The perfect relationship just doesn't exist. ( Archived) (56)

Having just finished with my divorce, yes I was the dumpee, not dumper, it occurs to me that people need a bit of a reality check.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.

Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.

Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.

During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.

Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.

We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.

So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.

Now, feel free to tear me apart.

I still want the right guy, not anyone 'just close'.

You're right...nobody is perfect. And obviously your ex-wife was very immature. Nobody can expect their spouse to be like a character on TV...in real life, we don't have writers creating us and our words.

No...there's no Mr/Mrs Perfect...but there's close enough to perfect for me.

And yes, we all have pasts at this point in our lives, especially if we're past our twenties...but if we've learned and grown from the mistakes, and can still laugh at the good and funny times along the way (and even at some of those mistakes), and we've remained positive...then we're not damaged. We're stronger and better than we were when we were younger, with more to offer our partner.

There are no perfect people or relationships no...but there is perfect for me and our relationship will be what we choose to make of it...when that man enters my life that is.........I won't settle for close enough anymore...been there done that....I would rather stay single than end up in another unhealthy relationship....

Well, as for the ex, she pretty much admitted that she only married me for my ability to father a child. That happened today while I was doing my weekly video chat with my 15 month old.

She lived through the tv basically.

She was probably just saying it, to hurt you.

I'm not going to tear you apart or read the entire thread...But on your point about the perfect relationship..gotta disagree..my grandparents were married for the best part of 65 years until the died..ANd my Parents have been married for the best part of 44years and still told hands..I don't know about the rest of you good folk here but they are my bench marks.....