Enjoy the discussion.
Have you ever called a woman on the phone to
set up a date and she says: "Friday night?
Sure. Call me on Friday and we can talk about
it..."?
Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you're
"a player"?
Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?
Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?
Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn't get her way?
Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don't you give me your number
and I'll call YOU"?
Well guess what... you were being TESTED.
There's many variables in the Dating Game. There never seems to be the same solution with the beginning or ending of a date. Both prospective players are doing just that, playing,playing the game of yes or no .
To say this individuals thread is wrong or slanted is being nearsighted.
EX. I have had women ask me to dance as well as for my phone number..
I have had women ask me to bed them.
I have asked for a phone number,been refused. Then ask why ? "We don't know each other good enough".
Ask," how about going to dinner then" ?
" Sorry we don't know each other good enough".
"Well then darlin if we can't contact each other how will we ever get to know each other better" ?
Final Reply," meet me here next Saturday at 9;00.
Meeting Saturday at 9;00. Date kept by both parties.
Same conversation ensues.
Testing,Testing,1,2,3.
Hell-o ?
A phone number is about the only way to be able to schedule time together unless by E-mail.
Better to tell that man or woman," hey I'm not interested than to be a jerk, and try to come up with another misleading solution".
I test,you test, hell everybody tests all of the time.
No ending to it and all tests vary.
I applaud the thread and everybody's personal opinion concerning women's test's but to think that everybpdy's expectaions and approach towards tests are the same is very self centered and nearsighted.
Being on the receiving end of a woman's scorn or testing method is brutal and in many cases unfair.
Since I'm man, I haven't any idea how women feel about the way we test them.
Off my podium..
T.D.
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friendsfirst: You want a piece of me too don't you.
He clearly stated the "the test",is in the personality.
He clearly stated the "the test",is in the personality.
But not for me.
There is no test.
There is a person with hopefully a nice personality.
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fireliter: then I get questioned as why it takes so long to respond.... my typing skills SUCK... but they automatically assume that is not the truth.
much better at articulating my views and opinions, thus i stick with what I'm good at.... the face to face encounters
much better at articulating my views and opinions, thus i stick with what I'm good at.... the face to face encounters
No offense,but face and writing to a blank just doesn't sit well with me.
But i agree.Some people cannot type and a telephone conversation or lunch date would be better.
Glad it works for you.
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Sommerauer71: But not for me.
There is no test.
There is a person with hopefully a nice personality.
There is no test.
There is a person with hopefully a nice personality.
Indeed.
So how do you like this place so far?
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friendsfirst: No offense,but face and writing to a blank just doesn't sit well with me.
But i agree.Some people cannot type and a telephone conversation or lunch date would be better.
Glad it works for you.
But i agree.Some people cannot type and a telephone conversation or lunch date would be better.
Glad it works for you.
Always consider the ability to sit and chat on a phone for hours as a feminine quality....never quite acquired it or felt comfortable doing it. family, kids sure but just to chat it up with a stranger...course, never really tried the 1-976 numbers either. but if phones conversations work for you ... thats great
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mrsmiles4444: I must agree with the use of the word "TEST" giving off a nagative vive, now as for testing someone to see if they can handle their own in your fanily setting by disappearing for 10 or whatever time, is actually a cruel in itself, is it not. You need to know if this person, is capable of handling his own, in a setting where he may not know anyone, or for that matter, not be social enough unless someone walks up to him and speaks of something he knows, or enjoys speaking of. I've been tested in such manner, and have upset the one who tested me, to see if I'd get along with her family, and when they then scolded her about leaving, she placed the blame on me for being too social. go figure.
so in truth, it is best for me to be myself, take it, or leave it. NO test required, I'm simply me. outspoken, comical, loud at times, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, bend steel with my bare hands, look up in the sky.....................what are you doing looking up?
so in truth, it is best for me to be myself, take it, or leave it. NO test required, I'm simply me. outspoken, comical, loud at times, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, bend steel with my bare hands, look up in the sky.....................what are you doing looking up?
That´s what it´s all about... being able to get to know a person who is being themselves, anyone can say I get along great with kids, or I´m a really social guy... all the words in the world don´t compare to seeing for yourself.
I was in love with a guy a few years ago who was quite a bit younger then I am, he knew I couldn´t have any more kids and professed that he didn´t want children... when I saw him with his nieces and nephews I knew I was looking at a man who should be a father... that coupled with the fact that his fiance (prior to meeting me) had been killed by a drunk driver while pregnant with their child, was enough for me to realize that the words he spoke were spoken out of love and not really how he felt.
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airliner: I like the way UR too
very clever... I like clever 
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friendsfirst: You just made my point.
I still don't understand your "point".
Testing someone as you outlined in your OP is manipulation, whether it be the situation or the other person's feelings to garner a reaction or response, and it's wrong. Period!
Who the hell likes being manipulated? What sort of response or reaction do you expect people to have when they figure out they're being manipulated?
Was your referring to other members on this site as "WUSSYS" part of a game to get a reaction?
Curious to hear your answers.
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fireliter: thats what I'm talking about
Sommersaur "I agree, but there are a handful who can articulate themselves very well and that says alot to me.
A careful well measured, post means that it has been considered and thought out, shows some self control. "
both these instances can be indications of a devious nature.
I am both of these, and it can and does at times instill doubt in some of my upstanding, forthright, and amicable character.
Sommersaur "I agree, but there are a handful who can articulate themselves very well and that says alot to me.
A careful well measured, post means that it has been considered and thought out, shows some self control. "
both these instances can be indications of a devious nature.
I am both of these, and it can and does at times instill doubt in some of my upstanding, forthright, and amicable character.
Hum, can you back this up, about it being indicative of a devious character?
People mistake strength for deviousness, and certainly bullying.
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friendsfirst: Indeed.
So how do you like this place so far?
So how do you like this place so far?
What since February, aside from the usual amount of nutters like any other online community, it is ok.
Come across some nice people.
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hmm if i do any of this .. its not a test but it got to be some reason of good standing and understanding.
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kidatheart: I still don't understand your "point".
Testing someone as you outlined in your OP is manipulation, whether it be the situation or the other person's feelings to garner a reaction or response, and it's wrong. Period!
Who the hell likes being manipulated? What sort of response or reaction do you expect people to have when they figure out they're being manipulated?
Was your referring to other members on this site as "WUSSYS" part of a game to get a reaction?
Curious to hear your answers.
Testing someone as you outlined in your OP is manipulation, whether it be the situation or the other person's feelings to garner a reaction or response, and it's wrong. Period!
Who the hell likes being manipulated? What sort of response or reaction do you expect people to have when they figure out they're being manipulated?
Was your referring to other members on this site as "WUSSYS" part of a game to get a reaction?
Curious to hear your answers.
Hey Kid
For myself I´m looking for an honest response of who that person is, the things listed in the initial post weren´t good examples... bit more like high school games, but I do think that the process of getting to know someone is all about how they honestly react in situations... words are to easy to manipulate.------ This thread is Archived ------
airliner: no no no.....first of, give yourself more credit than that....second, let the "explorer" be the judge of that
Well...... I guess there are a few things left to explore.....
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Sommersaur "I agree, but there are a handful who can articulate themselves very well and that says alot to me.
A careful well measured, post means that it has been considered and thought out, shows some self control. "
both these instances can be indications of a devious nature.
I am both of these, and it can and does at times instill doubt in some of my upstanding, forthright, and amicable character.