Here I am on a dating site, and I'm not fit to date. (78)
Galactic_bodhi: My opinion has nothing to do with physical appearances. Let me explain, alison.
98% of the population is unrealistic about what would make them happy. They either have standards that are too high, or too low, they have issues with age differences, issues with political or religious differences, or they have race issues. Bottom line is nobody really knows what the hell to do, and putting them into a dating situation where they're expected to be paragons (mostly these expectations exist in their own minds, because the other person is too busy doing the same thing to have any real expectiations beyond their own narcissistic needs) is so torturous they'd rather do ANYTHING than date.
Yep. Undatable. For a variety of reasons. The other 2% don't date, not because they aren't fit to, but because they are already in happy, stable relationships because they DIDN'T have the above problems.
98% of the population is unrealistic about what would make them happy. They either have standards that are too high, or too low, they have issues with age differences, issues with political or religious differences, or they have race issues. Bottom line is nobody really knows what the hell to do, and putting them into a dating situation where they're expected to be paragons (mostly these expectations exist in their own minds, because the other person is too busy doing the same thing to have any real expectiations beyond their own narcissistic needs) is so torturous they'd rather do ANYTHING than date.
Yep. Undatable. For a variety of reasons. The other 2% don't date, not because they aren't fit to, but because they are already in happy, stable relationships because they DIDN'T have the above problems.
Very well explained and I understand fully, of course, GB. But....
The alternative, surely, is to not have any expectations (okay so far?) and lower one's standards to the point that, i.e. out of desperation or in order to not be alone anymore, etc, etc that anyone will do??
That strikes me as possibly heading for disaster too, n'est pas??
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GreenEyedBlonde1: I don't do it myself.
It's almost always more fun to do it with a partner.
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GreenEyedBlonde1: Hi there,
Your not alone......how would you like to be 61-1/2 and still dating. It's really difficult, but it's better than nothing. My friends say I'm a good looking gal, but, I meet guys that are fatter, and lie about how tall they are, go figure. I don't like liars, and I don't do it myself. But, don't give up, I'm sure there is a lovely girl out there looking for you too!
Your not alone......how would you like to be 61-1/2 and still dating. It's really difficult, but it's better than nothing. My friends say I'm a good looking gal, but, I meet guys that are fatter, and lie about how tall they are, go figure. I don't like liars, and I don't do it myself. But, don't give up, I'm sure there is a lovely girl out there looking for you too!
This ties right in with what I said above. You're not "undatable" because you aren't a lovely, vivacious woman, you're undatable because you don't fit with "datability" criteria.
I won't lie. I'm short. I'm undatable in most respects because most women don't want a short guy. Why should that matter in my ability to make them happy I'll never figure out, but hey, can't win any of them...
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shipoker58: I feel the EXACT same way Mastic!! It's just that I gave up a long time ago. You, at least have age on your side. At the risk of sounding gay and making Stooie physically ill, I don't understand why you haven't found anyone. You are a nice guy and a good looking guy. And you have the age thing working for you. Keep plugging away, guy, don't give up!!
And if that makes me sound gay....too frickin bad!!
And if that makes me sound gay....too frickin bad!!
BTW, I forgot to say..... Ship, you sound awfully gay, love!!
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Galactic_bodhi: This ties right in with what I said above. You're not "undatable" because you aren't a lovely, vivacious woman, you're undatable because you don't fit with "datability" criteria.
I won't lie. I'm short. I'm undatable in most respects because most women don't want a short guy. Why should that matter in my ability to make them happy I'll never figure out, but hey, can't win any of them...
I won't lie. I'm short. I'm undatable in most respects because most women don't want a short guy. Why should that matter in my ability to make them happy I'll never figure out, but hey, can't win any of them...
5'7" is short? That's the same height as me...but I get what you're saying. For a man it's short...and yet, there are a lot of women shorter than you. The average height for a woman is 5'4", so to a lot of women you'd be taller than them.
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druidess6308: 5'7" is short? That's the same height as me...but I get what you're saying. For a man it's short...and yet, there are a lot of women shorter than you. The average height for a woman is 5'4", so to a lot of women you'd be taller than them.
Yep. That's true. But those women want someone, tall, dark, and handsome...someone they can wear heels with and not tower over them...Someone, in short, hehe, other than me. It's okay. I've learned to live with my undatability.
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Galactic_bodhi: Yep. That's true. But those women want someone, tall, dark, and handsome...someone they can wear heels with and not tower over them...Someone, in short, hehe, other than me. It's okay. I've learned to live with my undatability.
Many men also put emphasis on the fact they want a physically fit lady, attractive, able to keep up with him in the bedroom. Many of us do not fit that bill at all. I sure know I definetely do not. But as I said in one other forum, WOW she's a pretty package, open her up and get to know her, no need to go. I have met many beautiful men and women on here in the 5 on again off again years I have been here and most are genuine, caring people. We just need to keep looking and if nothing else we will have many more friends
As for you mastic, I happen to know you are a very nice guy and do all you can to be a good father. Now believe in yourself and live each day with that knowledge. Luv Ya Now I want the long hair pic. back
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Galactic_bodhi: Yep. That's true. But those women want someone, tall, dark, and handsome...someone they can wear heels with and not tower over them...Someone, in short, hehe, other than me. It's okay. I've learned to live with my undatability.
