Ladies if you had a choice (76)
sassy49senior: I was married 36 years. After 4 years of being alone I
rushed into a relationship that I truly thought would
be forever. Was only 2 years. I think it is at my age
difficult to find someone willing to commit for a life
time. Granted there are no guarantees, but I will never
go into a relationship with an attitude of I will give
it a try if it does not work I can always leave. No way,
for me it is this face you will be waking up to every
morning. Might not be gorgeous but I will sure have a
smile and a kiss to help you start your day. (JMO)
rushed into a relationship that I truly thought would
be forever. Was only 2 years. I think it is at my age
difficult to find someone willing to commit for a life
time. Granted there are no guarantees, but I will never
go into a relationship with an attitude of I will give
it a try if it does not work I can always leave. No way,
for me it is this face you will be waking up to every
morning. Might not be gorgeous but I will sure have a
smile and a kiss to help you start your day. (JMO)
Sassy, do you want a person to commit to you? For the rest of your days?
Is it not something that will come with time?
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Sommerauer71: Sassy, do you want a person to commit to you? For the rest of your days?
Is it not something that will come with time?
Is it not something that will come with time?
Honey I know where you are coming from. Yes, I do want
someone that will committ forever and it usually does
get better with time. Like I said there are no guarantees
but for me he has to be willing to committ.
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sassy49senior: I was married 36 years. After 4 years of being alone I
rushed into a relationship that I truly thought would
be forever. Was only 2 years. I think it is at my age
difficult to find someone willing to commit for a life
time. Granted there are no guarantees, but I will never
go into a relationship with an attitude of I will give
it a try if it does not work I can always leave. No way,
for me it is this face you will be waking up to every
morning. Might not be gorgeous but I will sure have a
smile and a kiss to help you start your day. (JMO)
rushed into a relationship that I truly thought would
be forever. Was only 2 years. I think it is at my age
difficult to find someone willing to commit for a life
time. Granted there are no guarantees, but I will never
go into a relationship with an attitude of I will give
it a try if it does not work I can always leave. No way,
for me it is this face you will be waking up to every
morning. Might not be gorgeous but I will sure have a
smile and a kiss to help you start your day. (JMO)
Sassy I think it is hard at any age nowdays to find someone to commit as for me sometimes think I was born in the wrong century..lol..Not all but alot of couples think when they have a disagreement it's ok to run out and cheat on there spouse or not try and talk things out...I stayed in a bad relationship for 20 years because I always thought that you should try and make it work or that things would change--boy was I wrong
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tina_olson: Sassy I think it is hard at any age nowdays to find someone to commit as for me sometimes think I was born in the wrong century..lol..Not all but alot of couples think when they have a disagreement it's ok to run out and cheat on there spouse or not try and talk things out...I stayed in a bad relationship for 20 years because I always thought that you should try and make it work or that things would change--boy was I wrong
What happened in your relationship was in no way your fault. You should be proud of holding onto your principles concerning your marriage vows. You are right...too many people just run away and do not try to work on the problems in a marriage.
You tried very hard but your husband didn't. It is his fault and his loss he couldn't accept his responsibilities to you and your family.
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tina_olson: Sassy I think it is hard at any age nowdays to find someone to commit as for me sometimes think I was born in the wrong century..lol..Not all but alot of couples think when they have a disagreement it's ok to run out and cheat on there spouse or not try and talk things out...I stayed in a bad relationship for 20 years because I always thought that you should try and make it work or that things would change--boy was I wrong
Hi Tina, I have seen that happen so many times, or they
stay for the sake of the kids. Have had family stay with
abusive husbands because they were afraid to leave or
tried to convince themselves he was a real good person
just not when he was drinking. Sorry to hear you stayed
for so long. But now you have grown from your mistakes.
I know in reality I have a very small chance of finding
what I am looking for. but it is better to be alone
and content than to be with someone that makes your life
miserable.
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romanticman4u: Please be honest when answering....if you had a choice between a man who had money but wasn't good at relationships vs A man of lesser means who was really good to his woman which would man would you chose and why?
I'd choose the one with green eyes.
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laura225: I'd choose the one with green eyes.
A Martian?
Hi, laura?
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the second one, money cannot buy you true happiness, rather have someone that genuinely cared about me .
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romanticman4u: Please be honest when answering....if you had a choice between a man who had money but wasn't good at relationships vs A man of lesser means who was really good to his woman which would man would you chose and why?
men with money show no interest in the woman or even notice what she does .. all he is worried about is his damn money .. JMO
men with no money are more fun and he goes out of his way to please the woman with whatever he has and it comes from his heart
cheers for letting me opiniate
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A man of, " lesser means" you cannot by happiness - love and promise is priceless
romanticman4u: Please be honest when answering....if you had a choice between a man who had money but wasn't good at relationships vs A man of lesser means who was really good to his woman which would man would you chose and why?
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lollusciousmile: Not a broke one. I refuse to chose a man because he is broke and 'nice' (??). I guess, it depends on why he is broke in the forst place. If he's lazy, then he's not for me. How can he be really good with his woman, if he can't help provide for his family? Sounds like suicide, getting involved with one of those.
He can call his mama, to take care of his expenses, because i won't.
He can call his mama, to take care of his expenses, because i won't.
Oh hell.........Come on over Doll and we can make love all night on my new Couch!!
I just got it today from salvation Army,
and a chair that don't match from the curb, I just can't believe that anyone would throw out a perfectly good chair just because their dog chewed off one leg.. isnt that what a dictionary is for!!
