An unexpected yet wonderful surprise (25)
twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 PostsI got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
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So do you want to take it to the next level again and be together or you just want to see your daughter again..and you are not able to
unless you see him..
Hun you do what you think is best..
but pls be careful
unless you see him..
Hun you do what you think is best..
but pls be careful
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All my friends have asked me if he and I are going to get back together. We were really young when we were together. I was 20 and he was 24. We have both matured and are completely different people. Our relationship is that of parents. We haven't discussed the possibility of us becoming more than what we are now.
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twinkles1994: All my friends have asked me if he and I are going to get back together. We were really young when we were together. I was 20 and he was 24. We have both matured and are completely different people. Our relationship is that of parents. We haven't discussed the possibility of us becoming more than what we are now.
All the best to you anyway hun..in whatever happens
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Hi, happy to hear this. 
Isn't there a way you can arrange to have joint custody for her?
Isn't there a way you can arrange to have joint custody for her?
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lusciousmile: Hi, happy to hear this. Isn't there a way you can arrange to have joint custody for her?
His ex wife adopted her so no. It's not making her happy that my ex is allowing our daughter contact with me and trying to re-establish a relationship. He has informed her that whether she likes it or not Anna has 2 moms!
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twinkles1994: I got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
HiThat's Brilliant news twinkles.............I'm so glad for you.
Its an opportunity you Just cannot afford to turn down........
Your child will always be your child no matter what your ex does...........
I wish you well.
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vinny1967: Hi
That's Brilliant news twinkles.............I'm so glad for you.
Its an opportunity you Just cannot afford to turn down........
Your child will always be your child no matter what your ex does...........
I wish you well.
That's Brilliant news twinkles.............I'm so glad for you.
Its an opportunity you Just cannot afford to turn down........
Your child will always be your child no matter what your ex does...........
I wish you well.
Thank you! I would regret for the rest of my life not doing this. I think I got the best christmas present of a lifetime!
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twinkles1994: Thank you! I would regret for the rest of my life not doing this. I think I got the best christmas present of a lifetime!
Very happy for you...good luck
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Such wonderful news I wish you well...
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twinkles1994: I got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
Twinkles
This is just fabulous news.
Now, my girl, you have a chance here to build a future with your daughter...
I had my children taken you know, I will not go into details here, they were taken from the country, so I can relate to this.
Mine are recovered now, very much so, with love time and patience.
You are the parent, you need to do that with her.
Give her time, she was alientated against you, you need to be calm and guide her, as only a mother can...
I wish you the very best of luck and if you need any help, do please mail me, I have worked with this for many years, rebonding of alienating children and parents.
I wish you both the love and happiness that only a mother and daughter deserve.
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twinkles1994: His ex wife adopted her so no. It's not making her happy that my ex is allowing our daughter contact with me and trying to re-establish a relationship. He has informed her that whether she likes it or not Anna has 2 moms!
I think I understand a little what you are saying. We were told that we would see the kids, but we never got to because a woman , no relative of theirs, shut us out. Now the kids are fully grown adults, and I tell you to reestablish a relationship isn't ever going to be easy , but we are certainly trying.
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twinkles1994: I got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
I wish you only good things with this. Make it happen and I hope everything turns out okay.
I know I don't know you, but this story saddened me. I'm so sorry that you had to make that sacrifice for you daughter. ANd that you have not seen your daughter in years....
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lusciousmile: Hi, happy to hear this. Isn't there a way you can arrange to have joint custody for her?
Hi Lusc
This is a good question.
However, I know alot about Family Law.
ANd whilst many people think it is something that is easy, it is not.
But you raise a great point, that I spent many years fighting for.
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I am SSSOOOOO HAAAAPPPPPYYYYYY For YOU!!!!! It is definitely worth the risk. It sounds as though your ex has grown as well. I'm sorry you lost all that time with her. But So happy you are now being given the gift of a relationship with your daughter. 
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twinkles1994: I got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
Oh, Sweetie.
What a blessing to get the opportunity to hear her voice, and to be having a chance to see her again. I totally understand why you did what you did, and please make sure that you explain that to her, too. I gave my ex custody of our sons because he threatened to kidnap them and disappear if I got custody...and I didn't want to only see their faces on milk cartons for the rest of my life. I know what it's like to give up custody to do the best by your children. Yes, I've gotten to watch mine grow up and be a part of their lives, so it's not exactly the same...but believe me, he's used it against me and not let them see me at times, just to prove that he's in control.
I'm so happy for you that her dad is letting you two get to see each other again. Take pleasure in the moment, and that she asked for this.
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I'm just happy that her father and I can finally be what I always wanted to be with him. That's parents that work together for our daughter and not against each other.
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twinkles1994: I'm just happy that her father and I can finally be what I always wanted to be with him. That's parents that work together for our daughter and not against each other.
Great to hear darlin....Just in time for Christmas...What a nice present.....
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twinkles1994: I got an unexpected surprise a few days ago. My ex who has had my daughter Anna for the last 8 years contacted me through myspace. I hadn't seen her since she was 2. I was in an abusive marriage at the time and gave her father custody. It was the only way I felt I could protect her. Well as soon as I did that I wasn't allowed to see her. The woman he was with at the time made sure of that. Well he sent me a message because my daughter wanted to meet me. He and I have been talking and last night I heard my daughter's voice for the first time in 8 years. It was so hard for me to not start crying on the spot. It was the most beautiful sound in the world to me. He and I are working towards an eventual meeting. My family is worried that I'll be hurt again. They are afraid that I'll start rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and then he will take her away again. I realize that it's a definite risk, but it's one I have to take.
That is great! I wish you the best.
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Remember what i said to you
Best of luck to you Girl
Best of luck to you Girl
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