You know, my late husband was 5'5"...I'm 5'7". I knew he was a little shorter than me before we started dating, but it had ceased to matter because I'd fallen in love with the soul looking out of those eyes. Since I can't wear heels, I don't have to worry about towering over anyone. He told me, after he noticed it (took him a while, silly man...fell under "I don't notice the small stuff" for him), that he'd never dated any woman taller than him because most would turn him down.
See, when you find the right person, stupid stuff like height ceases to matter. I know a woman who married a midget...literally. Their children were all of normal height. She later developed MS and ended up in a wheelchair. Yes, she was still taller than him, but who cared?
The right one will someday come along for whom stupid things aren't an issue.
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I know I said thanks, I didn't expect such good and down to earth responses, Thanks again.
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mastic55: What was I thinking coming on here looking for someone.I been here a long time and nothing, thats a good thing, I live check to check and really have nothing to offer, my life is in turmoil everyday, I see some profiles and they really got it going on, they have it made, like a new caddy in a used car lot, and they are looking, what chance do I have , reality sets inn.In stead of coming here I should have had a V-8.
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mastic55: I know I said thanks, I didn't expect such good and down to earth responses, Thanks again.
Mastic, you're worth dating. Honestly. We all are...we just all have to find the right one. They're out there, somewhere, if we give them a chance to find us.
Btw, in case you haven't figured it out yet, we all feel this way at times. I've been having one of those days, too.
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druidess6308: You know, my late husband was 5'5"...I'm 5'7". I knew he was a little shorter than me before we started dating, but it had ceased to matter because I'd fallen in love with the soul looking out of those eyes. Since I can't wear heels, I don't have to worry about towering over anyone. He told me, after he noticed it (took him a while, silly man...fell under "I don't notice the small stuff" for him), that he'd never dated any woman taller than him because most would turn him down.
See, when you find the right person, stupid stuff like height ceases to matter. I know a woman who married a midget...literally. Their children were all of normal height. She later developed MS and ended up in a wheelchair. Yes, she was still taller than him, but who cared?
The right one will someday come along for whom stupid things aren't an issue.
See, when you find the right person, stupid stuff like height ceases to matter. I know a woman who married a midget...literally. Their children were all of normal height. She later developed MS and ended up in a wheelchair. Yes, she was still taller than him, but who cared?
The right one will someday come along for whom stupid things aren't an issue.
I've lived long enough with the platitudes to know that I won't find what I'm looking for, she, if she exists, will find me. I'm just me. Undatable or not, I still have worth, and despite my height, I'm one of the greatest multi-talents of my generation. Not bragging really, I've just never made any real effort to make my artwork, music, or writing commercial and thus, famous. I know my faults, but after almost 40 years, I also know my strengths, and I sometimes do feel like a modern Cyrano.
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Forget the height issue man....some of the most brilliant ,influential men in history have been short...think Napoleon..Picasso.....it's a bigger deal for you, than for the woman around you, I bet...Being 5'7" is not a disability...
Galactic_bodhi: I've lived long enough with the platitudes to know that I won't find what I'm looking for, she, if she exists, will find me. I'm just me. Undatable or not, I still have worth, and despite my height, I'm one of the greatest multi-talents of my generation. Not bragging really, I've just never made any real effort to make my artwork, music, or writing commercial and thus, famous. I know my faults, but after almost 40 years, I also know my strengths, and I sometimes do feel like a modern Cyrano.
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Lagoona22: Forget the height issue man....some of the most brilliant ,influential men in history have been short...think Napoleon..Picasso.....it's a bigger deal for you, than for the woman around you, I bet...Being 5'7" is not a disability...
Only when I can't reach the cupboard...
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Galactic_bodhi: I've lived long enough with the platitudes to know that I won't find what I'm looking for, she, if she exists, will find me. I'm just me. Undatable or not, I still have worth, and despite my height, I'm one of the greatest multi-talents of my generation. Not bragging really, I've just never made any real effort to make my artwork, music, or writing commercial and thus, famous. I know my faults, but after almost 40 years, I also know my strengths, and I sometimes do feel like a modern Cyrano.
I'm glad you know your worths and your strengths. I hope every other man on here does, too, 'cuz I've met a lot of great men on here.
Unfortunately, none of them live close enough to me for me to give them serious consideration, even if there was a mutual attraction. I'm tied here by my kids for at least 5 more years.
I've met a lot of great women on here too. And seen a lot of success stories. So...it happens, and it happens here a lot.
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Galactic_bodhi: Only when I can't reach the cupboard...
Step stools. They make step stools for that.
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Galactic_bodhi: Only when I can't reach the cupboard...
GB...your wisdom and talent makes you a giant in my eyes....
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get a tall girlfriend...problem solved...
Galactic_bodhi: Only when I can't reach the cupboard...
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mbcasey: GB...your wisdom and talent makes you a giant in my eyes....
Gee, thanks, casey...
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Hi there,
Your not alone......how would you like to be 61-1/2 and still dating. It's really difficult, but it's better than nothing. My friends say I'm a good looking gal, but, I meet guys that are fatter, and lie about how tall they are, go figure. I don't like liars, and I don't do it myself. But, don't give up, I'm sure there is a lovely girl out there looking for you too!