The perfect relationship just doesn't exist. (56)
nomindgamesPainesville, Ohio USA168 Threads 1 Polls 3,154 PostsAsk any couple married 50 yrs. or more.They will tell you,it takes work to keep it together.Many say perfect partner but I think they really mean someone they can enjoy being with,share interests and goals.Does anyone here think they will find perfect?Were humans,some a better match than another.I know my faults and I work on them.I will share my badside before I would accept a proposal and expect him to do the same.
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Do you realize the term "perfect" is a human invention.
Nature is not perfect, yet it's charming.
"perfect"... It's a fluffy ideal, helping us to aspire to some mythical concept of Nirvana. It's supposed to make reality easier to bear, even as it leaves many disillusioned and emotionally stunted.
Back on Earth where reality is king... perfection is a pipe dream, a facade, about as useful as hanging a bed sheet over a missing front door. If you squint your eyes just right, you can allllllllmost believe it's the real thing.
For some completely bizarre reason, people have come to desire and expect "perfection".
There is a saying... if everything was perfect, I'd have to kill myself from the boredom of it.
Instead, why can't more people(credit goes to those who DO...) look forward to the learning process, to the exchanges and memories they will make. If it's a good one, laugh and cherish that joy. If it's embarrassing, get over it with the knowledge one day you will be able to laugh about it. Let anger go, practice forgiveness & master agreeing to disagree.
If all else fails, simply live and learn.
You are only as damaged as you choose to be...
and it's only as heart wrenching as you let it be.
My perfect relationship?
That would be the one you least expect, you most want, and get the most memories out of... regardless of how it ends.
Nature is not perfect, yet it's charming.
"perfect"... It's a fluffy ideal, helping us to aspire to some mythical concept of Nirvana. It's supposed to make reality easier to bear, even as it leaves many disillusioned and emotionally stunted.
Back on Earth where reality is king... perfection is a pipe dream, a facade, about as useful as hanging a bed sheet over a missing front door. If you squint your eyes just right, you can allllllllmost believe it's the real thing.
For some completely bizarre reason, people have come to desire and expect "perfection".
There is a saying... if everything was perfect, I'd have to kill myself from the boredom of it.
Instead, why can't more people(credit goes to those who DO...) look forward to the learning process, to the exchanges and memories they will make. If it's a good one, laugh and cherish that joy. If it's embarrassing, get over it with the knowledge one day you will be able to laugh about it. Let anger go, practice forgiveness & master agreeing to disagree.
If all else fails, simply live and learn.
You are only as damaged as you choose to be...
and it's only as heart wrenching as you let it be.
My perfect relationship?
That would be the one you least expect, you most want, and get the most memories out of... regardless of how it ends.
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There is no perfect man, or woman, or relationship...........
no exist charming prince or princess
once a friend asked me why i have not got married, I told him "i am waiting for the perfect man", he answer....." there is not perfect man, you make him perfect!!"
we do not have control in the 10% of the things we live everyday, but still having the control on the rest 90%....
so, we dicide if we make things work in the right way..... think so
no exist charming prince or princess
once a friend asked me why i have not got married, I told him "i am waiting for the perfect man", he answer....." there is not perfect man, you make him perfect!!"
we do not have control in the 10% of the things we live everyday, but still having the control on the rest 90%....
so, we dicide if we make things work in the right way..... think so
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OH yes it does..... I have several "perfect" relationships..
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kerm1t:
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
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don't say that?
what I might find perfect for me might not even look approachable to being a quarter of ok to someone else
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kerm1t: Having just finished with my divorce, yes I was the dumpee, not dumper, it occurs to me that people need a bit of a reality check.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.
Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.
During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.
Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.
We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.
So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.
Now, feel free to tear me apart.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.
Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.
During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.
Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.
We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.
So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.
Now, feel free to tear me apart.
No, you are right it does not.
Not the relationship, it is the people.
I have a man that is perfect for me, I am for him.
That makes us perfect for each other.
You are attaching too much on what your ex wife did.
And calling people 'average' is a way of showing some esteem issues.
There is not one average person here, daft, ignorant, painful, beautiful, charming and gorgeous, average?
No.
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HJFinAZ: OH yes it does..... I have several "perfect" relationships..
that's hope
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mexikanska: There is no perfect man, or woman, or relationship...........
no exist charming prince or princess
once a friend asked me why i have not got married, I told him "i am waiting for the perfect man", he answer....." there is not perfect man, you make him perfect!!"
we do not have control in the 10% of the things we live everyday, but still having the control on the rest 90%....
so, we dicide if we make things work in the right way..... think so
no exist charming prince or princess
once a friend asked me why i have not got married, I told him "i am waiting for the perfect man", he answer....." there is not perfect man, you make him perfect!!"
we do not have control in the 10% of the things we live everyday, but still having the control on the rest 90%....
so, we dicide if we make things work in the right way..... think so
Being what and where I am in life today, a few people have asked my why I am not married or in a "relationship" again. I tell them to look around at those that are.