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easy one to answer the one good at realationships cause money cant buy real love.
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The guy who was good to me, obviously. That's like a rich guy who cheats or a man not so well off who'd be loyal always...i'd never pick the money over it, as I wouldn't ever truly be happy.
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tina_olson: Sassy I think it is hard at any age nowdays to find someone to commit as for me sometimes think I was born in the wrong century..lol..Not all but alot of couples think when they have a disagreement it's ok to run out and cheat on there spouse or not try and talk things out...I stayed in a bad relationship for 20 years because I always thought that you should try and make it work or that things would change--boy was I wrong
And it seems every decade to be getting ever more lax,
So many Parents just don't care for their kids at all, then those kids have absolutely no parenting skills, then these kids have kids...worse and worse. POOR KIDS (and I dont mean $$).
I have see so many that say "my kids are my life"
Then Daddy gos to prison, Mommy parties nonstop and cant get the crack pipe out of her hand and the kids end up in foster homes or killed.
Then people say it is better to split than to hear the parents argue a lot?? WTH!
go figure.... don't let them hear Mommy and Daddy argue..but it is ok to let them live in a crackhouse
I have always said that I should have been born in the horse and buggy days!
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this is easy to answer!!!!!!
ITS CALLED A 50-50 RELATIONSHIP, WHAT EVER YOU HAVE, THEY HAVE, WHAT EVER THEY HAVE YOU HAVE, SIMPLE!!! CANT GO WRONG...
WE TALK ABOUT WHATS FAIR AND NOT FAIR IN RELATIONSHIPS, BUT WE ARE ALL LOOKING FOR A 50-50 SPLIT IN ANY RELATIONSHIPS...
THIS IS CALLED RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER, AND IF IT STARTS LIKE THIS, CHANCES ARE IT LAST LIKE THIS AS WELL, AS ONE WOULD NEVER DO SOMETHING THE OTHER WONT DO....
START ON LEVEL GROUND...
ITS CALLED A 50-50 RELATIONSHIP, WHAT EVER YOU HAVE, THEY HAVE, WHAT EVER THEY HAVE YOU HAVE, SIMPLE!!! CANT GO WRONG...
WE TALK ABOUT WHATS FAIR AND NOT FAIR IN RELATIONSHIPS, BUT WE ARE ALL LOOKING FOR A 50-50 SPLIT IN ANY RELATIONSHIPS...
THIS IS CALLED RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER, AND IF IT STARTS LIKE THIS, CHANCES ARE IT LAST LIKE THIS AS WELL, AS ONE WOULD NEVER DO SOMETHING THE OTHER WONT DO....
START ON LEVEL GROUND...
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Takes some of both.
Got to have $$ to survive.
So, I would have to say... as long as she treats me right and doesn't expect a free ride
Got to have $$ to survive.
So, I would have to say... as long as she treats me right and doesn't expect a free ride
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Sommerauer71: But, there can be money and a great relationship combined...
So I cannot answer, because there is no answer for me.
Money, I need, so I go and make my own, because I have children to support, that is my responsibility.
I am in a relationship and we are both solvent, would I be with him, if he was hugely in debt and had not two pennies to rub together? No, I would not have been attracted to him, because I need and want a person who is financially responsible, has some ethics and morals around paying his bills on time.
I would not be attracted to a person who had masses of debt, I would become frustrated, irritated. I know I would.
That is not to say that I am driven by somebody else's money, I am driven by the fact that I have a home, two, in fact, that I need to keep those up and that I have children to support, that is what drives me. Somebody, who had no financial morals would be a drain on me emotionally.
However, a person that does earn an income and is responsible with it, however much that income is, would attract me, along with the usual things...
Choosing between the two is hard, because you are asking me, a question that I cannot answer directly, only indirectly.
Apparently when I said he made 25,000 and had all insurances did kind of a fly by for you, lets say for aurguement this man did make what I said , this does not make him fiscally irresponcable, he has a job hes paying his bills , the only thing about him is he wasn't born with a sliver spoon in his mouth, a couple can be happy without being rich as this post has proven.So I cannot answer, because there is no answer for me.
Money, I need, so I go and make my own, because I have children to support, that is my responsibility.
I am in a relationship and we are both solvent, would I be with him, if he was hugely in debt and had not two pennies to rub together? No, I would not have been attracted to him, because I need and want a person who is financially responsible, has some ethics and morals around paying his bills on time.
I would not be attracted to a person who had masses of debt, I would become frustrated, irritated. I know I would.
That is not to say that I am driven by somebody else's money, I am driven by the fact that I have a home, two, in fact, that I need to keep those up and that I have children to support, that is what drives me. Somebody, who had no financial morals would be a drain on me emotionally.
However, a person that does earn an income and is responsible with it, however much that income is, would attract me, along with the usual things...
Choosing between the two is hard, because you are asking me, a question that I cannot answer directly, only indirectly.
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I was married 36 years. After 4 years of being alone I
rushed into a relationship that I truly thought would
be forever. Was only 2 years. I think it is at my age
difficult to find someone willing to commit for a life
time. Granted there are no guarantees, but I will never
go into a relationship with an attitude of I will give
it a try if it does not work I can always leave. No way,
for me it is this face you will be waking up to every
morning. Might not be gorgeous but I will sure have a
smile and a kiss to help you start your day. (JMO)