Bring me a woman that is "available", mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and I will consider it. Tell then..
Personally, I think we only have about 10% control and the other 90% we simply need to "turn it over"..
I always like to tell people, "if you think you have control, try it the next time you have Diarrhea".
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kerm1t: Having just finished with my divorce, yes I was the dumpee, not dumper, it occurs to me that people need a bit of a reality check.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.
Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.
During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.
Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.
We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.
So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.
Now, feel free to tear me apart.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.
Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.
During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.
Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.
We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.
So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.
Now, feel free to tear me apart.
I understand and agree with everything you've written. There's someone in my life that I'm falling deeply in love with and instead of just being giddy and infatuated and then disappointed I'm trying to be realistic from the beginning. It's a completely different approach to relationships for me.
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kerm1t: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
I would like to use this emot here (
) but since that would be very nasty considering your situation, I will just 
you and tell you that even if perfect do no happen easy, near perfect is wonderful, and do happen.
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mbcasey: I believe I have found the perfect woman for me. Karen is the most loving and compassionate women I have ever been with. She understands me and takes the time to let me know she will be there for me when I need her. She also fulfills all other criteria as far as a perfect woman for me!!
I will do my best to make our relationship as happy and healthy as it can be. I want to give Karen the love and respect she has given me. Maybe we are not perfect and the relationship may not be perfect, but it will be as darn close to it as possible!! Karen wants to work at that goal and so do I. I think that is the key...keep working towards love and happiness...and that to me is perfect!!
I love you Karen!!
I will do my best to make our relationship as happy and healthy as it can be. I want to give Karen the love and respect she has given me. Maybe we are not perfect and the relationship may not be perfect, but it will be as darn close to it as possible!! Karen wants to work at that goal and so do I. I think that is the key...keep working towards love and happiness...and that to me is perfect!!
I love you Karen!!
Awe
I love you Ken! I love you perfectly! I completely adore you and love you to death! I am all yours as long as you'll have me.
I know we'll be a happy and loving family!
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IMHO
I am lookin for someone perfect and I BELIEVE I will find it.
She will have faults.
She will have habits I dislike.
But I will tolerate them because of what I will get out of the relationship and she will tolerate mine
because I will be giving, all of me, and not just the parts she likes.
What's Imperfect in one persons eyes can be perfect to someone else.
Hope..................I will never settle for less than perfect to me.
I am lookin for someone perfect and I BELIEVE I will find it.
She will have faults.
She will have habits I dislike.
But I will tolerate them because of what I will get out of the relationship and she will tolerate mine
because I will be giving, all of me, and not just the parts she likes.
What's Imperfect in one persons eyes can be perfect to someone else.
Hope..................I will never settle for less than perfect to me.
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vinny1967: IMHO
I am lookin for someone perfect and I BELIEVE I will find it.
She will have faults.
She will have habits I dislike.
But I will tolerate them because of what I will get out of the relationship and she will tolerate mine
because I will be giving, all of me, and not just the parts she likes.
What's Imperfect in one persons eyes can be perfect to someone else.
Hope..................I will never settle for less than perfect to me.
I am lookin for someone perfect and I BELIEVE I will find it.
She will have faults.
She will have habits I dislike.
But I will tolerate them because of what I will get out of the relationship and she will tolerate mine
because I will be giving, all of me, and not just the parts she likes.
What's Imperfect in one persons eyes can be perfect to someone else.
Hope..................I will never settle for less than perfect to me.
I agree Vin....and we shouldn't settle for someone who is less than perfect for us....
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Ta Huz,
Luv ya
Luv ya
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vinny1967: Ta Huz,
Luv ya
Luv ya
Ta Vin...Luv ya too.....
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Some AWESOME replies here to this thread! And I agree with the majority so far.
Merky
Merky
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cristina: Have a nice job and don't cheat!
Is this being too demanding?
Is this being too demanding?
Yes definitely too high of expectations.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I agree Vin....and we shouldn't settle for someone who is less than perfect for us....
Such mushiness flowing through these threads today. Yek lol.
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Dawn7z: Such mushiness flowing through these threads today. Yek lol.
Jesus I'm serious for once and look what happens.................
How r u Dawn
Good to c ya
Are you perfect
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vinny1967: Jesus I'm serious for once and look what happens.................
How r u Dawn
Good to c ya
Are you perfect
How r u Dawn
Good to c ya
Are you perfect
Nice to see you too Vinny.
Of course I am perfect
Perfectly barmy (is that a word) lol
Have a lovely day just couldn't resist it everyone was being too nice on this thread especially Hugz.
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